I'm reading David Deida's "The way of the superior man" a spiritual guide to mastering the challenges of women, work and sexual desire. While reading I noted some things that could be related to the tickle fetish.
In Chapt 35 "You (men/masculine) are always looking for freedom. He describes the masculine(women can be masculine too but most men) as always looking for freedom. The void.
"the essential masculine ecstasy is in the moment of release from constraint. This could occur when facing death and living through it, succeeding in (and thus being released from ) your purpose, and in competition(which is the ritual threat of death). The masculine is always seeking release from constraint into freedom. The feminine often doesn't understand these masculine ways and needs" Deida 126
Huh? I never thought about it that way!?! So what does that mean? He explains numerous examples of how our masculine loves freedom. His first example is male orgasm, there is a build up of tension, fantasizing about your woman and what you want to do to her ...the longer the build up the better the resulting orgasm....and ahhh. Freedom of that tension. No more desire. You or your guy just is. Doesn't want to talk/cuddle ect he just wants to revel in his freedom.
Next example is sports. Usually it's an offense trying to overcome a defense to get to freedom. Extreme excitement is a result. Think kick off returner once he breaks a few tackles to get into the open field. The more broken tackles the better he and everyone who is watching at home gets.
I'm getting to the tickle part soon..
In chapt 36 he begins the chapt by asking "When was the last time you really ravaged your woman?" "That is, when was the last time you really took her savagely, lovingly with inhibition whatsoever?" He then goes on to say that most men do not do this, yet they have a deep desire to. They suppress this desire for numerous reasons: insecurities, fear, social conditioning( i'm sure you can come up with more, these are/were mine). As a result this desire to ravage his woman is buried deep within the psyche disconnected with the heart.
The difference between rape and ravishment is love.
The desire to ravage goes along with the masculine desire for freedom above. "the desire to ravish is the desire to break through a woman's resistances to open her heart and body to ecstatic loving. Not being fully in touch with this part of our masculine makes us try to realize it in different ways...
Tickling can be loving....but anyone ever tickle someone that hated it. Here the masculine is trying to open up the ticklee's body to physical touch to elicit laughter and joy. He is dominant and the lee surrenders herself to him. Not without a play fight/wrestling match but eventually she gives up to his tickling and just takes it. This is the moment of ecstasy for the tickler...the getting past her defenses and having his way.
Any thoughts on my theory? Basically it's far more psychological than physical. I'll talk about why ticklee's love tickling in a bit based on Deida.
GQ
In Chapt 35 "You (men/masculine) are always looking for freedom. He describes the masculine(women can be masculine too but most men) as always looking for freedom. The void.
"the essential masculine ecstasy is in the moment of release from constraint. This could occur when facing death and living through it, succeeding in (and thus being released from ) your purpose, and in competition(which is the ritual threat of death). The masculine is always seeking release from constraint into freedom. The feminine often doesn't understand these masculine ways and needs" Deida 126
Huh? I never thought about it that way!?! So what does that mean? He explains numerous examples of how our masculine loves freedom. His first example is male orgasm, there is a build up of tension, fantasizing about your woman and what you want to do to her ...the longer the build up the better the resulting orgasm....and ahhh. Freedom of that tension. No more desire. You or your guy just is. Doesn't want to talk/cuddle ect he just wants to revel in his freedom.
Next example is sports. Usually it's an offense trying to overcome a defense to get to freedom. Extreme excitement is a result. Think kick off returner once he breaks a few tackles to get into the open field. The more broken tackles the better he and everyone who is watching at home gets.
I'm getting to the tickle part soon..
In chapt 36 he begins the chapt by asking "When was the last time you really ravaged your woman?" "That is, when was the last time you really took her savagely, lovingly with inhibition whatsoever?" He then goes on to say that most men do not do this, yet they have a deep desire to. They suppress this desire for numerous reasons: insecurities, fear, social conditioning( i'm sure you can come up with more, these are/were mine). As a result this desire to ravage his woman is buried deep within the psyche disconnected with the heart.
The difference between rape and ravishment is love.
The desire to ravage goes along with the masculine desire for freedom above. "the desire to ravish is the desire to break through a woman's resistances to open her heart and body to ecstatic loving. Not being fully in touch with this part of our masculine makes us try to realize it in different ways...
Tickling can be loving....but anyone ever tickle someone that hated it. Here the masculine is trying to open up the ticklee's body to physical touch to elicit laughter and joy. He is dominant and the lee surrenders herself to him. Not without a play fight/wrestling match but eventually she gives up to his tickling and just takes it. This is the moment of ecstasy for the tickler...the getting past her defenses and having his way.
Any thoughts on my theory? Basically it's far more psychological than physical. I'll talk about why ticklee's love tickling in a bit based on Deida.
GQ