You bring up a good point about all the penis' and vaginas all over the place. That's a turn-off for me, I'm a big fan of partial nudity, (probably a fetish itself) and hardcore stuff is really a turn off. I don't know if it'd be possible for Fetlife to figure a "turn-off" switch into the coding...or maybe, ask you in the beginning, I don't know, something so you could elect to see stuff or not. Now I'm probably just being prudish, and after all, it is a sex site.
You came too late. Just like this group and others, times changed. People changed. Not usually for the better. Fetlife used to be more about real people. True BDSM players. People who met, were flesh and blood, very detailed scenes of substance. Now it's about the fakers, guys pretending to be girls, and cheap porn level players like you find here, C4S, and everywhere else. The genuine and sincere people are still out there, but lesser each day and usually invisible.
I decided to take a break from fetlife today, mainly because I wanted to see if I'd miss it... I don't
I love FetLife, but then again I am into loads more than just tickling. I have a lot of BDSM friends on there that obviously aren't on here.