importance for relationships as young adults

[kcantankerous]

This question is more for young students and those who have something there working towards. I wanted to get everyones opinion on just how important it is to have a relationship while trying to accomplish a time consuming goal. Such as going through college, or training for a job whatever. Where is it written that being in a relationship is important at this stage in ones life? How important should getting into a relationship be post highschool during college years? I'm not refering to booty calls, just the energy sucking meaningful relationships.

[TKpervert]

kcantankerous , if you view a meaningful relationship as 'energy sucking', I suggest avoiding them until your perspective changes.

[kis123]

kcantankerous , if you view a meaningful relationship as 'energy sucking', I suggest avoiding them until your perspective changes.

I couldn't agree more!

If you're not ready for a relationship, great! At least you know where you stand right now. If you are describing serious relationships as "energy sucking", please do yourself a favor and avoid them. Go for your dreams and goals-see the world for awhile until you find someone to settle down with. Go and sow those oats while you're young, single, and without kids.

There is nothing worse than a man to marry too young, start having kids, and suddenly realize that this wasn't what he wanted.

Go and realize your own dreams and screw it to whoever doesn't like it!

[german]

I thinks up to the individual to be able to manage their time. I must admit during final years of high school and getting my legal and policing degree I didn't have a relationship but I did go out a lot and meet new girls, what I'm saying is that I fell what I did would equal a steady relationship but I was able to manage my time and hey I did what I have to do now I'm doing what I missed out on *if anything*. But if some one is willing to work hard and again mange their time effectively I cant see no problem.

Kust

[Ticklerguy4u]

This question is more for young students and those who have something there working towards. I wanted to get everyones opinion on just how important it is to have a relationship while trying to accomplish a time consuming goal. Such as going through college, or training for a job whatever. Where is it written that being in a relationship is important at this stage in ones life? How important should getting into a relationship be post highschool during college years? I'm not refering to booty calls, just the energy sucking meaningful relationships.

I think you may talking about the "honeymoon" phase. Where you are joined at the hip. Believe me, it passes. After a while its like "you go your way, I'll go my way and will meet at 6pm for an hour or so."

[Tamia78]

I've got at least 3 more years left of school, so I identify with this thread. Looking for a possible relationship partner is hard enough, but trying to meet someone new and date them while you spend much of your free time in school, clinicals and such, is really a stressful experience for both of you.
At this point, I'm not looking, but I won't stop it if something does come along.
The question that was asked was how important is a relationship while trying to complete a degree or train for a job? Depends on the person. Some can function very well by themselves and don't really need a partner. There are others who are co-dependent and feel as if they need the support from a significant other.
For me, it's a question of time-management.

--T

[kcantankerous]

Seems some of you keyed on "energy sucking" what I mean is relationships can take up alot of energy and time. I wanted to emphasise that although it sure does make it seem negative. But seriously Tamie understands what I was getting at anyways any other thoughts?

[GQguy]

I am soooo mmilitary now. I look at it in terms of what supports or hinders my mission. ?The mission being to graduate and move on. Some relationships will hinder your ability in the clasroom by taking up all available free time and energy. Some relationships can settle you down and get you into a routine that is necessary for success in the classroom. The other variable is your personality type like Tamia said....codependant or independant.
In my experience with woman I can never decide if i want a relationship or not...love or lust seems to just kick me in the .....
anyway good luck bro. Sounds like you have your priorities straight.
GQguy