Unfortunate response to someone who could be "one of us"

[lergirl69]

http://www.virtualvoyage.com/soapbox/client1/july107.htm


This is just a bad response to a ticklish question.

[Hosetickler23]

Theres two ways to look at it. 1 the guy doesn't like to be tickled but if he likes the girl then they could/should set limits to much of a good thing is not always a good thing. 2 he should be more excepting of her wants and needs I'm pretty sure he has something that he does that she doesn't like.

[lergirl69]

Well, i'm saying that he saud "I love it but hate it at the same time". That to me souns like someone who may be on the way to becoming a lee as many ticklephile lees feel the same way, at least in the beginning.

[Mitchell]

I've had some girls on here tell me that they love tickling and hate it at the same time. The guy's response tells me that he is confused by how he feels about tickling. This is a tough circumstance. What I might do if I had a girlfriend who felt this way, is to try and gradually introduce her to brief tickles under certain circumstances, but not tickle her all the time, or to the point where she feels it's torture, and see how that went. That is probably what I would suggest if talking to that girl and giving her advice about her boyfriend. As the therapist said, playful tickling in relationships is acceptable and probably widely done, but tortorous tickling to someone who really hates to be tickled can cause a problem, both in the relationship, and in how the ler is perceived by the lee as a person. Only my two cents.

Mitch

[jugner]

Saying it's cruel, if smeone truly hates it is not really off-base. He said he kinda likes it, so setting boundaries is good advice I think.

[Hosetickler23]

woohoo I'm partially right

[Hosetickler23]

woohoo I'm partially right

[lergirl69]

i actually agree with all of ya. I think perhaps he should be talking to his GIRLFRIEND instead of a "dear abby". Maybe they can explore it together at a pace he is comfortable with.

[Hosetickler23]

Im like hardly ever even half right. Maybe he didn't know what to say and was scared possibly felt if he had said the wrong thing she'd freak out and never see him again (I have a lot of experience in this feild)

[Psycho]

"I think that when someone is obsessed by tickling, that it also borders on being cruel. Every once in a while and when you are being playful is one thing, but all the time is a bit much if you ask me. If it really starts to bother you, explain to her that you are not enjoying this behavior and could she please change it."-Sandy


BLASPHEMY!!!!!!!!!

Psycho