What I take away from this is that we'd be better off settling for someone, "who's okay with tickling" essentially someone who is understanding of our fetish, not necessarily that they share it with us. Yes they maybe will, "grow to really enjoy it" but that's indeterminate.
And of course, a long term relationship, "is about bonding on a number of levels, not just one relatively innocuous sexual fetish." This essentially means that finding someone with a shared interest in the tickle fetish does not guarantee a successful relationship and that it is unlikely to succeed if we negate the other aspects vital to maintaining a long term relationship.
Not really what I was getting at, but okay.
I was responding to those who were searching for someone with the same level of interest in their fetish. It's not about
settling for anything. It's about understanding that people are different, and people in relationships don't have to have the exact same level of interest in everything in order be happy.
Settling implies accepting something that's less than ideal. I'm saying it doesn't have to be a 100% sexual match to be ideal.
Plain and simple...
You don't have to be in a relationship with a ticklephile to be happy. You don't even need to be with someone who's
okay with tickling to make you happy.
Hell, you don't even need to be in a relationship to be happy. And there are plenty of people in relationships with no sexual contact that are happy. Some people don't like sex.
But if you're in a relationship, your sexual needs should be known and accepted by your partner (even if they're not shared), and vice versa.
To try to find a partner with your
exact same level of interest, in
very specific interests, is a pretty high bar to set.
But keeping your interests repressed in a relationship is recipe for disaster. It's not fair to either party.
Who wants to wake up one morning to find out they haven't ever really made their partner sexually happy, because their partner never gave them the chance?