Is it really that great to be desperate to be in a long term relationship with someone who shares the tickle fetish.
Personally I don't see it as such a great thing the way some come off on this site, talking in some threads about how life is tough/unfair because you can't succeed in getting into a serious relationship/marriage/long-term commitment with a ticklephile.
It seems to be that it's better to just enjoy what you can of casual meet ups and so forth until you're in your late 20's, mid 30's, at which point you just get married or engaged to anyone you fall in love with, and gradually try to put the fetish behind you to focus on career/family/kids etc...But that's just me. What are your thoughts?
Let me tell you a story.
I was in a relationship with a woman for a month or so, and I liked her. She ticked most of my boxes on my checklist of what kind of woman I wanted to marry and have kids with. So, we went on a trip. Our first trip alone.
On that trip I found out some stuff.
I found out I was pretty introverted, and I also found out she had a tendency to be an angry shouter, she didn't immediately bring up issues that disturbed her and instead opted to wait for it to explode out of her, along with some other qualities I don't admire.
The moment I discovered all of this, I'd decided to break the relationship off. Because it would make me unhappy to be with or even around her. It would've affected my health. (I do still hold a bit of anxiety about it, which I guess is an affect of my health, but it is only focused on that person. But whatever.)
No one besmirched (criticised) my decision. I didn't settle for her, even if most of my boxes were ticked. I'd rather have a long healthy life, fulfilled, than have to deal with stress-related illnesses like, cancer, which my mum developed due to her own stressful marriage.
For some of us, we need a spouse who is genuinely into the fetish we're in. It's just a disappointing thing that we have to wade through the bull shit and trauma and angst and shit in order to take the gamble of finding someone that meets those criteria. It's not a BIG criteria.
But there are so many issues.
But if they can find this, they can feel fulfilled in that aspect. Which leads to MANY health benefits. Especially if they can reciprocate in a manner that is perceived as mature by
both parties.
Personally, I'd LOVE to have a wife that is as into tickling as I am, or more than I am. Because I'd love spending time with my wife, within reason. But it's not high on my list of priorities, so I can live without it if my wife can. But in exchange for that I'd need to have her to accept my weirdness. Because I am a weirdo.
A lovable weirdo.
And let's face it. For tickling,
we're weirdos to the general human population.
Need I get into how weird men look to society anyway?
People need to be accepted, it makes them happy, and they don't die of loneliness, and that is truly the reason most people die in old age.
Of loneliness. Not accepted. Sad.
Isolated.
That's how it feels when you can't get a spouse who's into the same stuff you are.
I knew a ticklee who WISHED her husband would tickle her senseless.
She was so sad. And a very prominent female member. Some of you older members may know who I'm referring to. And she was a gem. But it was lonely for her
because that aspect was not fulfilled.
And it's not great to be desperate, to answer your question.
I feel like I forgot something, but I can't remember what....