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Alllllllllllllllllllllll righty, then. Saturday, November 13th, I'm thinkin' we oughta have a repeat performance of our last success. We'll do the Munch thing, and afterwards, we'll adjourn to a cozy grotto and have the first honest-to-goodness Gathering in far too long. Who be with me, me buckos? Right this minute, there is NO plan carved into stone yet. This, as I usually do, is just to get a feel for how many I can expect, to see if it's worth proceeding. I'll ping Dave and have him email The List. Those of ye not already ON the West Coast Gatherings List... well, what have ya been waitin' for?
 
Oooh! A henchwoman. These are good. Highly advisably good.

Do I getta send the announcement ye?

How about now?

;)

dvnc
 
this might sound like a stupid question. but what's a MUNCH?

people keep talking about it, but i only have a slight guess as to what you're referring to.
 
Not a stupid question. Never considered stupid to ask about unfamiliar things. Not by me, anyway.

The term "munch" is used to describe a social event at a restaurant. It began back in the 80s with the BDSM community in, of all places, California, specifically the Silicon Valley, WAY back before that was ever used. Them folks had what they called a "Burgermunch" at a restaurant on California Street in Palo Alto. The term got shortened, as everything on the net does.

Same community that began using safewords in play, that used the terms "top" and "bottom", designated "safeties", a "DM" for a scene.

Munches are a GREAT way to meet others in your community in complete safety WITHOUT play, in public. That community has another term to describe a large group meeting - play party. I adopted the term "gathering" to be a combined event, both social and VERY moderated play. Those that have familiarity with BDSM play know that gatherings are bush-league in terms of play. Those that don't have familiarity, though, are a majority of the attendees, so far. "Hardcore" play would not be welcome by most attendees, for a variety of reasons.

This bit of trivia brought to you by dvnc
 
BTW, grl~we SO need more chicks at these things! (No, I'm not gay) I've been going to munches for a year, since I joined. Feel free to PM if you're nervous. We have the best time at our munches! :D

XOXO
 
No, nix, negatory!

suprticklishgrl said:
this might sound like a stupid question. but what's a MUNCH?

people keep talking about it, but i only have a slight guess as to what you're referring to.
The stupid question is the one that doesn't get asked! Thanks for having the courage to put yourself on a limb that way. There may be others feeling bashful about asking, too. And thanks to Dave and Steph for their comprehesive and helpful replies, too! It's all about the love, huh Gang? We do the Munches to give the new and nervous a place to come out in public and get to know us and see that we're not a buncha psychos, and a place for the rest of us psychos :rolleyes: to get together and catch up. It's a wonderful, purely social event designed to get everyone comfortable with each other, and meet other people who UNDERSTAND and actually SHARE this passion for tickling we have. It's a beautiful feeling, knowing that you're not "the only one" who could feel this way about it, and networking with others!

We try to hold a Munch at least once a month, because invariably, even the folks who'd like to come have schedule conflicts and can't make it to some of them, so this way there's always the chance to make the next one. No ticklephiles left behind, dontcha know.
 
oh wow, thanks for all the quick responses! you guys are awesome :cool: dvnc, did you say california street?? wow...

so of course that does sound interesting. but its not easy to say "oh i'm heading out for the day" and then get a response of "oh what/who/where/etc are you going (to/with/etc)?"
 
EEk~ok grl, sounds like your situation similar to mine~he's a vanilla. Or do you live at home w/folks? Mine's a jock (football for 24/7~ugh) I'm into the bod mod scene (tattoos, body piercings etc.) I regularly attend conventions, expos, a friend's touch up, whatever, keeps me out for hours. He could care less about it all...

XOXO
 
naw steph, i don't have a live-in relationship thing or anything. just roommates/friends. hahaha, being at the parents house would be even WORSE. :p

so then do you usually split munches between nor cal and so cal evenly?
 
Actually we're two groups but sometimes some of the gang down south wanders on up here and I do believe vice versa. Write to listdads Dan or moderator Dave (dvnc) for more info cuz it's invite only chica :p Hope to see ya at one of them soon...

XOXO
 
S'no pressure hon, come on out whenever you feel safe...:p

XOXO
 
You're not heading out for the whole DAY unless you're going to a gathering and intend to play a LOT. ;)

Munches are a couple of hours.

"I'm gonna go noodle around. Maybe shop a bit, hit the library, go someplace I know you don't want to go or even hear about..."

There's a million ways to say "I'm going somewhere and it's none of your business," without being mean, after all.

I did say California Street. The infamous one, with the Clark's Burgers on it, is in Palo Alto. If you prowl any USENET archive for the word "burgermunch" you can likely still find the reference on alt.sex.bondage. That's where I found it, back in the day.

SoCal has had less people able to take the time necessary to run munches. Someone has to be there at each. I run the list, so it's a pretty focused task, attending and socializing. Gotta wanna be sociable, though. Gotta be willing to be accepting of the weirdest of weird, too, 'cause we come in all shapes and sizes. Even the strangest of us have, for the most part, proven either cool or harmless.

The merry listfather of the West Coast Gatherings since back in the '90s,

dvnc
 
thanks dvnc :D

there's also a clarke's burgers in the rancho shopping center in los altos. never actually been there tho...
 
sooooooooooooooooo, how was the bay area munch y'all?

XOXO
 
It was cool.

By the way...

BIG HUGS TO DANIMAL AND TERRY!!!!! YAY PEOPLE! *hugshugshugshugshugs*
 
Maybe it's just a silly guess, gents, but I'm guessin' she got the mailin' that went to all the folks already sayin' they'd attend. ;)

The rest of you have mail coming...

Say, superticklishgrl, you gonna mail [email protected] and get signed up to meet some of your merry Californians. West Coast Gatherings is one happy, safe, sane and playful group!

If not, it would appear that I might FINALLY have a crew in the SJ area that are serious about hosting an event there. I certainly hope so. All the old hosts are long gone, and that area NEEDS munches and gatherings. A munch was just held, rather spontaneously, the other day, and they have a core crew already. So proud the listfather am I!

dvnc
 
I second it!
XOXO


AquaFeline said:

By the way...

BIG HUGS TO DANIMAL AND TERRY!!!!! YAY PEOPLE! *hugshugshugshugshugs*
 
I obviously can't go to the gathering but I'd love to maybe meet everyone at a pre-gather munch? If someone can email me when/where? If I'm up to it that day. But I have been feeling better since the month started so maybe I'd be okay. Yeah happy birthday to me, I get to be the Marvel of Modern Medicine with all my blood tests and specialists. Oh well.

I miss everybody. :(

~QHearts (No don't freak out, I'm not dying. :p Just haven't been well.)
 
Condolensces, darlin'. Did that dance myself not too long ago.

If it don't kill ya, it makes ya stronger, in one way or another. Ya get a lust for life. I sure did.

Mail t'Danimal and Ter about the munch specifics. It's locationally set. That, or mail me, and I'll send ya that way. It's probably gonna be a short one, en route to the gathering itself.

If ya can, do hang wit' them. Ya don't HAVE to play, even if you're compelled to, y'know. You *can* restrain yourself. No, not THAT way. ;)

Behave.

Seriously, though, do mail one of us if ya want specifics. If ya need the rest, though, Dr. D says rest! There WILL be more events, as this one has proven to be most successful in it's attendance.

dvnc
 
We miss ya too Cin~buzz me at home or work, I'd love to munch first!

XOXO

QueenOfHearts said:
I obviously can't go to the gathering but I'd love to maybe meet everyone at a pre-gather munch? If someone can email me when/where? If I'm up to it that day. But I have been feeling better since the month started so maybe I'd be okay. Yeah happy birthday to me, I get to be the Marvel of Modern Medicine with all my blood tests and specialists. Oh well.

I miss everybody. :(

~QHearts (No don't freak out, I'm not dying. :p Just haven't been well.)
 
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