One time a man walked past me and with lit up eyes and a big smile he told me he loved my necklace. I happened to be wearing my "Barbie" necklace that day. I don't think in my entire time on this planet a man has ever walked up to me before and complimented my jewelry. Not to least mention a person has to really be close to me or have studied me long enought to be able to see what my jewelry says. It's white and gold but hard to see what it says from even a short distance. So... I knew he was drinking me in. lol
Maybe he was trying to just flirt. Maybe he was himself a Bimbo at heart or just loved Barbie. But ultimately I had no choice but to think he knew me from my Tumblr/ Bimbofication account. Now, he did it in such a way that I was fine with. At first... I actually was a bit excited that I had been recognized. But... could that have gone a much different way? YES.
That excitement was short lived. I remember looking around me feeling a bit exposed. Did anyone hear what he said? That compliment, while veiled and 99% of the population would dismiss what he said, and keep walking not thinking anything of it was still exposing. That man could have said something even more exposing. Thankfully he didn't.... but... I walked around the rest of that store quite nervous. Also, I didn't know if this guy planned on waiting for me outside the store. With bad intentions. That experience ended up scaring me and made me further contemplate what am I going to do if someone recognizes me again. My Bf and I have talked about that extensively.
I can't even imagine how I would have felt if he had said something tickling related. Tickle talk is a big deal for me. Sometimes I fantasize that that actually happens. And it's kind of hard to be upset when I put out that content in the first place. BUT: it's an unwritten rule you do NOT approach people about their sexual identity in public. Hate crimes should be the most obvious reason not to. I could have been standing next to someone whos a mass murderer and will kill anyone into Barbie. Or blondes. Thats obviously a silly and extreme point but... is it really so hard a leap to make when the LGBTQ Community members HAS been killed when out and about town for just being themselves? I'm Bisexual and I have never made out with a woman outside of a bar or fetish events. I was in a relationship with a woman for 12 years and we never even held hands in public. For right our wrong... in public she was my "aunt". Sad way to live but... our safety was our first priority.
Another example: prositutes on the street who are killed all the time. Escorts. All because they are willing to go all the way with strangers. Who mask their true intentions. Wow.
Don't put any of us or yourselves at risk. There is a time and place usually to meet your fav women/ men. Like fetish events/ munches/ gatherings in my case. And if not... (meaning either they dropped out/ or there is no dates available for plans to be available then...) the person DOES NOT WANT ANY ATTENTION. PERIOD. Unless THEY bring it up to YOU first.
Now... if I happen to be wearing feather jewerly yeah ok- compliment my jewerly. ONLY if I am wearing something that could be conceived as fetish related. I'll get it. But thats it. Unfortuanetly there are so many bad people in this world... the excitement will wear off quickly... and I'll be concerned for my safety. I have no choice in feeling that way. Most men (its never women btw.. I'm not being sexist lol. ) have made me that way. The constant cat calls... and blaring their horns at me. Following me around whistling at me... following me in grocery stores and concert venues etc etc ETC. This was all before I made one piece of content. And vanillas are no different in their need for privacy. There are rare exceptions but overall... no. If I can respect the privacy of everyones bedroom practices... just the pleasure and enjoyment of people jerking off to me and my creativities... (happily)... you can respect everyone's needs for boundaries. Mine, her's and everyone's.
I think thats a fair trade.
I have 911 on speed dial for a reason... and its not because of anyone here. It's all those idiots I have encountered throughout the years. Oh and there are plenty of people who are so conservative that they wish people like me would just get run over by a truck. So... I hope what I have written is the eye opening glimpse of why speaking to a vanilla or anyone about their sexual identity is the worst thing one can do.