jayson752003
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Well....since I've read this advice many times when a male is in the position that you are in....have u thought about "Lee'ing" and letting him work you over every now n then?
get a new man in your life, it's never going to get better.
steve
Thank you! I'm glad you could see how through my pov I could be taking what you were writing.
And I'm VERY happy to see you seem to understand what I am saying now by what you wrote here. I look forward to further updates. Because at the end of the day... its that continued communication, information, and understanding of each others needs that will keep you both on the same page. Thats at the heart of what I want for you both by adding my 2 cents like this. (Albeit hardcore... but safety is a big priority for me.) *high 5*
NO... We gave you the specific advice to help you. I think what you really want is to NOT give him OPTIONS to be able to say NO to you. I know exactly what you think he MIGHT feel... but thats the problem- you are thinking FOR HIM. Believe it or not.. Vanillas and Men CAN come to sound decisions based on FACT. You don't want to give the options of safe words? Fine... good luck to HIM and your need to do whatever the hell you want. Fuck his needs. Fuck his comfort level. Right? Forming opinions for others is WRONG. He has a brain. Let him use it once in awhile.
Do you have a conscience? Because the way you're handling this speaks otherwise.
You are a disgusting, psychotic bitch. Attacking the OP all because she said she thought her boyfriend would rather just say stop instead of having another word. Tell me moron, how is that not giving him freedom? Are you too stupid to know what the word stop means? Does the little dumb ass not know how to read?
You attack her conscience and say she doesn't care about him. All because she said he'd rather use stop instead of another specific safeword. You are the one who has issues here, freak. Get them resolved.
You are a disgusting, psychotic bitch. Attacking the OP all because she said she thought her boyfriend would rather just say stop instead of having another word. Tell me moron, how is that not giving him freedom? Are you too stupid to know what the word stop means? Does the little dumb ass not know how to read?
You attack her conscience and say she doesn't care about him. All because she said he'd rather use stop instead of another specific safeword. You are the one who has issues here, freak. Get them resolved.
Some of these comments similar to others in the past remind me of some reasons why I took a break from TMF. In my humble opinion did I think what CapturedDoll said to be a little vulgar mabey, but it was clearly a misunderstanding as by her immediate response. But in no way did it warrant your rude intervention Baker_Ben. anonymiss86 can speak for herself and she did followed by a response from CapturedDoll that basically said she thought something else was being said hence a misunderstanding. It's fine to come to the defense of another fellow TMF member, but that's not the way to do it people just don't respond to words like that and now you're ignored by possibly more than just CapturedDoll.
We all love many of the same things let's just get along people lol.
Whoa guys! Captured Doll, no need to apologize... I admittedly was a bit taken back by your original response only because it didn't dawn on me that I might be coming accross that way and definitely didn't expect it but felt an explanation was in order, which it turns out it was, as I didn't want others thinking that about me, as well. Ben, thank you for standing up for me. I do appreciate that you are looking out for your fellow TMFers, but the name calling is certainly not necessary. I know I'm not abusive and I felt her comments were coming more from concern from a misunderstanding from what I was saying rather than an attack or slander. Especially because her comments prior to that had been really positive and helpful. Had her original comments not been so beneficial I might have taken it differently, as well. But I try not to take things out of context. Deacon, I know exactly what you mean and am always on and off TMF for the same reasons and you are correct in the rest of your response, as well. In the wise words of Deaconmye "we all love many of the same things. Let's just get along, people!" and maybe someday I will be satisfied with my boyfriend's ticklishness and all will be well! But for now that takes a back seat as my head spins with the Holidays! Haha!
As for myself I do get a little heated every blue moon. This is a good reminder to continue reining this part of me in. No matter how well intentioned I was... I just wanted to get through to her. But there are far better ways to do it. Like: "I need better clarification to understand where you are comimg from."
Lesson learned!
Whoa guys! Captured Doll, no need to apologize... I admittedly was a bit taken back by your original response only because it didn't dawn on me that I might be coming accross that way and definitely didn't expect it but felt an explanation was in order, which it turns out it was, as I didn't want others thinking that about me, as well. Ben, thank you for standing up for me. I do appreciate that you are looking out for your fellow TMFers, but the name calling is certainly not necessary. I know I'm not abusive and I felt her comments were coming more from concern from a misunderstanding from what I was saying rather than an attack or slander. Especially because her comments prior to that had been really positive and helpful. Had her original comments not been so beneficial I might have taken it differently, as well. But I try not to take things out of context. Deacon, I know exactly what you mean and am always on and off TMF for the same reasons and you are correct in the rest of your response, as well. In the wise words of Deaconmye "we all love many of the same things. Let's just get along, people!" and maybe someday I will be satisfied with my boyfriend's ticklishness and all will be well! But for now that takes a back seat as my head spins with the Holidays! Haha!
Also I asked him if I could try tickling him after he cums and I don't think I've ever seen a more horrified look on his face. I'm not sure he even answered me. I think he just looked at me like I was a terrible person. Lol!