View Full Version : How to approach the Subject of Tickling?
07-06-2001, 08:33 PM
Sorry, this may be an old question, but being a newbie, I thought I would resurrect it.
When talling to a person you find attractive (and knowing just HOW our evil little minds work), how have YOU brought the topic of tickling up to see if there is any interest from that person? Sly hints? An innocent poke in the ribs at an appropriate time? Billboard ads?
Enquiring minds want to know...and I am sure it might be fun to share some success (or failure) stories here.
Thanks for humoring me...
07-06-2001, 11:38 PM
If I find the person attractive, AND I'm able to spend some time talking to them, and find them interesting as well, then I might invest time in getting to know the person... and in time, when sexual things come up, I'll be forward about my likes. Honesty has always worked best in my life when it comes to issues like this.
07-07-2001, 09:59 PM
Ah, yes, this has to be the most difficult task that most of us have to undertake in bringing up the subject. I've many stories about hits and misses, mostly misses.
When talking with an attractive woman, I like to get in a quick tickle just to see how they react, since I like to use tickling as a cute way to flirt. Of course, I just don't tickle someone I just met, usually it's someone I've become well acquainted with. If they're ticklish, the subject is brought out.
Other times, it usually involves bringing up a topic tangent to tickling, like feet, massage, etc. Lucky for me, they bring talking about their feet or something, so then I can jump in about tickling.
For example, one night while hanging with my friends, I noticed one of my friends take off her shoes and flex her feet. When one of my other friends took notice, she naturally began belittling her feet, so he started ragging her about her 'ugly feet' (BTW they were georgeous!).
Thus was my cue to enter (ever the opportunist). I told her her blue-nailed, toe-ringed feet looked nice (which they did). I began to massage her feet, gave a quick tickle before she jerked back. I apologized for the tickling (which by etiquette you really should not do during a foot massage ;)
Anyway, it started a brief discussion on tickling.
It takes quick action and a lot of work, but it can be done...
THats my piece...
07-08-2001, 06:34 AM
Well TT, to me it is to easy...but it all starts within your own mind! When I was younger and thought I was the "outcast" I could not approach the subject without getting an increased heart rate or the shakes...LOL I felt like I was announcing my passion out-loud and that everyone was going to pick up on it and freak out on me. Anyhow,time has gladly gone by and I learned this tickling stuff is no big deal at all, if you don't let your own *mind* get the best of you. Tickling is a natural act of interaction between people...it's just in our minds that it is a big deal!!! I work in a nightclub 3 nights a week and I tickle someone every night and have never been shot down or made fun of...I even tickle girls that I have just met as an ice breaker...when it works, great...when it does not, you move on! Only on very few occasions in my lifetime have I come accross that one person that totally hates it or think that it is childish. Yes, they do exist, but the odds are still in your favor, trust me. To me the biggest concern is not finding out if someone is ticklish, but rather that when you do find out, the challenge is really figuring how to make it work to your advantage! That's the tricky part because as you and I both know...a quick tickle is fun, but the intense play is where our heart lyes as ticklers and what we really want...then it boils down to basically an attraction factor or you get lucky and find someone who likes to play just like yourself! It's always going to be a battle, but you can do things to work in your favor if you approach it inthe correct manor!
It's interesting that this topic is in two threads. It's one of the more adult topics to cross this kink, and one that ain't been touched on AMT in ages.
I'll tend to mention to just about anyone that I've an interest in bondage. Oddly, that's not considered strange anymore, and anyone discussin' such with me finds that I'm one of them kids that believes strongly in consentual play and negotiation. I've found some folks that WOULDN'T play before WILL, after talking about such, even.
Tickling, though, is something that is topically more difficult to broach. It's less commonplace. Where bondage is in MTV video, hollywood movies, etc., tickling's mainstream presence is still scant, though thankfully present.
Like Valydius, in the other post, and some here, I tend to slowly introduce my interest. I will specify, for the reader, that GENTLE tickling is a good introduction. Maulin' the nice lady ain't s'bright an idea. Introducing it playfully and gently is good. Double bonus points if you're smart enough to be facing her, rather than surprising her, when you first start this.
As already mentioned, tickling during a rub is bad. It's a let-down. A casual tickle, though, is open ground. Many, I find, dig the interaction. We were all kids once, after all, and this was common sport when I was young. If nothing else, it will prompt "the confession", if it's gonna happen. Said confession is where you find out, unhappily, that said lover was tickled to death repeatedly in some unpleasant manner by some relation. Gettin' such with negative familial associations is a tough one. Ask your local shrink about such.
As someone that is once again datin' outside of our community, and findin' that she ain't bugged about my HAVIN' this interest, I can say that lovers are often forgivin'. Now, if I find she'll play in bondage, swell. Things ain't such that we can go this route at the mo'. Alas.
Gentle, openly, without surprise...
07-09-2001, 11:25 PM
Thank you one and all!
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