Fear of coming out READ ME

[MaroonBoxers]

Hi All

First I d like to say this site couldn t be better I really like it here, I plan to get more involved.

Now onto my stigma...

I ve been into the tickling community for quite some time now, but I have been lurking in the shadows. I am kind of afraid of coming out of the closet... so to speak. Anyone have any advice on this subject? I m younger, 21, m/lee/ler and I m overseas in Japan. Its not the best place to be, their tickling community is sparse, so I ve heard. I still have that 'what will people think' fear... Can someone throw some light on the subject?

Arigato...

Maroon

[kis123]

Welcome to the TMF Maroon!

Well, you've already taken a very important first step in stopping at this forum. I was you a little over two years ago after I stumbled in here. You will find out that the people here are wonderful and will help you get comfortable with who you are and the fact that you're wired this way.

Although I have a son not much younger than you, I'm still in the closet with my tickling passions and have no intention on verbally sharing them with anyone else. The good news is that the younger set know what they want and have the capability and ability to get it done. I'm from an era that tends to hide a lot of crap whether it's important or not. I have a lot of issues to settle, but you can do better and I know you will come to terms with who you are and embrace it.

Once again, welcome to the TMF-take off your shoes and stay awhile! :p

[amk714]

I ve been into the tickling community for quite some time now, but I have been lurking in the shadows. I am kind of afraid of coming out of the closet... so to speak. Anyone have any advice on this subject? I m younger, 21, m/lee/ler and I m overseas in Japan. Its not the best place to be, their tickling community is sparse, so I ve heard. I still have that 'what will people think' fear... Can someone throw some light on the subject?

It sounds like you're in a tough situation, Maroon. How long have you been in Japan? I ask you this question because I think you should only tell the people who are closest to you (like a best friend or a significant other) about your interest in tickling, if you're serious about coming out with it. Sorry, but that's about all I can offer you. Perhaps other members who are in circumstances similar to yours will give you better advice. Good luck, and like Kis said, you've already taken the first step, so you're on the right track. I hope someday you will find what you seek. :)

[milagros317]

Welcome to the TMF, Maroon Boxers, and congratulations on your first post. :D This is a wonderful place, have fun here.

I have never come out in the sense of telling my family and all my friends of my interest in tickling. There is no need to do so. All that is necessary is to attend gatherings and tell potential partners. That would be much easier here in the US, obviously, I have no solution to there being not much of a tickling community in Japan.

[Hiryu]

Hi All

First I d like to say this site couldn t be better I really like it here, I plan to get more involved.

Now onto my stigma...

I ve been into the tickling community for quite some time now, but I have been lurking in the shadows. I am kind of afraid of coming out of the closet... so to speak. Anyone have any advice on this subject? I m younger, 21, m/lee/ler and I m overseas in Japan. Its not the best place to be, their tickling community is sparse, so I ve heard. I still have that 'what will people think' fear... Can someone throw some light on the subject?

Arigato...

Maroon

Just do it and fuck what they think. They wipe there asses just like the rest of.

[Myriads]

Hello MaroonBoxers,

Welcome to the TMF, and thank you for the kind words about it. I think you'll find the support here that you need.

Interestingly, tickling as a fetish has a touch more acceptence in Japan then it does in the states. Several comapnies were producing there before the US ramped up. Including the famous tickling wrestling league. I'm sure that you will find as many there as here who will be open to your like.

Myriads

[TicklishLayla]

Welcome to the TMF!

My sympathies to your situation, I know what it's like to be a young lee in the world. I have no idea how I would ever come out to the people I know.

[Redmage]

Konnichi wa, Maroon-san.

I don't know all the ins and outs of the Japanese tickling scene, but I know at least one large Japanese erotica site - http://www.baby-baby-baby.com/index1.html - that includes a fair bit of tickling. And I see a lot of Japanese tickling art, both animated and drawn. So I think you can find a place there.

I know what it's like to be a young lee in the world. I have no idea how I would ever come out to the people I know.I think the trick is to find the right group of friends. I'm involved in tickling, bondage, SM and other unusual areas, and most of my friends know about it to at least some extent. I just don't form close friendships with people that I don't think are open-minded enough to deal with me as I am.

[HisDivineShadow]

Welcome to the TMF, MaroonBoxers! :bouncybou I've not come out to anyone outside the community and see no reason to, especially when much of the effect of the knowledge of my likes would be varying degrees of "weirded-out-ness." Alas, acceptance is not a skill of mankind and does not look to be one soon. I can only wish you luck in finding people to relate to.

[Mimi]

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Welcome to the forum, Boxers! And don't worry so much about coming out. You don't NEED to come out to anyone! Don't let yourself feel pressured about it. It will come naturally when you're comfortable enough to discuss it.

Mimi ;)

[steph]

Exactly. The only people who know are the ones I want to know~don't overthink this lovely thing we all share...
Oh and welcome, BTW!
XOXO

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Welcome to the forum, Boxers! And don't worry so much about coming out. You don't NEED to come out to anyone! Don't let yourself feel pressured about it. It will come naturally when you're comfortable enough to discuss it.

Mimi ;)

[kered]

Listen to smart people like Mimi. You'll be just fine.

[isabeau]

welcome to the forum Maroon and about coming out, well thats what this forum is for, at least for me. i have been much more open about my desires since i joined. my husband knows about it, but doesnt understand it. good luck and have fun here

isabeau :bubble:

[some1somewhere]

Come out of the closet? I kinda like my closet, it is big and there are a lot of people in there. Who says tickling in a closet can be any less fun that tickling elsewhere.

Anyway, welcome to the TMF

from your friendly neighborhood see-through guy.

[MaroonBoxers]

Hey-

Thanks all for your encouraging support. What all of you said was from the heart. I am just realizing and learning about myself. It's not an easy journey for any of us. Thanks again all-

Happy tickles!

Maroon

[MaroonBoxers]

Just do it and f*** what they think. They wipe there asses just like the rest of.


Part of the young devilish tickler in me thinks this way. Good call Hiryu.