Preface: This is my partners kink, I've known about it for ages, I've found I like it and this is how sex has always been for us for probably 4 years.
This is a really hard question to have to ask, but it's one I don't think I can approach my partner with at the moment. Or not at least until I've sorted my head out. So. My partner really wants children in the future (God please no-one hate me for asking/saying this. I am genuinely losing sleep over this). There is this horrible fear that's been eating away at me at the back of my mind that if we have kids and he tickles them that because it is so heavily associated with sex that there might be crossed wires in his brain and it might be awkward or weird, or god forbid something else. I do not think he is a paedophile. I just don't know if the two things can be disassociated at this point -- ticking as innocent fun and tickling as.. you know, other fun. God I feel like such a horrible person for typing this, I don't mean to disrespect any of you. I am genuinely just looking for help.
This is probably going to sound so obvious and ugh. But if you have kids do you feel awkward tickling them? Do you just generally avoid doing it? Does it feel weird? I guess I'm trying to relate it in my brain to how tickling feels to most people, to how it is for him (and relating how weird it would feel to do other fetishes in a non sexual context)
Idk if I'm making sense. I'm really sorry again. This is a 100% serious post. I love my partner and I don't want to bring this up to him under the assumption I don't trust him, because I do. I just need to understand
This is a really hard question to have to ask, but it's one I don't think I can approach my partner with at the moment. Or not at least until I've sorted my head out. So. My partner really wants children in the future (God please no-one hate me for asking/saying this. I am genuinely losing sleep over this). There is this horrible fear that's been eating away at me at the back of my mind that if we have kids and he tickles them that because it is so heavily associated with sex that there might be crossed wires in his brain and it might be awkward or weird, or god forbid something else. I do not think he is a paedophile. I just don't know if the two things can be disassociated at this point -- ticking as innocent fun and tickling as.. you know, other fun. God I feel like such a horrible person for typing this, I don't mean to disrespect any of you. I am genuinely just looking for help.
This is probably going to sound so obvious and ugh. But if you have kids do you feel awkward tickling them? Do you just generally avoid doing it? Does it feel weird? I guess I'm trying to relate it in my brain to how tickling feels to most people, to how it is for him (and relating how weird it would feel to do other fetishes in a non sexual context)
Idk if I'm making sense. I'm really sorry again. This is a 100% serious post. I love my partner and I don't want to bring this up to him under the assumption I don't trust him, because I do. I just need to understand