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Look what an earful I get and it's all awful too
Every time I try to go get me a little tickle.
-Bob Dylan
How low can you go?
Some of us - and I most definitely include myself in this group - stomp around the Forum like little caesars, talking to other members like we own the place, like we invented the fetish. Not only are we relentlessly negative to each other, we're negative to innocent members of the board, folks who are not part of the Snark Mafia, people who mean no harm to anyone but are getting inhibited to post because they don't want their heads bitten off. I know this, because they've told me! And even if they didn't, I can see it and so probably can you.
Don't get me wrong: there's definitely times where people may get a little sharp, maybe someone is acting like an ass and they need to be put in their place... maybe there's a subject where there a two divergent points of view......I'm not saying we aren't going to have those instances.....but every day? Every thread? No poster is spared?
When one of the friendliest, sunniest members of the Forum told me last night that they were getting shy about posting because they were sad - and hurt - about all the negativity, I felt like things have gone far enough that perhaps we should address it right here, out in the open.
I take ownership for some of this. SOME, not all. I get into it often, not every day! I mean, it seems like there are some on this board that can't get through a day without undercutting, undermining, embarrassing, humiliating, discouraging, negating some other member of the Forum, often multiple times a day. If you're one of these people, make no mistake about it: you're a troll, and you need Anti-Troll Cream.
But like I said: it's me too. Me too with great frequency, and I'm ashamed to admit it. I am most definitely in the top percentile, so I'm not shaking the finger at just other people. The other day we're having a little back and forth about movies, and Cosmo_ac leaves a very reasonable comment with not a trace of unfriendliness.....and I jumped all over him. And he was echoing something I had already written! I couldn't even agree to agree. And I know I'm not the only person who has this problem. I get into it often with someone who shares mostly - or entirely - the same viewpoints and we split hairs for pages. We can't agree to agree.
And so Cosmo, brother, will you please accept my sincerest apologies for my rude attitude? You innocently contribute to a thread and next thing you know you're in the ring with some obnoxious guy called The Internet, sorry man. Jeff, even moreso. I got into it with TMFJeff! TMFJEFF! Am I bats?!!!!
Milagros wished me DEATH....TWICE, recently! MORTO! No more Leo! It doesn't get sunnier and friendlier than Milagros! I'm running out of friends to lose in this place! If Milagros is wishing me off the face of the planet, something is amiss....and it ain't Milagros!
Sharing is bragging?
This is a little side-street, in fact this could probably be its own thread, but let me get this out here.
I don't know when this phenomenon started, but my gosh, it didn't use to be like this. Back in the day, if you scored yourself a tickle, you'd come here, share it with the group, and we'd all go "yay! Good work, son!" or "Good for you, sis!"
It's with this spirit that I share my own experiences in pertinent threads. Well.....when I first did this when I rejoined, I learned quick how times had changed. People jumped all over me like monkeys. And these were stories of pretty benign tickles; not goosing strangers or anything. Next thing you know, page after page of bickering. ???WHAAAAT????? I thought I'd just be sharing a memory for the Forum, I wasn't expecting the Spanish Inquisition!
A friend of mine, he's been having great luck lately. He doesn't feel comfortable sharing his good fortune here! I mean, he can share it with me, but he has completely been inhibited from posting them for the larger community, lest he be accused of "bragging". Me too!
If I share an experience, I'm not bragging. Bragging? Like what....I am the greatest tickler ever? That would be bragging. Sharing my good luck with the only people on the planet who might understand and appreciate it? I don't understand why someone would be perturbed by that. I've been single for many years now, I'm not sitting here cross-eyed with lust and yearning, and saying "Bah Humbug" to those who are currently getting lucky. And usually when I'm sharing something, I'm doing it in hopes someone else will share their experiences. Not to "get off" on, just because we've all been there! Maybe I'll learn a new trick or something?
Does this really bother people? Or is it just, like, one or two? I thought that's what we're here to do in the Tickling Discussion forum: discuss tickling!
Doing My Part
Maybe some of us just need to shut the fuck up. Like me, for instance! The Golden Rule: if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it. Maybe I just shouldn't interact in comments with people, at least not in this section, since I can't play nice. Or whatever, I don't have to be legalistic about it, but I'm going to try and do MY part to improve the vibe around here, and that means turning the other cheek. "He who covers over an offense promotes love". And i hope we can all pitch in, those of us culprits, let's clean up the joint, it smells like coffee and cigarettes in here. Open up the window, let some light in. Let's let the Forum breathe. Let new voices populate rather than the same old grouches. The grouches should be shepherding and encouraging the shy and the meek, not biting their heads off!
One Last Apology For The Road
The list is long so let me just make it a blanket statement: if I've hurt anybody's feelings, if I've crossed a line, if I've made someone feel reticent about posting.....if I've even just irritated you or pissed you off or was a stone in your passway in any way......I am truly sorry. I used this line before privately but I want to say it everybody: when I first came back to the TMF, I wanted to be like Santa Claus. Not Satan Claus!
So to the you-know-who-you-ares and to the ones that I may don't even know, to all of us, I'm begging on my bended knees, under your window and yelling it at ya: please....lay down your arms!
Every time I try to go get me a little tickle.
-Bob Dylan
How low can you go?
Some of us - and I most definitely include myself in this group - stomp around the Forum like little caesars, talking to other members like we own the place, like we invented the fetish. Not only are we relentlessly negative to each other, we're negative to innocent members of the board, folks who are not part of the Snark Mafia, people who mean no harm to anyone but are getting inhibited to post because they don't want their heads bitten off. I know this, because they've told me! And even if they didn't, I can see it and so probably can you.
Don't get me wrong: there's definitely times where people may get a little sharp, maybe someone is acting like an ass and they need to be put in their place... maybe there's a subject where there a two divergent points of view......I'm not saying we aren't going to have those instances.....but every day? Every thread? No poster is spared?
When one of the friendliest, sunniest members of the Forum told me last night that they were getting shy about posting because they were sad - and hurt - about all the negativity, I felt like things have gone far enough that perhaps we should address it right here, out in the open.
I take ownership for some of this. SOME, not all. I get into it often, not every day! I mean, it seems like there are some on this board that can't get through a day without undercutting, undermining, embarrassing, humiliating, discouraging, negating some other member of the Forum, often multiple times a day. If you're one of these people, make no mistake about it: you're a troll, and you need Anti-Troll Cream.
But like I said: it's me too. Me too with great frequency, and I'm ashamed to admit it. I am most definitely in the top percentile, so I'm not shaking the finger at just other people. The other day we're having a little back and forth about movies, and Cosmo_ac leaves a very reasonable comment with not a trace of unfriendliness.....and I jumped all over him. And he was echoing something I had already written! I couldn't even agree to agree. And I know I'm not the only person who has this problem. I get into it often with someone who shares mostly - or entirely - the same viewpoints and we split hairs for pages. We can't agree to agree.
And so Cosmo, brother, will you please accept my sincerest apologies for my rude attitude? You innocently contribute to a thread and next thing you know you're in the ring with some obnoxious guy called The Internet, sorry man. Jeff, even moreso. I got into it with TMFJeff! TMFJEFF! Am I bats?!!!!
Milagros wished me DEATH....TWICE, recently! MORTO! No more Leo! It doesn't get sunnier and friendlier than Milagros! I'm running out of friends to lose in this place! If Milagros is wishing me off the face of the planet, something is amiss....and it ain't Milagros!
Sharing is bragging?
This is a little side-street, in fact this could probably be its own thread, but let me get this out here.
I don't know when this phenomenon started, but my gosh, it didn't use to be like this. Back in the day, if you scored yourself a tickle, you'd come here, share it with the group, and we'd all go "yay! Good work, son!" or "Good for you, sis!"
It's with this spirit that I share my own experiences in pertinent threads. Well.....when I first did this when I rejoined, I learned quick how times had changed. People jumped all over me like monkeys. And these were stories of pretty benign tickles; not goosing strangers or anything. Next thing you know, page after page of bickering. ???WHAAAAT????? I thought I'd just be sharing a memory for the Forum, I wasn't expecting the Spanish Inquisition!
A friend of mine, he's been having great luck lately. He doesn't feel comfortable sharing his good fortune here! I mean, he can share it with me, but he has completely been inhibited from posting them for the larger community, lest he be accused of "bragging". Me too!
If I share an experience, I'm not bragging. Bragging? Like what....I am the greatest tickler ever? That would be bragging. Sharing my good luck with the only people on the planet who might understand and appreciate it? I don't understand why someone would be perturbed by that. I've been single for many years now, I'm not sitting here cross-eyed with lust and yearning, and saying "Bah Humbug" to those who are currently getting lucky. And usually when I'm sharing something, I'm doing it in hopes someone else will share their experiences. Not to "get off" on, just because we've all been there! Maybe I'll learn a new trick or something?
Does this really bother people? Or is it just, like, one or two? I thought that's what we're here to do in the Tickling Discussion forum: discuss tickling!
Doing My Part
Maybe some of us just need to shut the fuck up. Like me, for instance! The Golden Rule: if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it. Maybe I just shouldn't interact in comments with people, at least not in this section, since I can't play nice. Or whatever, I don't have to be legalistic about it, but I'm going to try and do MY part to improve the vibe around here, and that means turning the other cheek. "He who covers over an offense promotes love". And i hope we can all pitch in, those of us culprits, let's clean up the joint, it smells like coffee and cigarettes in here. Open up the window, let some light in. Let's let the Forum breathe. Let new voices populate rather than the same old grouches. The grouches should be shepherding and encouraging the shy and the meek, not biting their heads off!
One Last Apology For The Road
The list is long so let me just make it a blanket statement: if I've hurt anybody's feelings, if I've crossed a line, if I've made someone feel reticent about posting.....if I've even just irritated you or pissed you off or was a stone in your passway in any way......I am truly sorry. I used this line before privately but I want to say it everybody: when I first came back to the TMF, I wanted to be like Santa Claus. Not Satan Claus!
So to the you-know-who-you-ares and to the ones that I may don't even know, to all of us, I'm begging on my bended knees, under your window and yelling it at ya: please....lay down your arms!
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