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Writing a positive article about tickling and need your help

MaxSpeer

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In the midst of an extremely busy schedule, I had a dream about writing a fetish positive article about tickling for a vanilla publication. The article would focus primarily on what I call "Lifers", defined as males and females who have had a lifelong fetish of tickling rather than someone who was introduced to it later and grew to like it.

The article, possibly called, "Laughing Matters - Coming out as a tickling fetishist and the argument for hardwiring", will compile life experiences ranging back to the single digit age when the tickling fetish began to take roots. My aim is to present a case that the Lifer's experience of tickling didn't simply come from situations in childhood or having a bf/gf who introduced it, but rather, like LGBT, it was part of our genetic makeup.

Here is where you wonderful people can chime in. If you are indeed a Lifer, I want to hear from you. Because the content contains experiences as a child, don't post here but rather send it to my email: [email protected]. You do not need to say who you are and I won't contact you unless you state that I can in order to clarify something you said.

What I need is the following:

1. State your sex and age
2. Write what age the feelings began for you
3. Write about any early memories that stand out relating to your growing interest in tickling
4. When did it become a sexual thing
5. How did it affect (positively or negatively) your early relationships
6. How you felt growing up with the fetish (odd, alone, alienated, different or positive feelings)
7. When and if you came out
8. How it is for you now socially, personally (Do you still keep it to yourself, do you share with lovers or friends, are you in a TK relationship and if so, are you both Lifers)
9. Do you also have a fetish for tickling or admiring a certain body part. (I have found that Lifers, more than those introduced to it later on, also have fetishes for body parts like feet, belly, armpits, etc.)

Many of you know my long standing role in this Community and I hope you realize that I am not fishing for a cheap thrill by asking for this information. I had a dream that stuck and feel that this is something that needs to be said. The last dream was NEST and I think it turned out pretty well.

I am not writing this to declare to the general public that tickling is the next cool thing. My aim is to make an argument for hardwiring rather than this fetish being a life choice. Those Lifers here know what I am talking about and I have spoken with many people over the years that tell me that it just sprung up when they were very young and grew as they did. I have also had many conversations with people that seem to have had the same fantasies and desires but had an entirely different upbringing.

How is it that someone born in the UK to a working class, single parent household and a wealthy person born in the US to a double parent household share the exact some body/tickle/fantasy fetish? Their fetish certainly didn't develop through environmental experiences. This is my argument for hardwiring, DNA, genes, or whatever you want to call it.

Of course, when I finish this project I will share it here. With any luck, I can get a legit publication to read it and find it interesting enough to publish. In any event, the conversation is just beginning.

(Again, please don't write childhood experience on this post. However, we can start a discussion about hardwiring.)

Thanks Guys!

Max
 
I just sent you a PM with my answers, Max. Due to my answer to your #4, it can not be posted here on the TMF.
 
Interesting idea.
So what's the aim of it? Why do you think "vanillas" have to know this and what for? I think we already know that this special interest in tickling is hardwired.
Do you think we should be compared to LGBT?
Just asking.
 
I think a lot of what has been written about tickling (especially the bad vibe from the TICKLED movie) has looked at it like a cute and fun way to "spice up a love life". Like I stated, I'm not trying to make any declarations like some have tried in the past, but rather ask that this fetish be legitimatized as a fetish and not a lifestyle choice. I truly feel that, like a LGBT person, a Lifer has felt all of their life, that they carry this desire.
This is not to say that we need to march or declare our equal rights. The LGBT community has faced many years of discrimination and it's understandable that they speak out.
However, I feel that it's important to validate these desires on a genetic level in order to understand ourselves.
How many of us spent a great deal of our youth thinking, "What is wrong with me?" "Why can't I be like everybody else?" I know I had. How many of us tried to change, purge our stuff, or force ourselves to NOT think about tickling when we're in a sexual mood. What if I was to say, "This is what you are. Embrace it. Love yourself. Accept that these desires have been with you and will continue to be with you. Don't fight it."
If I can approach the article with case studies of people from different parts of the world having these desires from early childhood and into adulthood, and all come from different upbringings and environments, I can (at least) start a dialogue that the tickling fetish is real and not just a fun lifestyle choice.
Just as far Right conservatives believe that being Gay is a lifestyle choice, and the gay person can make a choice to change, I believe that Lifers cannot be converted.
 
I'll give you some info. For what it's worth though I hope you don't go that route of "the persecuted tickle people demand to be respected!" or anything like a lot of people feel compelled to do in the wake of D'amato being exposed to the public. Few fetishes are inherently as creepy as a defensive fetishist is.
 
I'll give you some info. For what it's worth though I hope you don't go that route of "the persecuted tickle people demand to be respected!" or anything like a lot of people feel compelled to do in the wake of D'amato being exposed to the public. Few fetishes are inherently as creepy as a defensive fetishist is.

That's exactly why I said I have nothing to "declare". I agree. Over the years there have been a few that hit the mainstream and wanted to tell the world that tickling was this big "thing". I have no intention on doing that. No one wants anyone to declare anything about their sex life.
 
Thanks to all the people that responded. Every story is important to make my case. However, I need more - much more. You may respond via private message here if you don't want to email me. And again, your anonymity is guaranteed. I only want to refer to your "story" and Aunt Millie's name (or whomever you tortured or were tortured by as a kid) will not be used.

Thanks!
 
Just sent you an email with my professional email account. I'm​ looking forward to reading this article once finished.
 
While I GREATLY appreciate the responses I got. I still need lots more to make a case.

Please take a moment to send me the info I need. No need to be lengthy. I just need data from many different people.

Thanks!!
 
In the midst of an extremely busy schedule, I had a dream about writing a fetish positive article about tickling for a vanilla publication. The article would focus primarily on what I call "Lifers", defined as males and females who have had a lifelong fetish of tickling rather than someone who was introduced to it later and grew to like it.

The article, possibly called, "Laughing Matters - Coming out as a tickling fetishist and the argument for hardwiring", will compile life experiences ranging back to the single digit age when the tickling fetish began to take roots. My aim is to present a case that the Lifer's experience of tickling didn't simply come from situations in childhood or having a bf/gf who introduced it, but rather, like LGBT, it was part of our genetic makeup.

Here is where you wonderful people can chime in. If you are indeed a Lifer, I want to hear from you. Because the content contains experiences as a child, don't post here but rather send it to my email: [email protected]. You do not need to say who you are and I won't contact you unless you state that I can in order to clarify something you said.

What I need is the following:

1. State your sex and age
2. Write what age the feelings began for you
3. Write about any early memories that stand out relating to your growing interest in tickling
4. When did it become a sexual thing
5. How did it affect (positively or negatively) your early relationships
6. How you felt growing up with the fetish (odd, alone, alienated, different or positive feelings)
7. When and if you came out
8. How it is for you now socially, personally (Do you still keep it to yourself, do you share with lovers or friends, are you in a TK relationship and if so, are you both Lifers)
9. Do you also have a fetish for tickling or admiring a certain body part. (I have found that Lifers, more than those introduced to it later on, also have fetishes for body parts like feet, belly, armpits, etc.)

Many of you know my long standing role in this Community and I hope you realize that I am not fishing for a cheap thrill by asking for this information. I had a dream that stuck and feel that this is something that needs to be said. The last dream was NEST and I think it turned out pretty well.

I am not writing this to declare to the general public that tickling is the next cool thing. My aim is to make an argument for hardwiring rather than this fetish being a life choice. Those Lifers here know what I am talking about and I have spoken with many people over the years that tell me that it just sprung up when they were very young and grew as they did. I have also had many conversations with people that seem to have had the same fantasies and desires but had an entirely different upbringing.

How is it that someone born in the UK to a working class, single parent household and a wealthy person born in the US to a double parent household share the exact some body/tickle/fantasy fetish? Their fetish certainly didn't develop through environmental experiences. This is my argument for hardwiring, DNA, genes, or whatever you want to call it.

Of course, when I finish this project I will share it here. With any luck, I can get a legit publication to read it and find it interesting enough to publish. In any event, the conversation is just beginning.

(Again, please don't write childhood experience on this post. However, we can start a discussion about hardwiring.)

Thanks Guys!

Max

1. 30 year old male
4. When I regularly started visiting the Tickling emporium was the catalyst.
5. Shy to the point where I've rarely had relationships. The relationships that I've have had been with shy girls without any exploration of fetish into my sex life.
(to be more exact the 1st was with a Mormon classmate...meanwhile I was raised in the conservative alternative to the mainline Dutch denomination...9 man football High School & college conference context)
6. Felt odd growing up with the fetish.
7. Have not came out to anybody.
8. Hopefully #5 answers that.
9. thighs
 
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Thank you.
Anyone else may PM me or send to my personal email ([email protected]). Again, if you are open to follow up questions let me know. Otherwise, I will not respond to your private emails.
 
I don't necessarily believe we're hard wired for this or any other act. These are just my thoughts and not backed by any evidence, save my interpretation of what I've personally experienced, but I've found if I'm less focused on tickling -- that is, not writing stories so much, not interacting with the community, and having my energies focused on moving forward with my life -- my interest towards tickling wanes. That's not to say I'm not interested at all, but the more I include it in my life, through writing usually, the stronger my urges and thoughts about the topic become. This has led me to wonder if acting upon the idea of tickling, actualizing it, is what cements it within our personalities, rather than becoming hard wired towards it.

Of course, I'm not sure. I'll respond with my information privately in a few minutes here.
 
I started to write mine for you Mr. Speer but I have not been able to get back to it to finish it yet. I'll try to get it done by next weekend.
 
1. Spain, male, 18 yo
2. When i was really young i thing, but it started like when i was 8-9 yo maybe.
3. When i started like wanting to tickle friends that were girl or looked at their feet i started thinging if that was normal and i starte searching for it.
4. When i started thinking if that was normal and when i search it i looked clips, forums etc, but didnt enter too much to forums cause i was under 18.
5. Not much cause i didnt have too much relationships and with the girls that were my friends i used to massage and tickle sometimes like a joke, but i never tied up someone to tickle cause anyone know this thing about me.
6. At start i though i was like a rare person cause i liked way more my fetish than actual porn(yeah thats strange actually), but after years i liked it and i knew if i like something i have to use it in my favour, and now i like it and i find it normal but im still shy to tell people about my fetish and i dont really find anyone with it to test, cause i said i never tied up anyone etc.
7. Never told anyone except in this forums and some girl that has fetish in the games i play on internet etc, but 1 or 2 ppl, no more.
8. I don't tell it to anyone, but if i have a relationship or lovers, or some friend that is a girl and i thing she has a fetish i would tell them for sure and with education tell them that i like that and mention about trying it in a way they are comfortable without scaring them.
9. I like tickling every part of the body so i like everything, just like tickling if she is a girl, but i like every part of the body for tickling.
 
It's been a little time since I posted this and I thank everyone who sent me information. I have been involved in a move so it's been difficult for me to sort through everything.I have also been involved in more vanilla writing projects so I apologize for the delays.

I still need more people to respond so that I can create a record of similarities and differences. Please refer to my first post for information about submissions.

Thanks everyone and I hope you all had a great summer.

Max
 
Hey Max, are you still in need of submissions? I'd love to give my responses, if they would be useful.
 
Hey Max, are you still in need of submissions? I'd love to give my responses, if they would be useful.

Yes I plan to. A good article needs a ton of data and, even though I’ve gotten a bunch of responses, I need more points of view to make it valid.

Keep in mind that I’m not trying to legitimize tickling or make it mainstream. I believe our efforts in the past have failed horribly. One thought is that tickling is often viewed as an attack, or the fact that it makes you laugh lessens its impact. It also could be that it’s a lot more sexual than people will admit and it’s embarrassing.

For whatever reason, I want to write an article about TK that comes from our point of view without lessons on how to tickle someone or anything else that’s been done many times before.

Having a little personal history is important because many Lifers grow up in different, varied environments, yet somehow develop identical details of their fetish.

Are we all just cut from a handful of molds or is there something else going on? I grew up without the internet so I was not influenced by tickling forums or videos, yet I have friends with identical details in their fetishistic preferences like myself.

So, friends, write on.

Max
 
In the midst of an extremely busy schedule, I had a dream about writing a fetish positive article about tickling for a vanilla publication. The article would focus primarily on what I call "Lifers", defined as males and females who have had a lifelong fetish of tickling rather than someone who was introduced to it later and grew to like it.

The article, possibly called, "Laughing Matters - Coming out as a tickling fetishist and the argument for hardwiring", will compile life experiences ranging back to the single digit age when the tickling fetish began to take roots. My aim is to present a case that the Lifer's experience of tickling didn't simply come from situations in childhood or having a bf/gf who introduced it, but rather, like LGBT, it was part of our genetic makeup.

Here is where you wonderful people can chime in. If you are indeed a Lifer, I want to hear from you. Because the content contains experiences as a child, don't post here but rather send it to my email: [email protected]. You do not need to say who you are and I won't contact you unless you state that I can in order to clarify something you said.

What I need is the following:

1. State your sex and age
2. Write what age the feelings began for you
3. Write about any early memories that stand out relating to your growing interest in tickling
4. When did it become a sexual thing
5. How did it affect (positively or negatively) your early relationships
6. How you felt growing up with the fetish (odd, alone, alienated, different or positive feelings)
7. When and if you came out
8. How it is for you now socially, personally (Do you still keep it to yourself, do you share with lovers or friends, are you in a TK relationship and if so, are you both Lifers)
9. Do you also have a fetish for tickling or admiring a certain body part. (I have found that Lifers, more than those introduced to it later on, also have fetishes for body parts like feet, belly, armpits, etc.)

Many of you know my long standing role in this Community and I hope you realize that I am not fishing for a cheap thrill by asking for this information. I had a dream that stuck and feel that this is something that needs to be said. The last dream was NEST and I think it turned out pretty well.

I am not writing this to declare to the general public that tickling is the next cool thing. My aim is to make an argument for hardwiring rather than this fetish being a life choice. Those Lifers here know what I am talking about and I have spoken with many people over the years that tell me that it just sprung up when they were very young and grew as they did. I have also had many conversations with people that seem to have had the same fantasies and desires but had an entirely different upbringing.

How is it that someone born in the UK to a working class, single parent household and a wealthy person born in the US to a double parent household share the exact some body/tickle/fantasy fetish? Their fetish certainly didn't develop through environmental experiences. This is my argument for hardwiring, DNA, genes, or whatever you want to call it.

Of course, when I finish this project I will share it here. With any luck, I can get a legit publication to read it and find it interesting enough to publish. In any event, the conversation is just beginning.

(Again, please don't write childhood experience on this post. However, we can start a discussion about hardwiring.)

Thanks Guys!

Max

At the risk of sounding like a killjoy, I think the 'born this way' debate is a complete red herring. I'm a tickle fetishist, and it certainly *feels* innate. If it was proven not to be, I see absolutely no reason why I should try to change, because that's NOT what makes it okay. The problem with the oppositions' argument that "it's all environment, you weren't built that way" is that if there was overwhelming evidence to demonstrate it's innate, they'd just move the goal posts and say "Well so what? Don't make it right. It's abnormal." The topic of fetishes is an interesting one, and part of what we could discover is how they're caused. But I just wanted to throw my perspective out there. Trying to validate a fetish takes the onus off those who need to present what's wrong with it. I'd even add that I think when it comes to a tickle fetish, most people are probably literally ignorant. It's not like LGBT where pretty much everyone has an opinion or, at the very least, awareness that they exist.
 
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Hi All!

This is my first post/reply on TMF and if there ever was a topic to finally jump in on this it it!

I’m an older guy who has been obsessed with tickling woman’s feet for my whole life. I can remember being a little boy and being completely aroused both mentally and physically from my own created fantasies of girls having their feet tickled. But unfortunately, I have lived my whole life with the shame and embarressment of having this deep seeded passion and thus have lived in secret about my fetish (until now I guess!)

I can honestly say I was born this way. I have no understanding of why feet and tickling turns me on so much or where it came from. It’s just a part of who I am.

I would never say that I can in any way fully understand the hardships that someone in the LGBT community must endure in trying to live freely as who they truly are. But because of my experience I think I can empathize with their plight of trying to come to terms with sexual desires that you fear others might shame and mock you for possessing.

I have just recently decided to finally explore my love of tickling and hope someday soon to experience the joy of tickling the soft, adorable and most importantly very ticklish feet of a compassionate and understanding women.

Having said all that I believe any way our shared fetish can be more understood and hopefully accepted by the general public can only be applauded. I am in total support of this article.

Thanks for welcoming me to the community!
 
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