My friend was approached by a foot fetishist. Are we creepy?

[Whoviantrekkie]

So I woke up today with a status update from a friend of mine, we'll call her Sam just for protection purposes, and she posted something that made me think a bit today. I don't talk to Sam much anymore but I've known her since high school and we've been through a lot together in the past. She's a somewhat attractive blonde girl who's not fat but has a big kind of build. She wears flip flops a lot and I know from a lot personal experience that her feet are extremely ticklish. She doesn't know about my fetish at all but there was a never a need to say anything. Anyway my point.

So apparently her boyfriend had just dropped her off at the mall and when she was completely alone a guy with a camera walked straight up to her and asked her to take pictures of her feet for his website. Her immediate reaction was to run into straight into the mall as fast as possible. She was genuinely terrified of this guy mostly due to the fact that he did this in a public setting and waited until she was completely by herself not just because her boyfriend left but in public she was alone too.

It made me think and it really disturbed me honestly. I mean I've seen dozens of videos here of women who get approached by the same type of guys and have been turned on by it. But this is the first time where I've heard of a situation where its actually happened to someone that I know pretty well actually.

My instinct when I first heard this story was that she made the right call but the other part of me really started thinking to myself if I was at all "creepy" for liking this sort of stuff in the past. I mean maybe the guys was legitimately running a website or maybe this guy was a rapist I have no idea, but either way it really made me question myself. Am I some sort of creeper for having this fetish or am I just letting one idiot get to me? Or was this guy not an idiot and my friend didn't make the right call?

 

[milagros317]

This guy was an idiot. What he did is equivalent a vanilla guy going up to a strange woman in the mall and asking to photograph her clothed breasts for his website.

 

[Mitchell]

As one of the biggest foot fetishists of the forum, I can answer this..

What the guy did to your friend was definitely creepy. Approaching a stranger in a mall and asking to take foot pics, is, to me, the equivlant of forced foot play. I've never done that.

Many foot fetishists have probably done "unadvisable" things regarding feet. I'm guilty of asking both my friend Adam's sister, and my ex best friend's sister, to smell their feet, and take pictures of their feet. At the time I asked both of them, I was in my late teens, they were in their early 20s, and both already involved with their bfs, who have since become their husbands. Of course, both girls said no to my requests, as they felt it inappropriate.

Asking girls you know well to do things to their feet? Maybe not appropriate, but not.. all the way out there. What happened to your friend, completely creepy.

Mitch

 

[rhiannon]

Am I some sort of creeper for having this fetish or am I just letting one idiot get to me?

Having a fetish doesn't make you a creeper. Hitting up random strangers to indulge you does!

So unless you are running around tickling unsuspecting women, you don't appear so creepy to me!

 

[Clm128]

haha walking up and asking a stranger to take picture of there feet is creepy, taking the pictures from a far however without them knowing....much better.

joking both are creepy and I've seen both and am not a fan of the creepy side of it al though. having a foot fetish bait myself ill still look at the pictures lol. its like posting a picture of a girl up naked in a change room (or anywhere just an example) and saying u took the picture from the vent. i think its horribly wrong what u did but I'm probably still gonna peep the pic. if you tell me you wouldn't your a liar.

 

[SamuelKhan]

He was probably too cheap to pay a model to show off their feet on his website so he heads to a mall (for some reason, that is so 1980's) and trolls like those dudes on "Swamp People" on History Channel, and looks to strike gold.

Realbaresoles has a site where he snaps pics of ladies feet in the park, but I think he has their permission though.

The creep in the mall needs the Joe Friday treatment....
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[Whoviantrekkie]

Thanks you guys. I needed this. That said I sent her a private message apologizing, coming out about my foot fetish. And that we're not all a bunch of creeps.

 

[Clm128]

Thanks you guys. I needed this. That said I sent her a private message apologizing, coming out about my foot fetish. And that we're not all a bunch of creeps.

How did she respond to that ?

 

[pfromptown]

That guy was a ****. It really gets my blood up when slobbering twats like that shame and embarrass the rest of us in this way.

 

[c7_assassin]

Thanks you guys. I needed this. That said I sent her a private message apologizing, coming out about my foot fetish. And that we're not all a bunch of creeps.

I don't think you had any apologies to make. You're no more responsible for that creep's behaviour than you are for any other form of sexual harassment.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

What makes a person creepy is indulging there desires or fetishes to a stranger. There is a thing called personal space and this guy invaded it. He may think he is being complementary to her but not all women want guys ogling at there body parts. Let alone what they may do to themselves with a photo of that body part. If you know what I mean.

 

[TickVix]

It's interesting that I stumbled upon this thread because last week a friend of mine was also approached by a man who adored her feet. It was a nice day and some people pulled out their sandals including her. She told me that he said "I love your nail polish and I'd kiss your feet if you'd let me". Now, I'm understanding of men with foot fetishes and I'm not here to judge anyone for I wouldn't want to be judged myself. However, if I were to be approached in that same manner, I'd find his approach to be a little disturbing. Not because he admires women's feet, but because I wouldn't know him from a hole in the wall, and that's not a topic you'd expect someone to just share in passing. Now if it's a guy I've known for a while, or someone I'm dating....hey I'm all for it, but if you only saw me for the first time heading to work or wherever, then unless we have some type of rapport. I don't think I need to know what a random stranger wants to do to my feet. Just being honest.

 

[Whoviantrekkie]

How did she respond to that ?

I'll let you guys know if she ever responds.

 

[BigJim]

http://www.californiabeachfeet.com/


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MABORLQ5CNc

 

[ticklemepls]

I dont think having the fetish makes you a creeper.... I think how people ACT on it makes them a creeper. I have a foot fetish in addition to tickling, and even I can say that it would be highly weird and uncomfortable for someone I dont know to walk up to me and request something like that.... I'd run too...

 

[WorkInProgress]

Yes, a number of people have pointed up an important distinction. For every existing sexual proclivity which can be consummated between consenting adults, there are two basic groups: those who can control themselves and those who can't. The fact that you have a foot fetish doesn't make you responsible for the actions of foot fetishists who can't control themselves. A couple of weeks ago, I witnessed a photo shoot in front of the New York Public Library, on a Saturday after the library was closed, where a guy was taking picture after picture of a young woman's feet, in a way that made clear it was for foot fetish purposes. I don't know what the exact setup was, but the two were clearly in agreement about what they were doing--very different from the scenario if the guy with the camera had just walked up to somebody out of the blue.

 

[BigJim]

No-one commented on my post above, so I'll be less subtle.

There are several video producers, both for feet and tickling, who approach people in the street or another public place and ask them if they'd care to model. I linked to one of them and linked to a sample clip of theirs on Youtube too.

Thoughts?

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

We tickle people are certainly an interesting bunch. On the one side, we shun notions of normalcy. We're proud of being different, even (dare I say it?) "deviant." Who wants to be "normal?" That's for "vanillas," etc etc etc.

On the other hand we're constantly wringing our collective hands over being perceived as "creepy." Don't do that, it's "creepy." You'll never get girls that way. You have to present yourself as a normal guy.

We are a community in conflict over this concept. This word "creepy" has a lot of power in this community. In my opinion, too much power, especially considering that it's a very blurred line between "deviant" and "creepy." If some people think you are creepy for being into tickling and feet, just shine them on. Life's too short to worry about what people think of you. Embrace your creepiness, and wear it proudly.

 

[kopfhorer]

So I woke up today with a status update from a friend of mine, we'll call her Sam just for protection purposes, and she posted something that made me think a bit today. I don't talk to Sam much anymore but I've known her since high school and we've been through a lot together in the past. She's a somewhat attractive blonde girl who's not fat but has a big kind of build. She wears flip flops a lot and I know from a lot personal experience that her feet are extremely ticklish. She doesn't know about my fetish at all but there was a never a need to say anything. Anyway my point.

So apparently her boyfriend had just dropped her off at the mall and when she was completely alone a guy with a camera walked straight up to her and asked her to take pictures of her feet for his website. Her immediate reaction was to run into straight into the mall as fast as possible. She was genuinely terrified of this guy mostly due to the fact that he did this in a public setting and waited until she was completely by herself not just because her boyfriend left but in public she was alone too.

It made me think and it really disturbed me honestly. I mean I've seen dozens of videos here of women who get approached by the same type of guys and have been turned on by it. But this is the first time where I've heard of a situation where its actually happened to someone that I know pretty well actually.

My instinct when I first heard this story was that she made the right call but the other part of me really started thinking to myself if I was at all "creepy" for liking this sort of stuff in the past. I mean maybe the guys was legitimately running a website or maybe this guy was a rapist I have no idea, but either way it really made me question myself. Am I some sort of creeper for having this fetish or am I just letting one idiot get to me? Or was this guy not an idiot and my friend didn't make the right call?

The man who accosted your friend was being totally uncool IMO.

@DontAskJusTickle - You make some good points.

 

[Speedbump]

Everyone can be creepy regardless of their fetish. Don't let one bad apple spoil the bunch.

Besides "creepy" is entirely an opinion, and not everyone feels or uses it the same way. Ssomething tells me that this guy has done this in the past and likely some girls were fine with it. Not every girl will be freaked out by his approach. Everyone is different.

And it was also a STATUS UPDATE ON FACEBOOK. It could have been exaggerated for more likes and comments. lol

 

[ArchNemesis]

I'm a creepy fuck, and make no apologies for it. That said, there's much creepier men in prison who I never want to meet so I keep my creepiness to myself unless I'm in a creep-friendly environment....strip clubs, dungeons, and the like.

 

[TheTicklist]

This guy was an idiot. What he did is equivalent a vanilla guy going up to a strange woman in the mall and asking to photograph her clothed breasts for his website.

Nailed it.

You're not a creep if you're a fetishist. You ARE a creep if you can't stop yourself from soliciting strange women for cheap thrill photos.

 

[Dussicar]

Nailed it.

You're not a creep if you're a fetishist. You ARE a creep if you can't stop yourself from soliciting strange women for cheap thrill photos.

But if the women were strange to begin with, wouldn't that make everything kosher?

 

[1TicklishLass]

I wasn't going to post my opinion on this topic, but hey, since so many are weighing in I thought I'd toss in my two cents.....

Every human is a potential victim, women especially. Learning how to defend yourself is more affordable than ever. It's always better to never need it than to need it and say "I wished I'd taken those classes!" Whether it's 'creepy' or not is subjective and open to interpretation. If your friend felt uncomfortable she made the right choice.
Appealing as it is to go with the majority, I simply cannot. I cannot fault someone for expressing their appreciation for beautiful feet and asking to photograph them (there are plenty of artists who photograph all sorts of ordinary people and assorted human parts everyday) and to me it is much the same as seeing a beautiful face and saying "Wow, you are really beautiful do you mind if I photograph you?" Nor can I fail to see how such a thing would make your friend uncomfortable. Human interaction is inherently unbalanced and judged by the two parties interacting. I can't really come down on either side.

I am proudly different. I love tickling and I am not afraid to admit it openly and just who decides what is deviant and what isn't? Perhaps this is my libertarian nature rearing it's live and let live head, but if two adult parties are consenting, how is this deviant?
A wise friend once said: We never see the world as it is, we see the world as WE are. I'm sure the implication is plain.

 

[TheTicklist]

Maybe the simple truth is ..tickling or foot fetishism on their own aren't creepy, but this guy really might have been . something sounded the alarm in her head