I think it's good but it's better for maybe a dating site? fetlife is ok as a community but you really can't filter who you're looking for, what you're looking for, etc. You can describe yourself, blog, and join communities/discussions. I'm very blah on my profile myself, and post here and there. ....I'm still waiting for the social "spark" others seem to get. but it's good to know there's people out there who share.
sorry for the non-help help.