3-6 Month Public Dating

Just had a randomn thought. And I realize already no one would probably do this.

But... my Great Grandmother use to tell me a story of when she was dating. (She was born in the early 1900's.) If a man wanted to take her out on a date, his only option was to sit in the living room with her at her house. When the date was deemed over, (Or it was getting late) her father (who was in another room) would bang his shoe onto the ceiling. She could laugh at this in her later years. (Even I had to laugh.) But not cmpletly. She was pretty embarrassed by it. But she understood why. Guys could get "fresh". There was a safety in this method though. They could hang out... and get to know each other... but weren't allowed to go anywhere for the "fresh" cosideration. . For all the reasons of times past where parents had an active role in the dating practices of their teenagers... maybe its time for the next generation coming along to consider putting some rules into place. To protect themselves from dangerous people. Or people they would regret hooking up with.

Now, hookup culture I feel and many MANY others do... is at it its all time worst. Documentaries, Ted Talks, etc are growing by the numbers on how this came to be. Whats going on, etc. I've watched a handful. It's pretty disturbing. I'm not a "fainting couch feminist" by any means... but the women have zero information to go on. Of what is abhorent behavior. What maybe is too fast. If a man says X and X things maybe thats a red flag warning... etc etc. They really have no one to turn to expect the other people in their age range who are doing exactly what everyone else is doing.

The sex genie is out of the bottle. And I don't think it can be put back. And I certainly am not one of these people who say "Wait until marriage". But... maybe for anyone younger who might read this... consider waiting to take someone back to your house. Or to hang out in private. There are practically zero safety nets or rules in dating anymore. Woulden't it make sense... for safety's sake... to date someone in public places for at LEAST 3- 6 months? To help ensure you know someone before you take the plunge into sex. To bring back romance. And look forward to your first encounter with your amour.

In my beginning days of dating at 15. (1993) Teenagers around my age of 15-19 (Yes 19 was acceptable with one man in particular back then.) People would be taken to resteaurants. (The second date we would go to the park to walk around.) And the 3rd usually was the movies. But on restaurant dates people would dress up and go to a restaurant. Not a crazy expensive restaurant. But, to sit down and get to know each other. And by the end of the night... to wonder if I would be receiving a kiss goodnight. A kiss meant everything to me. And did to for a lot of people. Past that first kiss... we would procedd to french kissing( deeper and more passionate kisses.) Then getting handsy and making out was the next step. Not sex. Sex was still something to wait on for at least 6 months. Now as I got older those rules changed. But when I turned 18 the person I fell in love with... she and I waited for a couple months. It was something we wanted to be lustful but special. And we wanted our mutual HIV tests. These things are important for a reason.

So... would you consider dating in public for at least 2 months? If not... why?

Even if you've already had sex. You CAN start having rules in place. For all the reasons we had in the days past.

Texting is limiting too. You NEED to see someone's facial expressions and tones. Skype... yeak ok but... there's something pretty magical about going on an actual public date. If no one has told you that... I'll be the one to tell you this. Right here. Right now.

And using the internet to get to know someone BEfORE you hang out with them... Idk seems shady to me. Yeah I know its of a safety tool. So I can't disregard it and won't. All I'm trying to convey is that dating in person and publicly should be brought back. At least consider trying it. You may be wonderfully surprised at its results.

Violence, sexual asault, murder... the news is saturated with these stories EVERY SINGLE DAY. If you think these things can't happen to you... you're WRONG.

P.S Romance isn't covered, or part of ANY porn video. None.

P.P.S Hanging out with friends publicly for some time should be considered too. You don't know what people are thinking. You don't know if they have alterior motives. You're not mind readers. None of us are.

I consider myself a little more old-fashioned when it comes to this topic. As you mentioned, I believe in the concept of waiting until marriage for sex. I also prefer calling to texting on a regular basis. It's much better hearing a person's voice and seeing their face as opposed to fast-paced messages.

With that being said, I would definitely consider public dating for two months. It gives both partners a chance to connect on an emotional level, and tell if they're serious about each other. Today's hookup culture has destroyed relationships by making the sexual side a bigger priority.

I don't think I could do it. I'd be pissed if I waited 6 months to find out we were not sexually compatible. Lol

I agree that this day n age is waay more dangerous for the ladies. My sister is 4 1/2 years older than i, when she came thru her teen/dating years she always had a fairly strict curfew (usually 10pm range), and also she was a really tame teenager, made all A's , studied hard, never got into any trouble of any kind, basically a model of a dauhter.....well me on the other hand....almost the complete opposite of my rule abiding sis. Lol when i came thru a few years later i never had a curfew, now i couldnt just stay out all night every night or anything, but if i was going to be really late getting home i just had to call (no cell phones in those days...circa late 80's/early 90's) to let the folks know whatsup. Especially if i was not going to come home for whatever reason. Years later during a holiday i think...when we were all home , the subject came up in a good hearted funny conversation, my sister inquires as to why her curfew was waay different than mine. My Dad explained it like this.....basically he said whenever Jason (me) goes out...All i have to worry about is HIM, however whenever you (my sister) goes out on a date or to the store , or pretty much anywhere...I have to worry about EVERYBODY else. At the time i didnt really give it much thought, but The older i get and the way society has fairly steadily gotten more an more "hardcore", the more i can def see where he was coming from. RIP Dad! Love ya.
Oh....and i could never ever marry anyone without having sex at least once or twice...i mean.....dad gum.....say what u will about that not being the most important part n all, but its def important enough to at least have a preview of sorts. Imo lol