I can't say what the average lee expects from a average ler. But i think its not looks alone (which may be the first attraction) but the chemistry, vibes,the mystery, intrigue, will the hype match the performance, its the initial attraction.
A lee once said to me you are so hard to fathom, your never the same twice running, and the surprise element is a thrill, the wicked glint in your eyes and the variety makes it good. That was her opinion but it wasn't looks because i'am not young or good looking a bit shall we say rough diamond approach, we just hit it off from the start, and the social side was just that social casual rather than a serious affair there was a romantic element.
I think the fact that i was clean, caring, considerate and didn't treat the lee as a "tickle slave object" went a long way. For me i like a lee to have fun and enjoy what i'am trying to do its all about suiting each other, we worked well together.
Things don't always go that well its very often my fault and sometime the lee's. its all about being right together, at the right time and place, and having trust and respect.
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