Well I am not familiar with your original post, but I will share my experience. Note: I do not speak for all women on here.
Overall I think I have been treated fairly well here. Sure I have had my share of creepy PM's, but those are easy enough to ignore. I obviously take the necessary steps to protect my anonymity, as I would not want just anyone from here to be able to find me in real life. Since I feel safe, my time on the TMF has been very enjoyable. If that ever changes for some reason, I simply will not come back.
One thing I will say however, is I that have learned to be selective with what I share and what I do not share. There was a time when I first found this site and it was so exciting for me to finally have an outlet to engage with others in this fetish that I was pretty nuanced about my sexuality. I could finally let loose and engage in a side of me in a way that beforehand, I could only do around my husband. It was fun, new and liberating for me. In response to that, some of the messages guys sent me were pretty shocking, even by the standards of an online fetish forum even though my profile is pretty clear that I am married and not looking to meet up with anyone from here. Since then, I have used a bit more caution.
I also use the chat room to stay connected with a handful of friends I have made here. As just about any woman who spends time there could identify with, I get a ton of PM's there too. Most of them are just people trying to be nice and I really do not mind them. However, I invariably get really creepy messages, which again, I just clix the "x" on the chat box and put that individual on ignore.
But like I said, a lot of the people there are really nice and I have gotten some PM's from guys who were being really nice and thoughtful and I have actually had some great and enlightening conversations.
Anyway, I think it was a nice gesture of you to reach out like this, Mr. Cool. Simply posing a question does not make you a social justice warrior in my opinion, but I think your assertion that we are all viewed as objects is a bit broad. Sure, there are some guys here who view us that way, but for the most part, I myself have been treated respectfully.