Tickling that went too far in real life?

I was just wondering if anyone has witnessed,, or been subjected to, a tickling that crossed the line, was actual torture and went far beyond being playful or fun, and crossed the line into dangerous, torturous teritory? Not in a video, but in real life?

Just curious to hear your experiences!

It's not a pleasant example, but I read it in Russian criminal news about a disgusting man who was eventually charged for domestic violence.

He married a woman with a child and he used to beat his stepson when he was drunk and when the wife tried to oppose him he pinned her down and tickled her ribs mercilessly without pause and laughed at her while she was overwhelmed by silent laughter trying to catch her breath and fully submitted to his tickling, not being able to do anything to stop it.

I remember several years back when I did paid sessions and I met up with this guy who took things far in order to get his own way. Before any sessions take place I explain the do's amd dont's from my part and I like acknowledge that the other person may have some limits as well. One major important thing I mention to them is that whether they are used to a safeword or not, I AM! One because I suffer from Asthma, so sometimes when im laughing too hard I tend to get a loss of breath and tend to use the word "yellow" so i can either have a break or take my inhaler. I only use "red" if I want to stop completely.

Anyway, so I'm getting tied up and the tickling begins. Naturally I understand that most men are sexually aroused by tickling and will then develop an erection. That doesnt bother me, what does bother me is that this man, against my wishes started relieving himself next to me to near physical contact. I became uncomfortable and called out "yellow" mainly to remind him of the rules. He chose to ignore me. Then i started to panic and could feel an asthma attack coming on so I called "red" and again he didnt stop. By this time he sits on me to tickle me harder and im screaming RED at this point and he then cups a hand over my mouth to block the noise which left me in a lot of trouble. He only stopped when he realised i was losing colour and wheezed uncontrollably. Luckily I had enough strength to use my inhaler but I was then left with severe bruising on my ribs. Since then I have stopped paid sessions, which a fair few people have questioned me in dissapointment as to why. Well now you know and I'm hoping this will raise awareness.

That was the worst and most terrifying experience of my life and I urge anybody who chooses a playmate to PLEASE respect and look after each other. People are meant to enjoy thwir fetish, not be in danger with it. Also, just because someone does sessions as a business, that does not give the free will to treat them in an abusive manner. They are still human beings with feelings and a soul who are providing a service to make others happy and satisfied. Terms and Conditions are provided for a good reason.

Hyper_Ticklish said:

I remember several years back when I did paid sessions and I met up with this guy who took things far in order to get his own way. Before any sessions take place I explain the do's amd dont's from my part and I like acknowledge that the other person may have some limits as well. One major important thing I mention to them is that whether they are used to a safeword or not, I AM! One because I suffer from Asthma, so sometimes when im laughing too hard I tend to get a loss of breath and tend to use the word "yellow" so i can either have a break or take my inhaler. I only use "red" if I want to stop completely.

Anyway, so I'm getting tied up and the tickling begins. Naturally I understand that most men are sexually aroused by tickling and will then develop an erection. That doesnt bother me, what does bother me is that this man, against my wishes started relieving himself next to me to near physical contact. I became uncomfortable and called out "yellow" mainly to remind him of the rules. He chose to ignore me. Then i started to panic and could feel an asthma attack coming on so I called "red" and again he didnt stop. By this time he sits on me to tickle me harder and im screaming RED at this point and he then cups a hand over my mouth to block the noise which left me in a lot of trouble. He only stopped when he realised i was losing colour and wheezed uncontrollably. Luckily I had enough strength to use my inhaler but I was then left with severe bruising on my ribs. Since then I have stopped paid sessions, which a fair few people have questioned me in dissapointment as to why. Well now you know and I'm hoping this will raise awareness.

That was the worst and most terrifying experience of my life and I urge anybody who chooses a playmate to PLEASE respect and look after each other. People are meant to enjoy thwir fetish, not be in danger with it. Also, just because someone does sessions as a business, that does not give the free will to treat them in an abusive manner. They are still human beings with feelings and a soul who are providing a service to make others happy and satisfied. Terms and Conditions are provided for a good reason.

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OMG, I'm very sorry for what happened to you.. Indeed, there are people with not enough empathy who don't know when it's time to stop.

Hyper_Ticklish said:

I remember several years back when I did paid sessions and I met up with this guy who took things far in order to get his own way. Before any sessions take place I explain the do's amd dont's from my part and I like acknowledge that the other person may have some limits as well. One major important thing I mention to them is that whether they are used to a safeword or not, I AM! One because I suffer from Asthma, so sometimes when im laughing too hard I tend to get a loss of breath and tend to use the word "yellow" so i can either have a break or take my inhaler. I only use "red" if I want to stop completely.

Anyway, so I'm getting tied up and the tickling begins. Naturally I understand that most men are sexually aroused by tickling and will then develop an erection. That doesnt bother me, what does bother me is that this man, against my wishes started relieving himself next to me to near physical contact. I became uncomfortable and called out "yellow" mainly to remind him of the rules. He chose to ignore me. Then i started to panic and could feel an asthma attack coming on so I called "red" and again he didnt stop. By this time he sits on me to tickle me harder and im screaming RED at this point and he then cups a hand over my mouth to block the noise which left me in a lot of trouble. He only stopped when he realised i was losing colour and wheezed uncontrollably. Luckily I had enough strength to use my inhaler but I was then left with severe bruising on my ribs. Since then I have stopped paid sessions, which a fair few people have questioned me in dissapointment as to why. Well now you know and I'm hoping this will raise awareness.

That was the worst and most terrifying experience of my life and I urge anybody who chooses a playmate to PLEASE respect and look after each other. People are meant to enjoy thwir fetish, not be in danger with it. Also, just because someone does sessions as a business, that does not give the free will to treat them in an abusive manner. They are still human beings with feelings and a soul who are providing a service to make others happy and satisfied. Terms and Conditions are provided for a good reason.

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Wow.... this is the sickest, and most disturbing story I have heard yet. I am quite sick to my stomach reading this.

I thought for a long time I too would do paid sessions. It was my dream to become a Pro Domme/ Switch. Not for the cash (though cash is nice of course) but truly because I love this fetish and want every drop I can get. A zilliion ideas as to how I could do this. But... my Boyfriend had to school me REPEATEDLY on what can happen behind closed doors. Especially while restrained. And this is yet another horrific reminder of why I will never do paid sessions. Events only where there are DM's, my Boyfriend, and others around to ensure my and others safety. And your story hits home the most.

As many documentaries as I have watched throughout the years. Sex work/ Escorts/ Porn/ Paid session players like you (former in your case)... this hits home the most. I was able to kind of... seperate the realities of what happens to others because I use to put people on a pedastal here with this fetish. Now... that has waned certainly over the years. People should be taken by a case by case basis. But... wow... this hurts my heart today. Thank you for sharing your story. I personally, will never forget it. And will share it when need be. (Without naming you- I mean in conversations similiar to this thread.) Everyone needs this warning. I can't thank you enough for sharing your story.

Hyper_Ticklish said:

I remember several years back when I did paid sessions and I met up with this guy who took things far in order to get his own way. Before any sessions take place I explain the do's amd dont's from my part and I like acknowledge that the other person may have some limits as well. One major important thing I mention to them is that whether they are used to a safeword or not, I AM! One because I suffer from Asthma, so sometimes when im laughing too hard I tend to get a loss of breath and tend to use the word "yellow" so i can either have a break or take my inhaler. I only use "red" if I want to stop completely.

Anyway, so I'm getting tied up and the tickling begins. Naturally I understand that most men are sexually aroused by tickling and will then develop an erection. That doesnt bother me, what does bother me is that this man, against my wishes started relieving himself next to me to near physical contact. I became uncomfortable and called out "yellow" mainly to remind him of the rules. He chose to ignore me. Then i started to panic and could feel an asthma attack coming on so I called "red" and again he didnt stop. By this time he sits on me to tickle me harder and im screaming RED at this point and he then cups a hand over my mouth to block the noise which left me in a lot of trouble. He only stopped when he realised i was losing colour and wheezed uncontrollably. Luckily I had enough strength to use my inhaler but I was then left with severe bruising on my ribs. Since then I have stopped paid sessions, which a fair few people have questioned me in dissapointment as to why. Well now you know and I'm hoping this will raise awareness.

That was the worst and most terrifying experience of my life and I urge anybody who chooses a playmate to PLEASE respect and look after each other. People are meant to enjoy thwir fetish, not be in danger with it. Also, just because someone does sessions as a business, that does not give the free will to treat them in an abusive manner. They are still human beings with feelings and a soul who are providing a service to make others happy and satisfied. Terms and Conditions are provided for a good reason.

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Oh my god, I’m so sorry that happened to you! Thank you for sharing. ❤️ Some men think just because they paid you to let them touch you in a certain way that gives them the right to do whatever the hell they want, as if they own your body. Your body your rules. This wasn’t consensual non consent this was a total breach of consent. He blatantly ignored your boundaries that were made well known, exposed himself and masterbated in front of you, ignored your safe words, and put your health in danger. What an asshole. I hope he realizes the gravity of what he did so that he doesn’t abuse any other women.

One of the main reasons I stopped doing tickle sessions was in part due to the whole "tickle torture" thing. I understand that there is a clearly made line separating tickle torture and torture using tickling ( if that makes any sense ) but when I'm tickling and I hear "stop" or "no more" even if that's the reaction they wanted. Just turns my stomach

So as a producer I push fetish models to limits past their normal shoot style however they ALWAYS have safe words and I always respect them. Now that being said I've seen footage of one shoot where a popular fetish model quit tickling that day. This producer was tickling and she called her safeword. He didn't stop and you could immediately begin to see the panic in her face. She unfortunately was having an anxiety attack. But he didn't stop even when she started crying. She left without signing a release or getting paid because she was so freaked out.
As per me being in person and seeing it I was really young at a session and I was the escort. Now this model was a friend and I was outside the door with it cracked. She was bedspread and I heard a muffling and him say ow before I heard my friend scream my name. I fly into the room with him naked trying to take my friend. He went to jail and my friend can't even be tied up anymore.
Moral of the story:
Bring escorts if you session.
Follow limits
ALWAYS HAVE A SAFEWORD!!!! if you don't want that and want an intense session have someone who knows your body and discuss medical history prior to shooting
Try to meet session clients or lees.
Look up reviews or ask for references.
Don't be afraid to practice your fetish but also be safe. If you guys ever want to session safely Ask me and I can recommend you to people i personally trust.

I am also a professional switch and I am going to tell you right now that references ultimately mean Jack and shit. Now I will never tell people to not ask for references, but at the end of the day you need to understand all the reference really tells you is how person A acted with person B. You never really know how someone will act with you and trust me it's happened to me too many times. This session I am about to talk about was a prime example of guy who acted different. I got not one, but three glowing references, so I foolishly believed he'd be great. Oh and just so you know one of the models I got a reference from apologize to me afterwards and said she was so sorry he never acted this way with her.

So he booked me a multiple hour session("$") and one of the exciting things is I was the closests professional he had seen thus far. He acted like he would probably see me again in the future. Well from the moment the session started I got really neverous and it unfortunately messed with my sensitivity. He eventually ties me down to his bed naked and starts talking about how sexy I am in a creepy way and voice. I am beyond paranoid and slightly annoyed as well. He starts asking me if everything is okay, but these guys need to understand that when you are tied up and completely at their mercy it can be nerve-racking to tell them how you're actually feeling. You never know how they will react to what you say. He wasn't happy with the reactions he was getting out of me, so he tickles me really freaking hard and I was littered with bruises. He still kept talking about how hot I was and then things got worse. He kept sticking his fingers in my cracks(Ass and pussy.). I was worried he was going to shove his fingers in me or something worse. He kept feeling me up and pretty much stopped tickling. Of course he again asked how I felt and I was even more afraid. I can faintly remember maybe telling him I wasn't happy with what his fingers were doing and I believe he was trying to say it was justified because I just wasn't reacting the way he thought I was going to. My body basically shut down and I stopped feeling anything. All I could think in my head is please don't rape me and please let the session end. A huge feeling of relife when it was over. I already had my money and I rushed out of their. He texted me later saying I had left my cardigan at his place. He said it smelled like me and I also remember him insinuating that it meant I would see him again. He said he could mail it and the only reason I was okay with giving him my address is because we were about to move into the house we bought. I never received my cardigan and I say it's just as well cuz I'm pretty sure it was a cum soaked rag. As I said I don't think it's a dumb idea to ask for references I just think it's not very smart to take them as the gospel.

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I am also a professional switch and I am going to tell you right now that references ultimately mean Jack and shit. Now I will never tell people to not ask for references, but at the end of the day you need to understand all the reference really tells you is how person A acted with person B. You never really know how someone will act with you and trust me it's happened to me too many times. This session I am about to talk about was a prime example of guy who acted different. I got not one, but three glowing references, so I foolishly believed he'd be great. Oh and just so you know one of the models I got a reference from apologize to me afterwards and said she was so sorry he never acted this way with her.

So he booked me a multiple hour session("$") and one of the exciting things is I was the closests professional he had seen thus far. He acted like he would probably see me again in the future. Well from the moment the session started I got really neverous and it unfortunately messed with my sensitivity. He eventually ties me down to his bed naked and starts talking about how sexy I am in a creepy way and voice. I am beyond paranoid and slightly annoyed as well. He starts asking me if everything is okay, but these guys need to understand that when you are tied up and completely at their mercy it can be nerve-racking to tell them how you're actually feeling. You never know how they will react to what you say. He wasn't happy with the reactions he was getting out of me, so he tickles me really freaking hard and I was littered with bruises. He still kept talking about how hot I was and then things got worse. He kept sticking his fingers in my cracks(Ass and pussy.). I was worried he was going to shove his fingers in me or something worse. He kept feeling me up and pretty much stopped tickling. Of course he again asked how I felt and I was even more afraid. I can faintly remember maybe telling him I wasn't happy with what his fingers were doing and I believe he was trying to say it was justified because I just wasn't reacting the way he thought I was going to. My body basically shut down and I stopped feeling anything. All I could think in my head is please don't rape me and please let the session end. A huge feeling of relife when it was over. I already had my money and I rushed out of their. He texted me later saying I had left my cardigan at his place. He said it smelled like me and I also remember him insinuating that it meant I would see him again. He said you could mail it the only reason I was okay with giving him my address is because we were about to move into the house we bought. I never received my cardigan and I say it's just as well cuz I'm pretty sure it was a cum soaked rag. As I said I don't think it's a dumb idea to ask for references I just think it's not very smart to take them as the gospel.

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That is awful , i hope you are better now , stories like this make me so scared of bondage tickling

Your experience is disturbing on so many levels that I can't even wrap my head around it! First, I have to believe that asshole will be in prison at some point and rightly so. Anyone that has so little regard for another person has to be on the road to disaster in the fast lane! Second, I'm kinda at a loss why you would let a stranger bind you without someone along with you for safety sake. I've never hired anyone for a tickling session, but I have met up with someone to tickle them last year. They laid out their boundaries and I had no problem respecting them. While we used no safeword, I explained that I tickled in shorter bursts and if they had showed any sign of distress, I would've stopped immediately! But, that's me. And if that person wanted a safeword, I would have had no problem with that.
I can see why most women on here are scared to death to allow any guy to tie them down. Hell, I'd be scared to let anyone tie me down! It sucks that some people have to ruin something nice for all of us!

Hyper_Ticklish said:

I remember several years back when I did paid sessions and I met up with this guy who took things far in order to get his own way. Before any sessions take place I explain the do's amd dont's from my part and I like acknowledge that the other person may have some limits as well. One major important thing I mention to them is that whether they are used to a safeword or not, I AM! One because I suffer from Asthma, so sometimes when im laughing too hard I tend to get a loss of breath and tend to use the word "yellow" so i can either have a break or take my inhaler. I only use "red" if I want to stop completely.

Anyway, so I'm getting tied up and the tickling begins. Naturally I understand that most men are sexually aroused by tickling and will then develop an erection. That doesnt bother me, what does bother me is that this man, against my wishes started relieving himself next to me to near physical contact. I became uncomfortable and called out "yellow" mainly to remind him of the rules. He chose to ignore me. Then i started to panic and could feel an asthma attack coming on so I called "red" and again he didnt stop. By this time he sits on me to tickle me harder and im screaming RED at this point and he then cups a hand over my mouth to block the noise which left me in a lot of trouble. He only stopped when he realised i was losing colour and wheezed uncontrollably. Luckily I had enough strength to use my inhaler but I was then left with severe bruising on my ribs. Since then I have stopped paid sessions, which a fair few people have questioned me in dissapointment as to why. Well now you know and I'm hoping this will raise awareness.

That was the worst and most terrifying experience of my life and I urge anybody who chooses a playmate to PLEASE respect and look after each other. People are meant to enjoy thwir fetish, not be in danger with it. Also, just because someone does sessions as a business, that does not give the free will to treat them in an abusive manner. They are still human beings with feelings and a soul who are providing a service to make others happy and satisfied. Terms and Conditions are provided for a good reason.

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As an asthmatic myself, this is the sort of thing that frightens me the most.

So the moral of most of these stories is that when this happens in real life it is by NO MEANS a sexy or okay situation. Please please respect boundaries.

Hyper_Ticklish said:

I remember several years back when I did paid sessions and I met up with this guy who took things far in order to get his own way. Before any sessions take place I explain the do's amd dont's from my part and I like acknowledge that the other person may have some limits as well. One major important thing I mention to them is that whether they are used to a safeword or not, I AM! One because I suffer from Asthma, so sometimes when im laughing too hard I tend to get a loss of breath and tend to use the word "yellow" so i can either have a break or take my inhaler. I only use "red" if I want to stop completely.

Anyway, so I'm getting tied up and the tickling begins. Naturally I understand that most men are sexually aroused by tickling and will then develop an erection. That doesnt bother me, what does bother me is that this man, against my wishes started relieving himself next to me to near physical contact. I became uncomfortable and called out "yellow" mainly to remind him of the rules. He chose to ignore me. Then i started to panic and could feel an asthma attack coming on so I called "red" and again he didnt stop. By this time he sits on me to tickle me harder and im screaming RED at this point and he then cups a hand over my mouth to block the noise which left me in a lot of trouble. He only stopped when he realised i was losing colour and wheezed uncontrollably. Luckily I had enough strength to use my inhaler but I was then left with severe bruising on my ribs. Since then I have stopped paid sessions, which a fair few people have questioned me in dissapointment as to why. Well now you know and I'm hoping this will raise awareness.

That was the worst and most terrifying experience of my life and I urge anybody who chooses a playmate to PLEASE respect and look after each other. People are meant to enjoy thwir fetish, not be in danger with it. Also, just because someone does sessions as a business, that does not give the free will to treat them in an abusive manner. They are still human beings with feelings and a soul who are providing a service to make others happy and satisfied. Terms and Conditions are provided for a good reason.

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This is one of the saddest and most disturbing things I have read on this forum. It must have taken you a lot of courage to come around and tell us about this.

Thank you for sharing your harrowing experience, and I sincerely wish you the best for the future!

Hyper_Ticklish said:

I remember several years back when I did paid sessions and I met up with this guy who took things far in order to get his own way. Before any sessions take place I explain the do's amd dont's from my part and I like acknowledge that the other person may have some limits as well. One major important thing I mention to them is that whether they are used to a safeword or not, I AM! One because I suffer from Asthma, so sometimes when im laughing too hard I tend to get a loss of breath and tend to use the word "yellow" so i can either have a break or take my inhaler. I only use "red" if I want to stop completely.

Anyway, so I'm getting tied up and the tickling begins. Naturally I understand that most men are sexually aroused by tickling and will then develop an erection. That doesnt bother me, what does bother me is that this man, against my wishes started relieving himself next to me to near physical contact. I became uncomfortable and called out "yellow" mainly to remind him of the rules. He chose to ignore me. Then i started to panic and could feel an asthma attack coming on so I called "red" and again he didnt stop. By this time he sits on me to tickle me harder and im screaming RED at this point and he then cups a hand over my mouth to block the noise which left me in a lot of trouble. He only stopped when he realised i was losing colour and wheezed uncontrollably. Luckily I had enough strength to use my inhaler but I was then left with severe bruising on my ribs. Since then I have stopped paid sessions, which a fair few people have questioned me in dissapointment as to why. Well now you know and I'm hoping this will raise awareness.

That was the worst and most terrifying experience of my life and I urge anybody who chooses a playmate to PLEASE respect and look after each other. People are meant to enjoy thwir fetish, not be in danger with it. Also, just because someone does sessions as a business, that does not give the free will to treat them in an abusive manner. They are still human beings with feelings and a soul who are providing a service to make others happy and satisfied. Terms and Conditions are provided for a good reason.

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Oh good grief! Im sorry you had to go through that. What an idiot! Im not gunna use the words that aptly describe what i feel would be a just punishment for that person...and others of the like. Smh extremely disappointing.

porcelaindoll2 said:

I am also a professional switch and I am going to tell you right now that references ultimately mean Jack and shit. Now I will never tell people to not ask for references, but at the end of the day you need to understand all the reference really tells you is how person A acted with person B. You never really know how someone will act with you and trust me it's happened to me too many times. This session I am about to talk about was a prime example of guy who acted different. I got not one, but three glowing references, so I foolishly believed he'd be great. Oh and just so you know one of the models I got a reference from apologize to me afterwards and said she was so sorry he never acted this way with her.

So he booked me a multiple hour session("$") and one of the exciting things is I was the closests professional he had seen thus far. He acted like he would probably see me again in the future. Well from the moment the session started I got really neverous and it unfortunately messed with my sensitivity. He eventually ties me down to his bed naked and starts talking about how sexy I am in a creepy way and voice. I am beyond paranoid and slightly annoyed as well. He starts asking me if everything is okay, but these guys need to understand that when you are tied up and completely at their mercy it can be nerve-racking to tell them how you're actually feeling. You never know how they will react to what you say. He wasn't happy with the reactions he was getting out of me, so he tickles me really freaking hard and I was littered with bruises. He still kept talking about how hot I was and then things got worse. He kept sticking his fingers in my cracks(Ass and pussy.). I was worried he was going to shove his fingers in me or something worse. He kept feeling me up and pretty much stopped tickling. Of course he again asked how I felt and I was even more afraid. I can faintly remember maybe telling him I wasn't happy with what his fingers were doing and I believe he was trying to say it was justified because I just wasn't reacting the way he thought I was going to. My body basically shut down and I stopped feeling anything. All I could think in my head is please don't rape me and please let the session end. A huge feeling of relife when it was over. I already had my money and I rushed out of their. He texted me later saying I had left my cardigan at his place. He said it smelled like me and I also remember him insinuating that it meant I would see him again. He said he could mail it and the only reason I was okay with giving him my address is because we were about to move into the house we bought. I never received my cardigan and I say it's just as well cuz I'm pretty sure it was a cum soaked rag. As I said I don't think it's a dumb idea to ask for references I just think it's not very smart to take them as the gospel.

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I hate you had to go through that crap. There's ALL kinds of crazy wandering around on this Earth, and unfortunately some have the ability to hide their "crazy" better than others.

Hyper_Ticklish said:

I remember several years back when I did paid sessions and I met up with this guy who took things far in order to get his own way. Before any sessions take place I explain the do's amd dont's from my part and I like acknowledge that the other person may have some limits as well. One major important thing I mention to them is that whether they are used to a safeword or not, I AM! One because I suffer from Asthma, so sometimes when im laughing too hard I tend to get a loss of breath and tend to use the word "yellow" so i can either have a break or take my inhaler. I only use "red" if I want to stop completely.

Anyway, so I'm getting tied up and the tickling begins. Naturally I understand that most men are sexually aroused by tickling and will then develop an erection. That doesnt bother me, what does bother me is that this man, against my wishes started relieving himself next to me to near physical contact. I became uncomfortable and called out "yellow" mainly to remind him of the rules. He chose to ignore me. Then i started to panic and could feel an asthma attack coming on so I called "red" and again he didnt stop. By this time he sits on me to tickle me harder and im screaming RED at this point and he then cups a hand over my mouth to block the noise which left me in a lot of trouble. He only stopped when he realised i was losing colour and wheezed uncontrollably. Luckily I had enough strength to use my inhaler but I was then left with severe bruising on my ribs. Since then I have stopped paid sessions, which a fair few people have questioned me in dissapointment as to why. Well now you know and I'm hoping this will raise awareness.

That was the worst and most terrifying experience of my life and I urge anybody who chooses a playmate to PLEASE respect and look after each other. People are meant to enjoy thwir fetish, not be in danger with it. Also, just because someone does sessions as a business, that does not give the free will to treat them in an abusive manner. They are still human beings with feelings and a soul who are providing a service to make others happy and satisfied. Terms and Conditions are provided for a good reason.

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Jesus, this is profoundly distressing. Surely respect is one of the most fundamental things when engaging in fetishes, and to read something like this is really, really sad. There's some bastards out there, clearly.

Thank you to the brave people who shared their stories. I’m sorry for your horrifying experiences and may they be a warning to those who play as Lee’s, subs or bottoms.

Stories like these are why I stopped playing as a Lee and why I avoid anyone who “doesn’t believe in safe words” like the plague. Hell, a lot of their reasoning follows with phrases like “a safeword won’t stop me”. Which is true if the person is truly inhumane.

Honestly I’m torn. I love tickling, I *used* to love being tied, but I’ve encountered too many people obsessed with the torturous, non consensual aspect of it and it’s ruined it for me.

I'm sorry to hear some of the stories in this thread. It makes me angry to think that boundaries could be so easily disregarded by guys within the realm of the tickling fetish.

I almost exclusively these days visit escorts. There's a variety of reasons for this, primarily that I don't have the time to form relationships through fetlife, but also I feel like I get some of my kicks from tying up and tickling woman who aren't 'professionals' or that familiar within the wider bdsm scene. I hope that makes sense.

Whether it's in person, over the phone, or in a text message, I ask the same thing a bunch of times in different ways.

"Are you comfortable being tied up and tickled?" "I do not want you to do anything you aren't comfortable with." "Will you be OK with having your hands and feet tied?"

If I sense hesitation (and I'd like to think I'm pretty good at reading others), I won't pursue it. In fact, sometimes, they've said 'yes' and I've still said, "You know what? You sound really nice, I get a good vibe off of you, but I don't reckon this is for you. Thank you though for being so accommodating."

Now, in saying all of this, I'm very clear about my expectations. "You'll be tickled and tickled extensively." or "You wouldn't have gotten tickled like this before." I'm not here to compromise what I'm looking for (and I do like the torturous side of tickling too, although I'd always prefer that the ticklee enjoy the experience overall), I'm not a sucker to pay a bunch of money for a lackluster experience.

The key is that communication early on. I can't stress it enough. I've always said that you can develop an intense sexual and amazing chemistry with another person who you've just met, far beyond their 'job description' as an escort', if you bring honesty and transparency to the table from the beginning.

Women will respect that shit, guaranteed. It is not easy to convince somebody who doesn't know you to let you tie them up and tickle them (especially sole-trader escorts working alone and for themselves), but the amazing tickling experiences I've had with a variety of very cool, very decent women has wholeheartedly come from them primarily being open minded enough to invite such conversation, and trying my best to create an honest environment. I don't mean to harp on, but it's just true.

I seldom go for internationals. Here in Australia we have a lot of south-east Asians working in the industry, and whilst Asians are absolutely some of the best ticklees, it's extremely difficult to have any of these initial conversations with someone who speaks less than a sentence of English.

It's not fair on them and it's not fair on me.

The safeword is always RED and that's communicated well before they are tied up, and repeated once they are tied before the tickling commences.

"Let me know if the ties are too tight." as well is a big one. I want to make the ticklee feel at ease and confident that she still has control over the situation. If she knows this, then she can lose herself in the experience.

It all sounds pretty 101 stuff but in this day and age, particularly around consent, you can't risk your reputational and legal livelihood on miscommunication. Just as important, Im not here to traumatise somebody based on my own personal selfish whims and desires.

I'm not trying to one up myself here. I'm here to create a safe tickling community that welcomes others and who walk away from these first time experiences, sexually energized, refreshed and begging ME to come back and do it again another time.

The stories here sound like the perpetrators of the horrible experience were likely face-value, decent looking, quite easy to engage, nice enough blokes (tell me if I'm wrong) and I guess that simply shows that the differences between somebody decent and somebody who isn't won't be immediately distiniguishable - so demand communication. Demand honesty. If you don't get it, then walk. Each and every time.

Stay safe peeps.