What's more Humiliating?

[alwayssilver]

Here's something I've been wondering about for a while. This is a personal opinion too.

What's more humiliating?

1. Being tickled by a group of people?
2. Being tickled by one person while a group is watching.

I've seen movies featuring both, and was wondering which would be more humiliating to you. Personally it would be tickled by one person while a group is watching.

[isabeau]

hmm i've often fantasized about both of those...both would be humiliating, but make it a public tickling, where there is a huge huge audience..then it would be truly humiliating...

[kilitiinko1]

I`d have to agree that being tickled by one person in front of others would definitely be more humiliating! Although,I think it is something that I would find to be wonderfully humiliating,as long as it was done in a setting among people who wouldn`t destroy me in the community/real world!

Great question! :smilestar

[LeeAllure]

Why is either of those scenarios humiliating?

Laughing in public hardly constitutes embarassing
behaviour (Unless you're at a funeral, perhaps),
and as many people are tickish, I hardly doubt
that the public would be laughing derisively and
pointing saying "wow, how humiliating"

My experience with people being tickled in public
is that, if anything, it causes more laughter and
tickling from those around, as though it were
contageous.

Lee

[venray]

I have been tickled and tickled others in public quite often...

No humiliarion here.....just good old fashioned fun...

[TklDuo-Ann]

Yep. Same here. I dont' find it humiliating at all....until some ninny comes along demanding more cowbell!

[alwayssilver]

Ok, ok... look at it from a different point of view than. What if you didn't like it.

[venray]

Being a 50/50 switch and liking both giving and getting I cannot look at it from another point of view....

One can only use their own mindset as a point of reference......


That is like asking a guy what if you were a woman and a woman what if you were a man....no way to properly answer....

[areenactor]

why i would be embarrassed when i love to be tickled, is still nagging at me, but i think that setting would.

[AffectionateDan]

Personally, I can't identify with the aspect of being tickled in public, but to me it stands to reason that to be humiliating, it would almost need to be a person who would normally be in a superior position over the person tickling them, in other words, a normally large/strong/powerful person being rendered helpless by someone weaker than them who has discovered their ticklish weakness. Or perhaps not physically stronger, but someone who would normally be in a dominant role, such as a subordinate tickling their boss into helplessness. Or, and I hate mentioning it, but it's obviously possible; the chance of being tickled into losing control of one's bodily functions. Ick. Clearly VERY humiliating.

But as most here have already mentioned, they'd love it and not experience any humiliation. Depending on the situation, of course.

[alwayssilver]

Being a 50/50 switch and liking both giving and getting I cannot look at it from another point of view....

One can only use their own mindset as a point of reference......


That is like asking a guy what if you were a woman and a woman what if you were a man....no way to properly answer....

It's not like that at all. And it's pretty narrow minded if you can't look at the question from a different view point. As much as I like tickling I can still look at the subject from the eyes of someone who doesn't. Just because someone loves tickling doesn't mean they are going to enjoy a group of people tickling them, or being tickled in front of a group.


why i would be embarrassed when i love to be tickled, is still nagging at me, but i think that setting would.

I'm asking a question that's based on a situation. If you enjoy being tickled, and are a strong willed person than their will be a situation you'll find humiliating. Like being tickled by a group of people, or being tickled by one person in front of a group. Being bound and helpless, or begging for mercy.

I'm not trying to sound rude or anything, but this really isn't an impossible question to answer. Even if you enjoy tickling the question should be easy to answer.

[venray]

It's not like that at all. And it's pretty narrow minded if you can't look at the question from a different view point. As much as I like tickling I can still look at the subject from the eyes of someone who doesn't. Just because someone loves tickling doesn't mean they are going to enjoy a group of people tickling them, or being tickled in front of a group.





I'm not trying to sound rude or anything, but this really isn't an impossible question to answer. Even if you enjoy tickling the question should be easy to answer.

No...it isnt...I do not look at tickling as a form of torture and would have no base to reference from....

Just because you can does not mean everyone else can......

Unless I know the person I am tickling will enjoy it on some level, then I do not tickle them....

[alwayssilver]

Personally, I can't identify with the aspect of being tickled in public, but to me it stands to reason that to be humiliating, it would almost need to be a person who would normally be in a superior position over the person tickling them, in other words, a normally large/strong/powerful person being rendered helpless by someone weaker than them who has discovered their ticklish weakness. Or perhaps not physically stronger, but someone who would normally be in a dominant role, such as a subordinate tickling their boss into helplessness. Or, and I hate mentioning it, but it's obviously possible; the chance of being tickled into losing control of one's bodily functions. Ick. Clearly VERY humiliating.

But as most here have already mentioned, they'd love it and not experience any humiliation. Depending on the situation, of course.

I agree with the top part, but for the bottom part I have to say thats not the question I was asking. I understand some wouldn't find either scenario humiliating, but I wasn't asking who would or wouldn't find them humiliating. I appreciate the feedback, and at the risk of sounding rude, I only offered 2 choices.

Again thanks!

[venray]

Just because someone loves tickling doesn't mean they are going to enjoy a group of people tickling them, or being tickled in front of a group.




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No it does not mean that, but I can only amswer from my own experiences not yours or someone elses.....I can guess at the answer you seek, but it would not be an accurate asssessment of the situation...

[alwayssilver]

No...it isnt...I do not look at tickling as a form of torture and would have no base to reference from....

Just because you can does not mean everyone else can......

Unless I know the person I am tickling will enjoy it on some level, then I do not tickle them....

It doesn't have to be a personal experience, you can still see it from another point of view regardless if it happened to you or not. And if you can't see it as a form of torture for some, and not others than I'm sorry. But it's still narrow minded to see it from only one point of view, and not others.

[alwayssilver]

No it does not mean that, but I can only amswer from my own experiences not yours or someone elses.....I can guess at the answer you seek, but it would not be an accurate asssessment of the situation...

If you have to guess at a question that's supposed to be personal than you shouldn't try and answer it.

[venray]

If you have to guess at a question that's supposed to be personal than you shouldn't try and answer it.

If it supposed to be personal then I have answered it...if it supposed to be from someone elses view than I cannot....

I have answered you as honestly as I can and will not belabor the point..

You refuse to believe that someone with a love for tickling cant see it as a form of humiliation......therefor it is you that have the narrow POV...

:evilha:

[alwayssilver]

Oh and I'm not saying if you can't answer my question with either option 1 or 2 than don't post. I'm saying their wasn't an option 3. I'm only saying this because I don't want to be fought on the subject.

[alwayssilver]

If it supposed to be personal then I have answered it...if it supposed to be from someone elses view than I cannot....

I have answered you as honestly as I can and will not belabor the point..

You refuse to believe that someone with a love for tickling cant see it as a form of humiliation......therefor it is you that have the narrow POV...

:evilha:

I never said I refuse to believe that. Please don't put words in my mouth.
I know there are people out there who can't see it as a form of humiliation, but as history has proven tickling was used for just that. Like tickling is used by kids as a form of play, as we use it as a form of fetishism. But in all honesty I never asked if anyone didn't find the two scenarios humiliating. I don't have a narrow minded point of view. I can look at it from both angles. People who find it humiliating, and people who don't.

[alwayssilver]

And people who can't see it any other way. I don't want an arguement Ven. You don't find it humiliating, I don't want you guessing at the question, so leave it at that.

[venray]

And people who can't see it any other way. I don't want an arguement Ven. You don't find it humiliating, I don't want you guessing at the question, so leave it at that.

Already have.... :jester:

[alwayssilver]

Don't be upset Venray. It's not a big deal.

[venray]

LOL I am not upset in the least, friend.... :smilestar

[isabeau]

ok let's say the person being tickled by a group of people doesn't want to have it done...a non-consensual kind of scenario...that's what i'm thinking generally for myself...

to be perfectly honest, i've never been tickled by a group of individuals, or in front of a group....sniffs...

[alwayssilver]

LOL I am not upset in the least, friend.... :smilestar

That's good. I'm really not trying to cause any trouble. So if I angered you at all for the whole POV thing than I'm sorry.

[LeeAllure]

Isabeau, you know there's a way to get that
problem taken care of. And then you'd really
know if you found it humiliating, or just loved
it, instead :)

Lee

[isabeau]

Isabeau, you know there's a way to get that
problem taken care of. And then you'd really
know if you found it humiliating, or just loved
it, instead :)

Lee

yes i'm working on that...wish me luck...but it would be consensual tickling...so hmm i might blush and be a bit embarrassed..but humiliating? well hmm not sure since i'm rather shy...yes i am rather shy believe it or not hehe...


in my fantasizes, i always imagine a group of females tickling me with an audience watching...but in my fantasy it's always humiliating because it's non-consensual...and i find that a total turn-on...call me weird..hehe

[venray]

That's good. I'm really not trying to cause any trouble. So if I angered you at all for the whole POV thing than I'm sorry.



Ditto...but remember it is hard to perceive anger by what is written in a post..

You have done nothing to anger me...

To answer Isabeau's scenario.....

I find anything non consensual to be equivalent to assault and would find either case to be equal in humiliation for lack of a better word.....

[isabeau]

it is a fantasy Ray nothing more for me...of course in reality, it would be assault...but in a fantasy, i always imagine non-consensual..it's a major turnon for me...don't ask me why...but in reality? nope, i'm far too modest and shy for that...i am..really i am shy....i am hehe

[alwayssilver]

[QUOTE=venray]Ditto...but remember it is hard to perceive anger by what is written in a post..

You have done nothing to anger me...[QUOTE]

True. Well I'm glad anyways.

[aun_existe_amor]

My Bob is a lee and he would find it humiliating to either be tickled with a group of people watching or be tickled by a group of people unless it was something he had agreed to before and he knew that the group of people were into tickling too. He hates to be tickled in public anyway. He doesn't like people to know his weaknesses. He is a lee but he is very dominant in all other aspects of his life. Of course me being me I have to tease him in public with a quick knee squeeze or poke in his ribs :D

I have met one and chatted with a few people who like to be humiliated either through being tickled or through other things, and me being me I like to oblige :D

[jk666uk]

its got to be number 2

[kilitiinko1]

My Bob is a lee and he would find it humiliating to either be tickled with a group of people watching or be tickled by a group of people unless it was something he had agreed to before and he knew that the group of people were into tickling too. He hates to be tickled in public anyway. He doesn't like people to know his weaknesses. He is a lee but he is very dominant in all other aspects of his life. Of course me being me I have to tease him in public with a quick knee squeeze or poke in his ribs :D

I have met one and chatted with a few people who like to be humiliated either through being tickled or through other things, and me being me I like to oblige :D

I would have to agree with Aun.Being dominant in all other aspects of life,I personally would find it humiliating to lose control in front of a group of people such as peers or friends not into tickling or even strangers.I think it has to do mainly with the loss of control,and not knowing exactly how you would react.Let`s face it,as a `lee,I know that different ticklers can bring about different reactions,depending on their techniques.To lose control like that,in front of others not so like minded,to me would be quite humiliating.On the other hand,I do love submitting to my tickler,and being worked over by her in front of others who are into tickling would be quite a thrill.I just wouldn`t want it to be in a situation where it could ruin my job or standing within the community.

And,yes,I do enjoy a bit of humiliation play,but again,only with like-minded people. :p

[drew70]

I wouldn't find either scenario humiliating at all. So, to answer your question, I'd say "none of the above." ;)

[minerva]

For me it would definitely be being tickled by one person while a group is watching :eek:

[milagros317]

I would find either fun, not humiliating, as long as the Lers were known to me and had my consent. :D

[WheresThe Clip?]

...call me weird..hehe

You're weird :whip:

[gawynn]

I think that bot would be humiliating but the audiance would be moreso

[ticklesenseless]

Definitely tickled by one person in public. Especially, when you don't know who could walk by and see you out of control. As a guy, there is a public image that must be maintained.

[sabaki]

It's not so much about consent as about loss of control. Being tickled makes you blush, sweat, tear up, and might get juices running in other ways. And also in other other ways. Your clothes ride up, your hair gets disheveled, people tease you... I think it's pretty natural for some or all of those to humiliate you. If not, then perhaps you're the sort who can't be embarrassed by anything physical.

I have to side with the people who say being tickled by one person in front of many onlookers is the worst. You're being exhibited to everyone. But if everyone participates, they'll be laughing along with you.

[huskys]

Definitely in front of a group, especially if you didn't know them, because there would be more people to see me laugh, beg, sweat, etc!!! :xpeepsofa

[isabeau]

You're weird :whip:

well thank you so much lol...

hmm now what i would find humiliating...in person and in real life, would be tickled by a group of people and have an accident..if you know what i mean..the word tinkle comes to mind..hehe..

[EvenSteven]

For me, it is more humiliating to be tickled by one person with a group watching. The reason is because if there is one Woman tickling me, and everyone can see that i am unbound and allowing Her to do it, then i am publicly displaying my submissiveness to Her. This happened to me in college. i was at my gf's apartment and She tickled me in front of Her roommates. i was so surprised at Her nerve that i didn't know what to do. Her roommates were really grinning at me and laughing because of my predicament. They could see how much control my gf had over me. This really enhanced the sensation. i was super-aroused and from then on, She knew that She could tickle me anywhere and i had to endure it.

[tklmaestro]

I haven't done either, but there's always a first

[Feathery]

How about being tickled to the point of forced urination in front of the General Assembly at the United Nations... and televised. Ummmm... then again, that might be not so bad... it would be carried on C-Span, and therefore, no one would see it.

[indivision]

Honestly, unless I knew all the people around me and was comfortable with them knowing about my tickling fixation, I would probably find both kind of humiliating. There are two main reasons for this. First, I am still quite secretive about my tickle fetish. I admire those who have been able to be open about their fetishes; and who knows, maybe someday I will be able to be like them. But as of right now, I can't seem to take it out from under my hat. And I may never be able to. And the reason for that brings me to my second reason for finding both mentioned scenarios uneasy. This reason is that I am quite the introvert. I normally don't like to draw a lot of excess attention to myself. That is not to say that I am a recluse who doesn't enjoy having friends or socializing or even getting a little crazy every now and then. Instead, it just means that I tend to prefer to blend in. It's just my nature, my personality.

So...it seems that I am one of the few who would actually not enjoy being tickled in public.