Is extramarital tickling cheating?

[stloldg]

:scared: I loved tickling since I took my first breath; it’s a part of my body and soul, but my wife not into tickling. Not, like I am I like to tickle other people and she just want to keep it in house.

So, not she made at me because I spend all my time on the Tickling Forums downloading clips, looking at pictures and reading stories. She said that I was cheating on her because I spend my time on the internet.

She spends her time looking at LIFE TV among other MALE BASHING things.

SOOOOOOO!!!!, is looking at tickling clips, pictures or chatting with other people with the same love of tickling cheating?
:evilha: :ignite: :devil2: :wub:

[isabeau]

:scared: I loved tickling since I took my first breath; it’s a part of my body and soul, but my wife not into tickling. Not, like I am I like to tickle other people and she just want to keep it in house.

So, not she made at me because I spend all my time on the Tickling Forums downloading clips, looking at pictures and reading stories. She said that I was cheating on her because I spend my time on the internet.

She spends her time looking at LIFE TV among other MALE BASHING things.

SOOOOOOO!!!!, is looking at tickling clips, pictures or chatting with other people with the same love of tickling cheating?
:evilha: :ignite: :devil2: :wub:


omg your wife and my husband must be twins. he thinks exactly the same as your wife. however he doesnt mind my coming onto the forum as mostly i do that while he is at work. but other than that, he thinks the fetish is sick. and that i'm doomed, especially whenever i bring up nest. he has to be the most stubborn man on the face of the earth.

isabeau

[Illtcklu]

omg your wife and my husband must be twins. he thinks exactly the same as your wife. however he doesnt mind my coming onto the forum as mostly i do that while he is at work. but other than that, he thinks the fetish is sick. and that i'm doomed, especially whenever i bring up nest. he has to be the most stubborn man on the face of the earth.

isabeau
Yes! We've talked about this, Izzy! It's not cheating in my opinion! It's the same as hugging another woman. Even if you get turned on by it is it cheating I say no! Your married not DEAD! Your still going to react to you surroundings! If I love cars am I cheating on my girlfriend? She may be envious of that but it's not CHEATING!!!!!!!

[tklcouple]

stloldg

My advice: If she does not care about what is important to you then the whole "I love you" thing is in my opinion pure bullshit. When you love someone, what is important to them is important to you - period. You do not tell someone you love to just ignore a central part of who they are and that is that just because you don't care for it and expect them to be happy because you grace them with your presence. As I see it you have to decide: since you cannot change her you must decide whether you can live with repressing that part of yourself (perhaps in misery for the sake of children for instance) forever, whether you are going to continue and live with the constant conflict and risk a nasty divorce (you are a man ergo you will loose your ass financially despite possibly ending up more happy), or file for divorce now and get it over with.

I cannot tell you which will work for you, you have your own circumstances and I only know of the little I have seen on this and the recently preceeding related thread. For me I would drop her like a bad habit, especially if there are no kids yet. Life is too short to be treated like the things that are important to you are to be repressed and denied. Just a guess: sounds like she expects you to live for her, only for her, as she expects you to, and with her in complete control. Your needs, let alone likes and dislikes are irrelevant because after all you are just a man not a woman and marraige is after all about the woman. Some women have a view of marriage that it's all about her and what you can do for her and anything you want or need is irrelevant and up to her whether you are granted any of your desires (and of course you better thank her endlessly on your knees for any little thing at all, right) but heaven forbid you don't work like a dog to grant her every desire, spoken or unspoken. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of decent women out there who understand the concept of love, that give and take goes both ways, and the idea that each partner takes care of the other. It doesn't sound like your wife is one of those women. Yes, man bashing is very PC but then again that same culture has produced a divorce rate in excess of 50% since that time when it became fashionable.

Just my $0.02.

Professor Tkl

[stloldg]

stloldg

My advice: If she does not care about what is important to you then the whole "I love you" thing is in my opinion pure bullshit. When you love someone, what is important to them is important to you - period. You do not tell someone you love to just ignore a central part of who they are and that is that just because you don't care for it and expect them to be happy because you grace them with your presence. As I see it you have to decide: since you cannot change her you must decide whether you can live with repressing that part of yourself (perhaps in misery for the sake of children for instance) forever, whether you are going to continue and live with the constant conflict and risk a nasty divorce (you are a man ergo you will loose your ass financially despite possibly ending up more happy), or file for divorce now and get it over with.

I cannot tell you which will work for you, you have your own circumstances and I only know of the little I have seen on this and the recently preceeding related thread. For me I would drop her like a bad habit, especially if there are no kids yet. Life is too short to be treated like the things that are important to you are to be repressed and denied. Just a guess: sounds like she expects you to live for her, only for her, as she expects you to, and with her in complete control. Your needs, let alone likes and dislikes are irrelevant because after all you are just a man not a woman and marraige is after all about the woman. Some women have a view of marriage that it's all about her and what you can do for her and anything you want or need is irrelevant and up to her whether you are granted any of your desires (and of course you better thank her endlessly on your knees for any little thing at all, right) but heaven forbid you don't work like a dog to grant her every desire, spoken or unspoken. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of decent women out there who understand the concept of love, that give and take goes both ways, and the idea that each partner takes care of the other. It doesn't sound like your wife is one of those women. Yes, man bashing is very PC but then again that same culture has produced a divorce rate in excess of 50% since that time when it became fashionable.

Just my $0.02.

Professor Tkl

THIS IS IS A PERSON OF WISDOM :grouphug:

[isabeau]

other than that one thing though we are happy. i wouldnt divorce him over something like this. we have been thru way too much in our married life to haggle over this. especially since i havent experienced it anyway. he can be stubborn but he doesnt change for me and i dont change for him. its why we have been married 27 years....

isabeau

i mean we have made changes for each other, but its not onesided at all. we are each two parts of one person. but there is the matter of tickling.... but heck i can live. without him i couldnt

[luvgirlsfeet]

In my opinion it most definately "IS NOT" Cheating

[smyslov]

other than that one thing though we are happy. i wouldnt divorce him over something like this. we have been thru way too much in our married life to haggle over this. especially since i havent experienced it anyway. he can be stubborn but he doesnt change for me and i dont change for him. its why we have been married 27 years....

isabeau

i mean we have made changes for each other, but its not onesided at all. we are each two parts of one person. but there is the matter of tickling.... but heck i can live. without him i couldnt

Good to see that, A) You realize the importance of tickling to yourself but B) You realize how much more there is to a good relationship besides just tickling and that while tickling may be your passion, there are other passions that keep you with your husband.

[vryticklishfeet]

this is an oldie but a goodie : ),, i havnt been around in awhile but whenever i see this old thread rehashed i always have to throw in my 2 cents,,

the subject of whether it is cheating is a hot topic in many ways,, those who are comfortable in thier relationships will always say " heck no! its not cheating!! your spouse is a bad person for making you feel that way"

then we have the opposite opinion,,, those who get very jealous with the mere mention of thier significant other engaging in any outside pursuits with anyone else or even the viewing of media relating to anything sexual or stimulating whatsoever,,

ive said it before and ill say it again,, its all about how you feel.... if you feel like you are cheating then chances are you ARE! its one of those things where you have to put yourself into that other persons shoes and think to yourself,, " would i be upset if they did something like that to me?" while in any relationship TRUST is key,, if you ever feel you are being sneaky going behind thier back with the viewing of related materials or whether you are meeting with others ouside of the relationship and it gives you a feeling of being deceitfull in any way whatsoever,, then you need to search your feelings and have a bit of compassion for the other person,,even if your partner knows about your doing it if they feel uncomfortable with it,, then you definately should respect thier feelings,, if not? then be single,, end of problem.....

[proudaya]

My thing with this is my wife would be pissed she knows how this turns me on. The question I have for all of you is would you be mad if your spouse did it with someone else and if it was behind your back. My wife caught me doing it to one of her friends at a bar we were pretty tuned up and joking around it wasn't even a sexual tickle more like joking but she went nuts I had to say I was sorry and she asked me how I would feel if it were the other way around I would not like it.

[isabeau]

My thing with this is my wife would be pissed she knows how this turns me on. The question I have for all of you is would you be mad if your spouse did it with someone else and if it was behind your back. My wife caught me doing it to one of her friends at a bar we were pretty tuned up and joking around it wasn't even a sexual tickle more like joking but she went nuts I had to say I was sorry and she asked me how I would feel if it were the other way around I would not like it.


ahh yes i was thinking the very same thing. would i get mad if my husband did this behind my back? hell yea.... but the thing is i would let him, if he asked me, and i knew for sure that it wouldnt turn sexual, and knowing my husband it would not because he is very faithful to me. so yes i can see put yourself in the others shoes. my husband is very protective and rather overbearingly possessive and would not, i repeat would not be happy at all if i went behind his back. it would cause a split of which i am not prepared to sacrifice .......

isabeau

[osco89]

I did in fact have a tickle session with a couple of women after I was married and that was 14 years ago. I admitt I gave into the temptation, but when I saw the hurt and concern my wife was going through when she suspected me of straying unfaithfully , I had to put a stop to it. I knew if I was stupid enough to say that I wasn't sleeping with her I was only tickling her it still wouldn't of made a bit of difference. The other woman and myself agreed to stop because she too felt she was betraying her husband. I have been with my wife ,faithfully, since we were 16 and we are now 41 and yes it would kill me if I found out she was doing the same thing behind my back. To write stories and tell the other sex about tickling fantasies is one thing. I don't know if actually tickling someone else, if you or the other is married is cheating or not, but it seems that it may have the same effect on your better half as if you were in fact unfaithful and could lead to hurt and to a betayal of trust. :redheart:

[maniactickler]

:scared: I loved tickling since I took my first breath; it’s a part of my body and soul, but my wife not into tickling. Not, like I am I like to tickle other people and she just want to keep it in house.

So, not she made at me because I spend all my time on the Tickling Forums downloading clips, looking at pictures and reading stories. She said that I was cheating on her because I spend my time on the internet.

She spends her time looking at LIFE TV among other MALE BASHING things.

SOOOOOOO!!!!, is looking at tickling clips, pictures or chatting with other people with the same love of tickling cheating?
:evilha: :ignite: :devil2: :wub:

Anyone that thinks thats cheating is just prudish and uptight.

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I don't think that is cheating at all. That is an interest that you have and she should respect it, even though she doesn't agree with it. I agree with maniactickler that she is prudish and uptight. Since I have joined TMF back in April of 2005, I have met with several guys who have been married and have had tickle dates with them because their wives aren't into it. It was all platonic and nothing sexual happened nor would I let anything sexual happen. That's not cheating either.


She should just respect your interest in tickling.


:couch:

[proudaya]

the question is how would you feel if your boyfriend or husband was doing it to other women. I am not saying i am a saint I have done it never sex but have done some tickling I just like doing it. But I know its not right I would be upset if she did it with someone else mainly because she doesnt do it that much with me. I guess I am a hipocrite when it comes to tickling but again I have been doing this for years and old habbits are hard to break

[Ray<3tiklishft]

It's NOT cheating so tickle all you want. If she doesn't like it, oh well.

[Limeoutsider]

It would depend....do you mean, sneaking out and going to meet with someone?...or saying "You know what, this is what I like and Im going to do it"....it'd depend on the circumstances.

[siamese dream]

Cheating is complicated to define, some would say cheating is pretty much limited to sexual intercourse or other sex acts with someone besides your partner, for some the lines are more blurry. I think my boyfriend would be really upset if I was meeting other guys for tickling, or if I expressed a desire to meet someone else for tickling. But our situation is a little different because he knows about my interest in tickling, and that it's a sexual turn-on, and he doesn't feel that there's anything bad about it, he enjoys that kind of play with me even if he might not understand it or enjoy it to the same depth that I do, he still 'gets' the appeal of it and I haven't ever had to be shy about my fantasies with him, which is good. But I do feel driven sometimes to talk to other people who have felt this way pretty much their whole lives about tickling on here and further explore these fantasies in writing, it's more of a combination of trying to understand myself better and having a fascination with tickling in general, and no place is better than the TMF for finding all things tickling-related. Real-life tickling is much more intense and personal than anything I might read about or talk about on the TMF and so it's two seperate issues for me.

Also, I would be probably insanely jealous and pissed if I had caught him tickling another woman in a 'more-than-playful' type of way, or even if it was truly playful and innocent, I don't think I could keep myself from feeling jealous because it's just who I am. I know he would be jealous too if I was in that situation with another guy, especially with him knowing how much it turns me on.

However, as far as looking at the TMF and pornographic/sexual material in general, we don't have any problems with each other in that respect. Hell, our subscription to Playboy magazine is in my name and we both read it, we watch porn together, look at naughty stuff on the net together sometimes, and discuss our fantasies pretty openly. It's a hard situation when you've got one partner who is completely closed-minded to something. You've got to keep in mind that you did make a committment whether or not your partner is as open-minded as you'd like them to be. If it's important enough that it makes you question your committment to each other then it's something you should keep talking about until you find some middle ground, or decide that the relationship isn't going to work out.

[Stevereeno]

If you're MARRIED and you need to seek affection and attention from other opposite sex members, there is a good chance the marriage won't last!

[kered]

Is it the material itself or the time you spend looking at it that ticks her off? Better find out then prepare to adjust. She's the only one who can tell you and maybe you could work a compromise.

[MrPartickler]

Does she want you to spend more time with her, or to just stop spending time looking at tickling stuff? There's a big difference there, IMHO. And if it's the latter, she may not readily admit it, but her displeasure with you will probably still be apparent down the road.

My guess is, since she's not a part of this area of your life that you are so interested in, she feels a bit threatened by it. After all, it is at least somewhat sexual in nature, right? You might feel the same way of the roles were reversed. And, if you're honest with yourself, you probably know whether or not she has reason to be concerned or not.

If you think that if/when placed in a "convenient" situation where one of your chatters offers to let you tickle them you might succumb to that invitation, you really should start doing some soul-searching about where all this--online chatting, etc. and your relationship--is going. Because at some point, it's bound to get there if you're not actively preventing it. Otherwise, worst-case, you may just have to be more open with her about what's actually going on when you're chatting.

So, yes, a "big talk" is probably looming ahead for you both regardless

Good luck.

[isabeau]

If you're MARRIED and you need to seek affection and attention from other opposite sex members, there is a good chance the marriage won't last!

being married doesnt make you dead. everyone wants affection and/or attention from the opposite sex, doesnt mean you are going to cheat on your husband. and this from someone who has been married for 27 years. i still enjoy attention from the opposite sex, thats normal. what are you supposed to do after marriage, walk around with your head lowered or better yet wear a sack over your head?

isabeau

[unit5610]

being married doesnt make you dead. everyone wants affection and/or attention from the opposite sex, doesnt mean you are going to cheat on your husband. and this from someone who has been married for 27 years. i still enjoy attention from the opposite sex, thats normal. what are you supposed to do after marriage, walk around with your head lowered or better yet wear a sack over your head?

isabeau

I agree with Isabeau, but I must say I've wrestled with the tickling part of this one. My wife isn't ticklish at all and I really miss the opportunity to be a 'ler. I've been able to sneak a few tickles on various women over the years but the situation has to be just right for me to do it, something that would be quick and playful and almost "asked for", which is kinda rare.

[kis123]

My thing with this is my wife would be pissed she knows how this turns me on. The question I have for all of you is would you be mad if your spouse did it with someone else and if it was behind your back. My wife caught me doing it to one of her friends at a bar we were pretty tuned up and joking around it wasn't even a sexual tickle more like joking but she went nuts I had to say I was sorry and she asked me how I would feel if it were the other way around I would not like it.

Looks like you already have your answer!

Maybe you could find a way to slowly include her into your tickling passions. Most women (emphasis on most) don't mind trying some things out in the name of making their man happy as long as it doesn't involve something crazy! Have a heart-to-heart with her and see what it gets. You already know what tickling someone else will get you so you have little to lose at this point.

[ms.brightside]

it's pretty unrealistic to assume that just one person can satisfy you the rest of your life....romantically, emotionally, sexually....

any man i've ever been with has known that i get my kicks in all sorts of ways. sexuality isn't something to be ashamed of or hidden just because someone else in your life has a problem with it, or is self conscious of you sharing your interests with another man/woman.

IMO...its not cheating. so go have your fun.

[Stevereeno]

(Personal comments edited out - Jeff)

We're talking about marriage here. Not just being in a relationship.

Isabeau, I don't think you understand what I meant. If you are married and you need to seek out other opposite sex members for attention and affection, chances are there is a problem somewhere in the marriage. That doesn't mean you will cheat; however, it increases the odds of cheating.

[aun_existe_amor]

I think that having to involve others outside of your relationship to meet any needs that are not met by your husband/wife is cheating. I realise that there are many others who don't agree with me but this is my opinion. That includes tickling, any sexual contact, even down to going to watch a film or play with someone else that your partner doesn't know about or approve of. If you have keep it a secret then it's definitely cheating. If your wife doesn't care that you're getting something from another woman that she doesn't give you, why doesn't she care? Is there something that she is getting from another man that you don't give her? Surely you knew before you were married that your wife/husband didn't have the same sexual interests as you. People change over the years and people do grow apart, that's just part of life, but, isn't the whole idea of marriage about growing and changing together? It is natural to develop different interests and have seperate hobbies. No one can be together or do everything together 24 hours a day but you have to have lots in common to be able to make the relationship work. Sex is a massive part of any relationship and I would guess that for most people here tickling is part of a sexual relationship. Are you and your wife more like best friends now than sexual partners? Is this the reason for feeling the need to look outside your relationship for another woman to meet the needs that your wife isn't meeting?

[some1somewhere]

To put it very simply, is tickling someone else besides your spouse cheating?

Yes

Umm, no.

Well, yeah.

Hmm, I guess not.

sure.

Nah...

I guess it is a little more complex, isn't it? ;)

[jj82277]

In my personal oppinion there is a different case to be made for most instances. there is i think that we would all agree a difference between a casual ppoke at the water cooler, and a full blown tickle torture session with orgasm torture to follow.

I think first you have to say what is cheating. for a couple that believes in swinging they may not consider it cheating, for a more spiritual couple they most certainly would. As one who actually does believe in universal truths i would say that in the case of actually seeking out the company of someone outside your marriage for the purpose of engaging in an act specifically for some form of gratification that you are not getting at home would be the definition of cheating. I think that definition would extend even to emotional counsel that a wife can't get from her husband that she religates solely to her close group of friends. I am not saying that you shouldnt have close friends or that this is a female problem i am just using this one example. The reason being is that a crack like that in the foundation of a relationship over time will become as large as the grand canyon. If you don't coach the person you are with to meet your basic needs over time you will eventually stop making the concious decisions over and over gin to stay with them during the hard times.

The overwhelming retort would be that the partner is completely unwilling to comply with a request that you have amde in this reguard. I offer two responses.

1.)first to the lees outthere that suffer in silence, how much does someone really love you if they can't at least put forth a token effort to tickle you on a regular basis. that's just basics in a relationship. i personally think that in a healthy relationship a lee should at least get a token effort from a spouse if you genuinly and openly express to them that it is vital to your survival, and so vital that if you dont have it that you would be would be tempted to look outside the relationship. for lers it is a little harder because for people outisde the community actur\ally subjecting themselves to tickle torture in most peoples oppinions would be worse than death., i remember as a young boy that i liked to play truth or dare, and on truths try to make girls say that they actually perfered tickling to something else because an admission like that would excite me, you should hear some of the reponeses that i got. most would perfer to be tied up whipped and stuck with hot pokeers than 2 be tickled and that jsut plain sucks, that i think you just have to gut out.

2.)Choose wisely. I love the movie in good company. It hink that it offered the single greatest idea for marital success that i have ever heard outside scriptural text, "just pick the right one to be in the fox hole with and when you are outside of the foxhole keep your dick in your pants" i said that to say taht to all the young single people out there, just take this debate as a lesson that marrying someone with similar sexual tastes is extremely vital. there are just as many tickle crazed lers as there are lees, and all desperately want the safety to carry out ther lovingly depraved fantasies in the romantic confines of marital bliss.

[DonnieBrasco]

The word extramarital :wiseowl: is the act of sex between a married person and someone other than their spouse. So I would say no it is not.BUT I think you would cross that line according to the person whose opinions should matter the most,your spouse. I mean what would you think if your spouse loved spanking and you didnt,so they went outside the marriage to find their experience with someone who does.How wou;d you feel?

Thats my two 1/2 cents worth

Thank you
Donnie B-the original

[Mitchell]

Here's my 2 cents, for whatever it's worth.

As we all know, in life, there can be very broad discretion, and definition for many words. I think that meeting another person for tickling, when one is already married, or in a committed relationship, is in my opinion, not right. It might not technically be "cheating", if you arent having sex with the person you are tickling, but think of it, if you need to tickle another person, because your significant other isnt into it, then technically, it is cheating. If I had a wife into tickling, and I hated to be tickled, I dont think I'd be very happy if she wanted to meet someone else for tickling, either if I knew about it, or behind my back.
That being said, again, things have a very broad definition. Some people could consider the mere act of coming to the TMF cheating, if their significant other isnt into tickling. Technically, they have a fetish, and if they come here to discuss their fetish, unless their partner is okay with such, it might be considered extramarital activities. I hope to marry someone into tickling, but if I dont, and I stay with TMF, I think I might try to be honest with her, and tell her that coming here, and if nothing else, discussing tickling with those who have similar interests, helps me to deal with my fetish or interest. I would hope she would be okay with that, but, if it really was a problem with her, and I loved her, I probably would leave TMF. This certainly isnt a real life circumstance for me now, but if it ever did become one, I probably would.
This question is very difficult to answer, because of the very wide definition of what "cheating", or "extramarital" is. However, my post is how I see this issue.

Mitch

[kis123]

being married doesnt make you dead. everyone wants affection and/or attention from the opposite sex, doesnt mean you are going to cheat on your husband. and this from someone who has been married for 27 years. i still enjoy attention from the opposite sex, thats normal. what are you supposed to do after marriage, walk around with your head lowered or better yet wear a sack over your head?

isabeau

No-but you are supposed to remember the vows you took and live by them. I'm not trying to be harsh, but the fact remains that if you married, then you took vows. If you (you being totally hypothetical) no longer mean them, then it's time to separate.

Many of the responses on this topic are examples of "wanting your cake and eating it too" (or however that goes).

When I was married, I wasn't in tune with my tickling passions. I had buried them deep. But if I was still with him, I would come clean and deal with the outcome just like you have been going through. My heart goes out to you but I respect you for remaining within your vows and the committment to your marriage. Sometimes people just can't have it both ways unless the spouse compromises (not a bad idea if you can do the same) or you are in an open marriage where there are (or not) rules.

[kis123]

Anyone that thinks thats cheating is just prudish and uptight.

You might think it's prudish and uptight, but if you're married, you're married period.

Maybe people should deal with these issues BEFORE they get married. Maybe some are like me and didn't become aware of their love of tickling until after they got married, I can't say on either circumstance.

But if your "passion" or "fetish" is taking time away from your spouse, maybe you should reevaluate how you spend your time, or separate. I can't say this enough-YOU CAN'T HAVE IT BOTH WAYS!!

How many of you would feel so liberal about their marital relationship if it were in reverse and your spouse is the one with the issue? I wonder how many would be so quick to say it's okay?

[kered]

kis123 beat me to that thought. What would the reaction be if the feather were on the other foot?

[isabeau]

i didnt say cheating i said o forget it. i have such a hard time trying to communicate what i am feeling. of course i dont mean cheating. but being married doesnt being dead. and i didnt say what kind of attention or affection i wanted or needed from the opposite sex. it could be in a brotherly type of way, since i never had a brother, it could be in a friendly type of way, since i do have friends who are male. I WILL NEVER CHEAT IF I HAVENT CHEATED BY NOW LET ME STATE AGAIN I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR TWENTY SEVEN YEARS.

isabeau

[kis123]

i didnt say cheating i said o forget it. i have such a hard time trying to communicate what i am feeling. of course i dont mean cheating. but being married doesnt being dead. and i didnt say what kind of attention or affection i wanted or needed from the opposite sex. it could be in a brotherly type of way, since i never had a brother, it could be in a friendly type of way, since i do have friends who are male. I WILL NEVER CHEAT IF I HAVENT CHEATED BY NOW LET ME STATE AGAIN I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR TWENTY SEVEN YEARS.

isabeau

No one has accused you of cheating. Anyone who reads your posts should know that you're faithful. Hell, more should be like you!

There's nothing wrong with wanting to appeal to the opposite sex or finding other men attractive to you-that's completely normal. Thinking and feeling are one thing, acting on those thoughts and feelings are completely different.

[isabeau]

No one has accused you of cheating. Anyone who reads your posts should know that you're faithful. Hell, more should be like you!

There's nothing wrong with wanting to appeal to the opposite sex or finding other men attractive to you-that's completely normal. Thinking and feeling are one thing, acting on those thoughts and feelings are completely different.

yes thats what i meant. kis, thank you, sometimes i have trouble expressing my thoughts, they race ahead of my fingers lol.... glad you understand.:)

isabeau :twohugs:

[tickleublue]

No it is not cheating. Alternate answer.." it Depends on what your definition of is... er... I mean ...Cheating is" Hey my wife calls me a "freak" because of my tickle as well as other fetish tastes. This has me LOOKING for tickle minded people to play with.

[tkl-pen]

I don't believe that's cheating in any way. My wife would much rather that I tickle other women instead of her. She knows that I love to tickle and live to tickle. She has no problem with that.

[McNoodle]

In my opinion the mind is the first thing to stray. Often when I am on here I am struck by the syndrome known as grass is greener. I love my wife dearly and am happy with her. The fact she is not ticklish probably helps drive me to this site more often than I should but I know enough not to take it any further than reading posts and watching videos. I would be crushed if she were to go out meeting other people to fulfill a desire of hers that she did not even try to share with me. I think I have the best of both worlds because I have a wonderful woman and with a site like this, that while it does not totally curb my craving for tickling, I can be content living vicariously through it for that portion of my life. The act of going through with meeting someone for tickling may not exactly be cheating but in my particular case it would cause more harm than good.

[Knox The Hatter]

Look, if you have to hide this behavior, then there's a problem. Odds are, if you do hide it, and the spouse finds out, there's gonna be trouble.

If you communicate with your spouse, and the spouse understands, and if it's promulgated that what you're doing is just tickling and having fun, with that other person, and the spouse is fine with it, then where's the problem? The only problem I see is coming from people on here who have never been in a real relationship with anyone, telling you how you should conduct YOUR relationship.

You wanna have fun, and the spouse ain't ticklish? Well, you got your work cut out. However, "oh what a tangled web we weave..."

[wendynpeter]

:scared: I loved tickling since I took my first breath; it’s a part of my body and soul, but my wife not into tickling. Not, like I am I like to tickle other people and she just want to keep it in house.

So, not she made at me because I spend all my time on the Tickling Forums downloading clips, looking at pictures and reading stories. She said that I was cheating on her because I spend my time on the internet.

She spends her time looking at LIFE TV among other MALE BASHING things.

SOOOOOOO!!!!, is looking at tickling clips, pictures or chatting with other people with the same love of tickling cheating?
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There's physical cheating and there's emotional cheating. Whether you are cheating depends upon whether the material you're downloading is causing you to withdraw emotionally or physically from your wife.

That said, if you are spending "all your time" fantasizing about other women, that's not a good sign. Life TV is hardly male-bashing, but what do you expect her to do with her time if you're spending all of yours downloading porn? My suggestion is to take a break from porn for a few weeks and spend time with your wife. Ask yourself if you really love her, or whether having her around is just a convenience to you. Then DO something about whichever decision you come to.

[TickledToDeath]

If it is done on the sly.......without the knowledge and or approval of the husband/wife/significant other, then it is cheating and wrong.
IF the green light is given, knoledge and approval clear and present, I fail to see anything wrong.
Key is totaly approval and knowledge and then it is up to the players to KNOW what to and not to do and make DAMN sure no lines are crossed and ALL is clear and understanding.
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[witchtickler]

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NOPE, I do not see it as cheating. If I did I wouldn't be here. BUT....it can go to far so be careful.

witchtickler :firedevil

[SlaverTickler]

In my opinion sort of sexual stuff (shy of jerking off) is pretty much cheating. I exclude wanking one out because some times a guys just gotta releive stress.

[Stitch62679]

Extramarital tickling has to be cheating in my opinion (and the opinion of anyone I ever dated!!! LOL). Granted, it's not sex (far from it) but you are touching another person of the oppositte sex, which at the very least could be considered flirtacious, and even if tickling isn't a turn on, it's still something you're very interested in if you're on this forum, sooooo it's hard to say it's just something you'd do to anyone.
There's a lot that can happen that doesn't include sex that's cheating, and my wife (who thinks this all is an illness) would kick my ass if I tickled anyone!!!!!!