Would you tell a vanilla girl you saw her in a fetish video???

We all know vanilla [not a regular fetish model, or girl who is in the bdsm/fetish lifestyle] girls who are fantasies for us in one way or another. Maybe you wanted to see their feet, but they never wore open shoes, or took them off in front of you. Maybe you wondered if she was ticklish, or not. Maybe you listened to her laugh, and wondered how she would sound if she were tickled. Mind you, never once did you bring up those topics with her. So one day, you hit one of your favorite clip stores or websites, and there she is, doing exactly what you fantasized or wondered about!!! Now, here is where it becomes more interesting. Do you tell her you saw her, and ask questions about how it happened, and how was it? Or do you savor the material, and keep your mouth shut knowing that someone out there got her to do what you wanted to do, and found out what you wanted to know?

i would shut up , or try to bring the topic of fetish innocently .... who is she ? ^^

jediofthefeet said:

We all know vanilla [not a regular fetish model, or girl who is in the bdsm/fetish lifestyle] girls who are fantasies for us in one way or another. Maybe you wanted to see their feet, but they never wore open shoes, or took them off in front of you. Maybe you wondered if she was ticklish, or not. Maybe you listened to her laugh, and wondered how she would sound if she were tickled. Mind you, never once did you bring up those topics with her. So one day, you hit one of your favorite clip stores or websites, and there she is, doing exactly what you fantasized or wondered about!!! Now, here is where it becomes more interesting. Do you tell her you saw her, and ask questions about how it happened, and how was it? Or do you savor the material, and keep your mouth shut knowing that someone out there got her to do what you wanted to do, and found out what you wanted to know?

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Assuming this isn't just hypothetical;
If she doesn't know you well enough to tell you herself, why do you think she'd want to hear that you know about it?

If she was a friend? Maybe.

If she was someone I just knew, or knew of? Like a cashier at a store I'm at a lot, or just a friend of a friend? No.

This is a fun topic hehe.. To be honest when out in public, if I do hear another chick crack out a nice laugh, I do often wonder how she'd sound if tickled ^_^ my little secret when at the mall shopping hehe

Comfort Eagle said:

If she was a friend? Maybe.

If she was someone I just knew, or knew of? Like a cashier at a store I'm at a lot, or just a friend of a friend? No.

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This, If she was a friend, then I would put it as a question, "Say, did you ever work in video clips?"

That's a sure way to ensure she never does a video again.

marcusb said:

That's a sure way to ensure she never does a video again.

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I hadn't thought of that; that's an excellent point.

jediofthefeet said:

We all know vanilla [not a regular fetish model, or girl who is in the bdsm/fetish lifestyle] girls who are fantasies for us in one way or another. Maybe you wanted to see their feet, but they never wore open shoes, or took them off in front of you. Maybe you wondered if she was ticklish, or not. Maybe you listened to her laugh, and wondered how she would sound if she were tickled. Mind you, never once did you bring up those topics with her. So one day, you hit one of your favorite clip stores or websites, and there she is, doing exactly what you fantasized or wondered about!!! Now, here is where it becomes more interesting. Do you tell her you saw her, and ask questions about how it happened, and how was it? Or do you savor the material, and keep your mouth shut knowing that someone out there got her to do what you wanted to do, and found out what you wanted to know?

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I don't know why I'd think that "someone out there got her to do" this, rather than she sought it out for herself. But to answer, I would only mention it if I felt totally sure we were on the kind of basis to discuss such things. And even then, I'd most likely just allow her to bring it up if she chooses.

Very, very likely not. Besides making the other person uncomfortable, I'd also be hesitant to "out" that aspect of myself too to a stranger or more casual acquaintance. Echoing what was said, I'd have to feel 100% sure we were comfortable enough with each other to discuss things like that.

WraithTickler said:

Very, very likely not. Besides making the other person uncomfortable, I'd also be hesitant to "out" that aspect of myself too to a stranger or more casual acquaintance. Echoing what was said, I'd have to feel 100% sure we were comfortable enough with each other to discuss things like that.

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I agree completely. If it were me I would feel a bit embarrassed if an acquaintance said something to me about it if I were just trying it out for the first time. Now if you see a bunch of videos from different sessions it may be a little different, as it would seem she was more comfortable with it.

If I knew her well enough and we were good friends, maybe. And that's a big maybe because that would mean that my tickle fetish would be revealed to her. If it was someone I just knew of but didn't know personally that well or at all, no.

Someone she doesn't really know bringing it up to her might freak her out and keep her from doing it again. Shit like that could be a reason why many girls turn into "one & dones" after their first shoot. My favorite vanilla that never came back was JaeJae from TickleAbuse.

I certainly wouldn't mention it to a general acquaintance, such as someone who serves me in the pub each week or someone at the local shop... because that:
1) really lacks class
2) doesn't really have the potential for any intelligent conversation around the subject (and if that's not a potential outcome then I see no point in raising it at all, unless you're just looking for the brief satisfaction of a 'gotcha!' moment)
3) seems like an invasion of privacy (both ways - as others have pointed out it would reveal my kinks to a mere acquaintance)

I had not considered the implications of it from the fetish world perspective, so it's interesting to read others points on this - ie. the person may not make another video and in turn this may affect his/her income, may also lose some confidence

Therefore, I am left with the option of considering those I consider friends, or close friends - and when I think of these people, I'd probably say there's only really one or two whom I'd feel I could mention this to - the sort of friends where similar open/sexual conversations have taken place in the past (on a one-to-one basis, not in a group situation) and where these conversations have been two-way (both parties have asked and answered potentially personal questions) - so basically a mutual trust has been formed to the point where you're comfortable with each other and know that if the subject gets a bit out of the ordinary you can either have a great discussion about it, close it down right away without anything further said, or you can laugh it off and move on.

And even then, it's still got the potential to feel horrendously awkward afterwards and leave you wishing you hadn't mentioned it!

Cheers
TTG

I wouldn't tell her.

Instead I would tell: all her friends, her co-workers, her boss, her parents, her chaplain, the guy who delivers the bread, anyone in a shop who is about to serve her, the entire population of North Korea, and of course everyone who works at Disney Land.

Beyond that though I wouldn't want to spread it any further.

WheresThe Clip? said:

I wouldn't tell her.

Instead I would tell: all her friends, her co-workers, her boss, her parents, her chaplain, the guy who delivers the bread, anyone in a shop who is about to serve her, the entire population of North Korea, and of course everyone who works at Disney Land.

Beyond that though I wouldn't want to spread it any further.

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Boy, and I thought I was an asshole! I would tell her if she let me tickle her, I'd keep my mouth shut about seeing her in a video.

WheresThe Clip? said:

I wouldn't tell her.

Instead I would tell: all her friends, her co-workers, her boss, her parents, her chaplain, the guy who delivers the bread, anyone in a shop who is about to serve her, the entire population of North Korea, and of course everyone who works at Disney Land.

Beyond that though I wouldn't want to spread it any further.

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Why would you do that?

robmic said:

Boy, and I thought I was an asshole! I would tell her if she let me tickle her, I'd keep my mouth shut about seeing her in a video.

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Stick with your initial thought.

One time a man walked past me and with lit up eyes and a big smile he told me he loved my necklace. I happened to be wearing my "Barbie" necklace that day. I don't think in my entire time on this planet a man has ever walked up to me before and complimented my jewelry. Not to least mention a person has to really be close to me or have studied me long enought to be able to see what my jewelry says. It's white and gold but hard to see what it says from even a short distance. So... I knew he was drinking me in. lol

Maybe he was trying to just flirt. Maybe he was himself a Bimbo at heart or just loved Barbie. But ultimately I had no choice but to think he knew me from my Tumblr/ Bimbofication account. Now, he did it in such a way that I was fine with. At first... I actually was a bit excited that I had been recognized. But... could that have gone a much different way? YES.

That excitement was short lived. I remember looking around me feeling a bit exposed. Did anyone hear what he said? That compliment, while veiled and 99% of the population would dismiss what he said, and keep walking not thinking anything of it was still exposing. That man could have said something even more exposing. Thankfully he didn't.... but... I walked around the rest of that store quite nervous. Also, I didn't know if this guy planned on waiting for me outside the store. With bad intentions. That experience ended up scaring me and made me further contemplate what am I going to do if someone recognizes me again. My Bf and I have talked about that extensively.

I can't even imagine how I would have felt if he had said something tickling related. Tickle talk is a big deal for me. Sometimes I fantasize that that actually happens. And it's kind of hard to be upset when I put out that content in the first place. BUT: it's an unwritten rule you do NOT approach people about their sexual identity in public. Hate crimes should be the most obvious reason not to. I could have been standing next to someone whos a mass murderer and will kill anyone into Barbie. Or blondes. Thats obviously a silly and extreme point but... is it really so hard a leap to make when the LGBTQ Community members HAS been killed when out and about town for just being themselves? I'm Bisexual and I have never made out with a woman outside of a bar or fetish events. I was in a relationship with a woman for 12 years and we never even held hands in public. For right our wrong... in public she was my "aunt". Sad way to live but... our safety was our first priority.

Another example: prositutes on the street who are killed all the time. Escorts. All because they are willing to go all the way with strangers. Who mask their true intentions. Wow.

Don't put any of us or yourselves at risk. There is a time and place usually to meet your fav women/ men. Like fetish events/ munches/ gatherings in my case. And if not... (meaning either they dropped out/ or there is no dates available for plans to be available then...) the person DOES NOT WANT ANY ATTENTION. PERIOD. Unless THEY bring it up to YOU first.

Now... if I happen to be wearing feather jewerly yeah ok- compliment my jewerly. ONLY if I am wearing something that could be conceived as fetish related. I'll get it. But thats it. Unfortuanetly there are so many bad people in this world... the excitement will wear off quickly... and I'll be concerned for my safety. I have no choice in feeling that way. Most men (its never women btw.. I'm not being sexist lol. ) have made me that way. The constant cat calls... and blaring their horns at me. Following me around whistling at me... following me in grocery stores and concert venues etc etc ETC. This was all before I made one piece of content. And vanillas are no different in their need for privacy. There are rare exceptions but overall... no. If I can respect the privacy of everyones bedroom practices... just the pleasure and enjoyment of people jerking off to me and my creativities... (happily)... you can respect everyone's needs for boundaries. Mine, her's and everyone's. I think thats a fair trade.

I have 911 on speed dial for a reason... and its not because of anyone here. It's all those idiots I have encountered throughout the years. Oh and there are plenty of people who are so conservative that they wish people like me would just get run over by a truck. So... I hope what I have written is the eye opening glimpse of why speaking to a vanilla or anyone about their sexual identity is the worst thing one can do.

I actually appreciate you asking for advice on this. 90% of who I work with is Girl Next Door types and their BIGGEST fear is being outed publicly. It's one thing to get a DM which in it's own terrifies them but to be put on the spot? that's terrifying. Like others have said, if you are really close with them go for it! If not then don't bring it up. It's a soft subject. I've met girls who have done fetish work and recognize ME (this is a little weird for me) and ask to work with me and even then I get weirded out by it so imagine a female who deals with being objectified often. If you ever want to talk with a girl like that ask the producer about it. Some of my models will do private meet and greets through me but not alone or off their own private sessions. I've even had this conversation with Asia Perez and she said she's flattered but sometimes it can backfire on her since people out her at her job and it caused issues. So just be smart and mindful ^_^ don't be a fetish cave troll like some people who can't control their sexual urges. Good on you man

The Tickle Room said:

Some of my models will do private meet and greets through me but not alone or off their own private sessions.

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Come bring me Monica <3

Comfort Eagle said:

Come bring me Monica <3

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I mean if you got the funds lmao

Wolf said:

Why would you do that?

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I keep forgetting you Americans don't do irony.

So okay for the benefit of the original poster, of course you wouldn't tell her, unless you want to come across as some crazed stalker. After all what on earth would be your intended end game, if you did tell her?

I think Captured Doll summed up really well how it would feel to be approached like that.

WheresThe Clip? said:

I keep forgetting you Americans don't do irony.

So okay for the benefit of the original poster, of course you wouldn't tell her, unless you want to come across as some crazed stalker. After all what on earth would be your intended end game, if you did tell her?

I think Captured Doll summed up really well how it would feel to be approached like that.

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I think you mean sarcasm. But Americans definitely do sarcasm.

I was a little confused because a girl who was in a fetish video isn't a "vanilla" girl to me, but I figured out what you meant. I can tell you that I am friends with a lot of girls who are online video cam models, and most of them don't want to be outed. It has happened a number of times, and when I have heard them tell the story about it they are never pleased. You might think that someone who makes fetish videos would be open to the idea that they are going to be identified at some point but in fact a lot of them are keeping their fingers crossed and hoping that no one ever sees a video or sees them on a webcam site and recognizes them. In one case this older woman who was a friend of mine was approached in a Home Depot by a guy who recognized her from the webcam site. He started being aggressive with her and she kicked him right in the jewels. Another friend of mine was recognized in a store while she was pushing her babies in a stroller and the guy came right up to her and started talking about her her web camming. She went off on him for being so irresponsible to do that in front of her kids. I think that if you want to approach someone whom you saw in a fetish video, the best thing to do is drop some very subtle hints in front of them and see if they respond. Assuming it is the correct person they may take you aside and open up to you, or they may realize what you're doing and give you a dirty look in which case you should shut up, or it may even go straight over their head. In any case, she should be the one who opens up about it, and if they don't, you should respect their privacy.

Posted recently a college friend had done exactly that. I said nothing.