I prefer it when the rule is ignored. Genders, roles and sexual preferences are not always apparent, and I don't mind if someone pops up in a chat window and asks. I don't always watch the main chat window when I'm on there, and I would be upset if someone I liked didn't IM me because of the rule and we missed out on a good conversation.
Saying that, I can see why some people prefer the rule to be there.
Well my gender and preferences are on my profile, but I was only just now told by someone that if they are on a mobile then they are unable to, or perhaps they meant it's hard for them to look at it. Often what tends to happen when these PM's pop up, the first thing they throw at you is something like; "M/ler/37, or whatever, I guess meaning they expect you to give the same info about yourself right back to them. But I just say "not interested, thanks" and X out the box. Out of the hundred or so times this has happened, twice it was people claiming to be female, so of course I doubted it. Later someone told me they knew one of them and said yes, she is a she, but .....she never got in touch again either. The other one that messaged was also confirmed for me as being real, but this person, for whatever reason, when pm'ing, says very little. In fact very next to nothing. So the whole thing is like....wtf?????
I really do think it's best to just get to know the people on the main board. If people want to PM me who I don't know from the main board, I'm all ears, but they should at least have something to say about themselves, and be SOMEWHAT articulate. Oh, and have the courtesy to say goodbye before leaving. This is very rude, and seems to happen all the time; interrupting me when I'm trying to write something on the board, so I take the time to talk to them, they say a few offbeat things, then suddenly leave without notice.
Someone told me it may be because they're getting kicked off because of "java". Well I'm not too sure about that. Maybe, maybe not. I just think many just like to PM and they don't even place much importance on it. I'll go and message the person who PM'd me, asking, "Hey, where did you go?" and they don't write back. Likely they just moved on to someone else.
I'm not gonna take any of it seriously, I'll say THAT much.