http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2009/10/tickedoff_by_tickle_attacks.html
My thoughts are she seems extremely ticklish...
My thoughts are she seems extremely ticklish...
Actually, I had not noticed that. Good of you to point it out.Yeah, yeah the guy's a dick. But did anyone else notice Prudence used the word "session" to describe It?
An even bigger asshole reported on just a few days ago:
DEAR AMY: My stepdad tickles me a lot. I’ve told him to stop, that I don’t like it and that it makes me uncomfortable. When I get mad about him tickling, especially when I’m feeling sick, he starts to go out of his way to tickle me more and even warns me about it. He tells me, “I’m gonna tickle you more now,” and when I say “no” he says, “It wasn’t a question.”
Sounds like she's horribly ticklish lol
It looks like a fake story to me written my a fetishist to get his jollies.
What looks like a fake story? ..........
Couldn't agree more! The boyfriend should approach it in a respectful manner and discuss it. If she doesn't like it, then he should respect those boundaries. If it is an issue beyond repair, then they need to separate. I had a relationship about 5 years ago with an extremely sensitive woman. She hated being tickled. We set boundaries and she knew everything about my fetish. She would allow for light tickling every so often. Nothing extreme and no bondage. We did eventually move on for different reasons. My point is that respect and understanding work. And to this day, she is one of the only people who knows the full extent of it. And one of the only ex-girlfriends who is still a very close friend.
Exactly. Respect is essential.
However, I think it highlights one of our biggest paradoxes. We tickle fetishists love ticklish girls. The more ticklish the better, usually. Yet, the more ticklish a girl, the least likely she will be to find enjoyable what is essentially a form of mild psychological torture. Striking gold is not to find the most ticklish lee on the planet, rather than reach a balance between our pleasure to see her "suffer" and her actual "suffering". In practice, it can be more complicated than it sounds.
In my own experience, I have encountered several instances of very ticklish dates who did not like at all the feeling of helplessness and utter loss of control that tickle torture brought them. I even met a girl who was into hardcore S&M stuff (BCP, scarification...), and yet who was - rather ironically in regard of her usual practices - terrified at the prospect of prolonged tickling.
This paradox is something we must deal with early on.
It looks like a fake story to me written my a fetishist to get his jollies.