Bad News....

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Some of you already know about my friend and her surgery. For those who don't, my closest friend was taken to the hospital. Later that night she was operated on and her mother was told either she would not survive the surgery or she would survive and never be the same again. She survived the surgery but they could not remove the entire tumor from her stomach. Yesterday, her mother was told my friend would not live through the week. I was texting with her mother and my friend is being taken home so she can die there. I don't know if I will get to see her one last time before she passes on. :cry1: :cry1: She is like a sister to me ever since we grew close in our sophomore year of high school. I was able to text with her last night and we said all the "I will miss you's" and the "I love you's" before she stopped responding. I don't why she stopped responding but it was about midnight so she just might have been tired.

[isabeau]

hon i'm so sorry about this..if she wants to see you, will you go visit her? i would suggest doing that, if she would like it that is..and hon, i'm a pm away...pm me anytime... love you

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

hon i'm so sorry about this..if she wants to see you, will you go visit her? i would suggest doing that, if she would like it that is..and hon, i'm a pm away...pm me anytime... love you

Of course I will go visit her if her mother will allow it. Her mother doesn't think it is a good idea right now. Thank you Izzy. :twohugs:

[F.L. Atlanta 10]

I am so sorry to hear that TicklishGrl4Lfe. My thoughts and prayers go to you, your friend, and her family.

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

I am so sorry to hear that TicklishGrl4Lfe. My thoughts and prayers go to you, your friend, and her family.

Thanks hun, I appreciate it.

[F.L. Atlanta 10]

Thanks hun, I appreciate it.

You are more than welcome my dear. :twohugs:

[BLUE_THUNDER]

im positive everyone on the forum who reads this thread will be keeping your friend in their thoughts, i know i will.........

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

im positive everyone on the forum who reads this thread will be keeping your friend in their thoughts, i know i will.........

Thank you Blue_Thunder.

[milagros317]

I am very sorry to this tragic news, TG4L. :(
Of course you have the sympathy and support of your friends here. :grouphug:

[venray]

My prayers are with you hon...........

[ShadowTklr]

Please accept my sincerest sympathy regarding your friend. This is heartbreaking news. I'll hope for a miracle for her, and I hope you'll get a chance to see her. I'm sure it would mean a lot to her. My best wishes.

[isabeau]

o hon..if i had known this last night, i would never have posted that poem..

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

o hon..if i had known this last night, i would never have posted that poem..

Thank you everyone. It really helps to have you guys to talk to. It means the world to me that you care. I really do hope that I do get to see her again. Isabeau I thought that poem was beautiful, and I appreciate you for posting it. :redheart:

[RobAce]

TG4L,
words can not express the feelings I have hearing this.
I cant even begin to imagine what your friend is going through. Knowing the end is so close...not having enough words or time to be with those you love, all that you will miss...........
Words cant even begin..........
I will pray for her, but I know there is little I can do for her.
But I will worry about you, facing life now down one true friend and dare I say sister. I know nothing will ever replace her, and nothing ever should...but if you need to vent, or need an ear (or a monitor in this case) I will be here for you and Im sure your many friends on the forum will echo my sentiment that if you need us, just give us a holler.
I dont know you that well TG4L, but Im sending a hug and a shoulder your way.

With deepest sympathies, and hopes that you will make it through,
Robert

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

TG4L,
words can not express the feelings I have hearing this.
I cant even begin to imagine what your friend is going through. Knowing the end is so close...not having enough words or time to be with those you love, all that you will miss...........
Words cant even begin..........
I will pray for her, but I know there is little I can do for her.
But I will worry about you, facing life now down one true friend and dare I say sister. I know nothing will ever replace her, and nothing ever should...but if you need to vent, or need an ear (or a monitor in this case) I will be here for you and Im sure your many friends on the forum will echo my sentiment that if you need us, just give us a holler.
I dont know you that well TG4L, but Im sending a hug and a shoulder your way.

With deepest sympathies, and hopes that you will make it through,
Robert


Thank you so much. I know life is going to be harder for me now. She recently was pregnant with twins and she miscarried. Then she caught her fiance cheating with another woman. I helped her through that and she helped me through the loss of my beloved pet Casper.

[isabeau]

Thank you so much. I know life is going to be harder for me now. She recently was pregnant with twins and she miscarried. Then she caught her fiance cheating with another woman. I helped her through that and she helped me through the loss of my beloved pet Casper.

o god hon...that poor baby..such an awful lot of tragedy in such a short time..this is truly unfair..i will be thinking of you this week of course..and remember as i said earlier..you can pm me anytime..

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

o god hon...that poor baby..such an awful lot of tragedy in such a short time..this is truly unfair..i will be thinking of you this week of course..and remember as i said earlier..you can pm me anytime..


Yeah, she was absolutely devasted. Thank you for your kind thoughts Melanie.

[Mitchell]

I am so very sorry to hear about your best friend, Angel. I want to extend my deepest heartfelt prayers to you, your friend, and your friend's family.

Mitch

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

I am so very sorry to hear about your best friend, Angel. I want to extend my deepest heartfelt prayers to you, your friend, and your friend's family.

Mitch

Thank you Mitch.

[Mimi]

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I am so very very sorry, sweetie. I lost my best friend in the world a few years back to health issues, but it was sudden and unexpected (for me, anyway....he seemed to know his time was coming soon, even though he was only 34), and I never got to say goodbye. I was so angry about that for the longest time...I finally erected a memorial to him online and wrote my goodbyes and everything I wanted to say that way. It helped bring me some closure, though I still miss him so damn much. So I know all too well the pain you're experiencing right now. I, along with others in this thread, will continue to pray for a miracle that she somehow pulls through this. And if God simply must take her now, then I will pray for you and her family to find the strength to go on, as hard as it will be.

I send my love...

Mimi :twohugs:

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

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I am so very very sorry, sweetie. I lost my best friend in the world a few years back to health issues, but it was sudden and unexpected (for me, anyway....he seemed to know his time was coming soon, even though he was only 34), and I never got to say goodbye. I was so angry about that for the longest time...I finally erected a memorial to him online and wrote my goodbyes and everything I wanted to say that way. It helped bring me some closure, though I still miss him so damn much. So I know all too well the pain you're experiencing right now. I, along with others in this thread, will continue to pray for a miracle that she somehow pulls through this. And if God simply must take her now, then I will pray for you and her family to find the strength to go on, as hard as it will be.

I send my love...

Mimi :twohugs:


Thank you so much Mimi. I am sorry you had to go through the same pain I am expierencing now. She is too young in my opnion(18) to go but she will most likely go. Thank you for sending your prayers for me and her family.

[Mufasa]

i will be praying for her. i really dont know what to say. im speechless... that situation sounds so bad. ill be praying for her, you, and her friends and family. im so sorry.

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

i will be praying for her. i really dont know what to say. im speechless... that situation sounds so bad. ill be praying for her, you, and her friends and family. im so sorry.

Thank you hun. I am trying to be strong but it is so hard.

[Dário F]

I really don't know whathelse to say that it hasn't been said yet in a sad time like this... only that i too feel for you in this hard moment, and i too will be praying hard for something to happen that can save your most dear friend. You have my most deepest sympathies TG4L.

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

I really don't know whathelse to say that it hasn't been said yet in a sad time like this... only that i too feel for you in this hard moment, and i too will be praying hard for something to happen that can save your most dear friend. You have my most deepest sympathies TG4L.

Thank you Dario.

[focus]

Sorry to here about your best friend, best friends are very hard to come by and my prayers go out to her and her family and you for always being there for her....

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Sorry to here about your best friend, best friends are very hard to come by and my prayers go out to her and her family and you for always being there for her....

Thank you focus, I really appreciate the support, hun.

[Mastertank1]

I'm about 3x your age;
I have lost best friends and loved ones entirely too many times.
Both parents, all 4 grandparents, my favorite 2 uncles, my favorite cousin.
When I was 16, the first girl I ever loved , aged 15, was killed by Amlyotrpic Lateral Sclerosis (Lou Gherig's Disease) after a 1 year illness. For that entire year, we knew she was going to go, and that there was nothing anyone could do about it.
She was in training to be a ballerina, and the disease first stole her dancing from her, and then her gracefulness, and then all motion, and finally her life. By that time the end came as a relief to her.
For years I hated the universe and God for what had happened to her, but I got over it.
The most helpful thing I can say, I guess, is that time will dull the pain, but it will not fade the good memories, which will still be there 40 years later. I know this, because mine are.
I will pray for you, and for her.
In case you need a sympathetic ear to cry into, or even just to vent at, I will send you my home phone number in a PM. Look for that one, as I'm sure you must be getting many right now.
Mitch
aka

[kered]

Like Mimi and some others in this forum I have also been in your shoes. It is very hard to get this type of news. I will be sending good thoughts your way and praying for the best. Keep your chin up, Blondie.

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

I'm about 3x your age;
I have lost best friends and loved ones entirely too many times.
Both parents, all 4 grandparents, my favorite 2 uncles, my favorite cousin.
When I was 16, the first girl I ever loved , aged 15, was killed by Amlyotrpic Lateral Sclerosis (Lou Gherig's Disease) after a 1 year illness. For that entire year, we knew she was going to go, and that there was nothing anyone could do about it.
She was in training to be a ballerina, and the disease first stole her dancing from her, and then her gracefulness, and then all motion, and finally her life. By that time the end came as a relief to her.
For years I hated the universe and God for what had happened to her, but I got over it.
The most helpful thing I can say, I guess, is that time will dull the pain, but it will not fade the good memories, which will still be there 40 years later. I know this, because mine are.
I will pray for you, and for her.
In case you need a sympathetic ear to cry into, or even just to vent at, I will send you my home phone number in a PM. Look for that one, as I'm sure you must be getting many right now.
Mitch
aka


Thank you so much hun.

[Bugman]

So sorry to hear that Angel,our thoughs and prayers are with you your friend and her family.

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

So sorry to hear that Angel,our thoughs and prayers are with you your friend and her family.

Thank you hun.

[kurchatovium]

I am so sorry Angel. If you need to talk please feel free to pm me. You and your friend are in my thoughts and prayers. :wub: :redheart:

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

I am so sorry Angel. If you need to talk please feel free to pm me. You are in my thoughts and prayers. :wub: :redheart:

Thank you Kurchy.

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

AHHHHHHHHHHH! Alright, my best friend Kayla passed away at 4:20 and I just found out. I can't believe I didn't get to see her one last time. :dropatear :dropatear :cry1: :cry1:

[PainTrain]

I am so sorry for your loss. Rest easy knowing that she is in a better place, one without pain, fear and loss. And rest easy knowing that you'll see her again one day.

[kered]

I am so sorry for her family and you, Angel. Be strong.

[Bugman]

Angel I'm so sorry for your loss.I know what it's like to lose a close friend without seeing them one last time.If i can be of any help at all please p.m. me anytime.:grouphug:

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Thank you everyone. I am really trying to be strong.

[RobAce]

TG4L,
Be happy that she is no longer suffering, and is in a much better place now. Be thankful for the times you two shared, and perhaps it was best for you not to see her at her worst....so you can always remember her at her best.
When my grandmother passed, she had severly deteroriated and though her alzheimers was bad....I was one of 3 people she remember and held a picture of. I couldnt be there to see her and though I ached for the longest time not being able to see her (heck Im crying now as I think of it), I think that it was best that my last image of her was not of her suffering.
I know it might be little condolence for you, but I know that she knew that you loved her....and that you will always think of her.
I really like what Mimi said....create an online memorial for her, tell her what you want. Keep her in your heart and mind and she will still always be with you.
Stay strong girl.....you have a lot of support....like the Spinner's sang...
"If ever you need me, Ill be there....Ill be Around"

With my deepest sympathies for you and her family....
Robert

May Kayla rest in peace.....

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

TG4L,
Be happy that she is no longer suffering, and is in a much better place now. Be thankful for the times you two shared, and perhaps it was best for you not to see her at her worst....so you can always remember her at her best.
When my grandmother passed, she had severly deteroriated and though her alzheimers was bad....I was one of 3 people she remember and held a picture of. I couldnt be there to see her and though I ached for the longest time not being able to see her (heck Im crying now as I think of it), I think that it was best that my last image of her was not of her suffering.
I know it might be little condolence for you, but I know that she knew that you loved her....and that you will always think of her.
I really like what Mimi said....create an online memorial for her, tell her what you want. Keep her in your heart and mind and she will still always be with you.
Stay strong girl.....you have a lot of support....like the Spinner's sang...
"If ever you need me, Ill be there....Ill be Around"

With my deepest sympathies for you and her family....
Robert

May Kayla rest in peace.....


Thank you and I am thinking that a online memorial would be great since I did not get to say goodbye to her.

[brokenblue]

I'm so sorry for your loss Angel. Please feel free to p.m. me anytime. :grouphug:

[Angel_2]

I am so sorry for your lose Angel, I know its hard but at least now she is at peace with God. If you need to talk you know I am always here for you.

[4Pawz]

I can't put into words how sorry I am for you and your friend. Just know she will always be with you in your heart. It's okay to try to stay strong, just remember, you need to express yourself too. Don't be afraid to be sad, to cry, or even to be angry. If you feel like you want to talk to someone, please do, because holding things like this in will only make it more difficult for you. I didn't know you or your friend, but if you ever need a shoulder or an ear, I'm here. You can send me a PM and I'm usually home in the late evenings so I will respond at that time. We are all very sorry for your loss and we are all thinking of you both right now. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. Hang in there

Hugs

Pawz

[giantfan121262]

Words cannot express how sorry I feel for you. In an attempt to find a rainbow in a really dark cloud, I would be relieved that she is no longer suffering, but I'm sure the grief is overshadowing that, I know that is how I would feel.

Stay strong, you have alot of support here from what I see in all the sincere posts.

Again, I am really sorry.

[isabeau]

as i was reading through this thread again, i noticed the addition to your signature and knew your friend had died, even before i read your post stating that..i'm truly sorry hon..hm sounds like she had much tragedy in her short life..so now she can be happy and at peace. and with those twins she miscarried..pm me anytime..she was so young and that just doesn't seem fair..but sometimes what i do is think maybe somewhere down the road something she wouldn't have been able to deal with at all might have happened...so she was taken before that event occurred.. i know that's rather stupid but i like to think that way when someone young dies..

[Feathery]

My thoughts and prayers go out to you at this time.

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Thank you everyone. I appreciate the kindness and consideration put into the most sincere posts I have ever read.

[ticklishscribe]

My thoughts and prayers are with you Angel.

A ling time friend of mine suddenly died of cardiac arrest in his dodcor's office. I got this news the day i had to put my dog to sleep. I shall miss him and my dog.

Again my thoughts and prayers are with you. pm, e-mail or phone me if you need to.

[tickleshotel]

Ticklishgrl4lfe,aww hun I am so sorry to hear about your friend passing,how close she was to you and that you weren;t able to say goodbye to her . I am only a PM away hun,I know it is hard to be strong but as time goes by,it will heal all your grief now..The idea of a Online memorial suggested earlier is a wonderful idea,also what you might like to do is when your feeling up to it start writing a few things about her that you remember the times you shared together,what a special person she was in your life and others lives,and when I have done that in the past when I knew someone who was dear to me passed,it actually helped me feel a little better though truth be told,the paper I wrote on was never dry..
Luv ,hugs hun :cuddle:

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Ticklishgrl4lfe,aww hun I am so sorry to hear about your friend passing,how close she was to you and that you weren;t able to say goodbye to her . I am only a PM away hun,I know it is hard to be strong but as time goes by,it will heal all your grief now..The idea of a Online memorial suggested earlier is a wonderful idea,also what you might like to do is when your feeling up to it start writing a few things about her that you remember the times you shared together,what a special person she was in your life and others lives,and when I have done that in the past when I knew someone who was dear to me passed,it actually helped me feel a little better though truth be told,the paper I wrote on was never dry..
Luv ,hugs hun :cuddle:

Thank you TS and Tickleshotel. I am thinking of what I want to put in her memorial but it is making me want to cry again.