laughtermech
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In the spirit of the Police's famous song, I'm interested in starting a conversation about some issues I'm having as of late with these beautiful, yet at times, terrible fetishes; feet and tickling.
Hard to know where to start.
I'm a 40-something year old male, married with children, gainfully employed, living in CA, struggling mightily with the high cost of living out here, and I'm just now starting to fully understand and appreciate this part of myself that is drawn so enigmatically and inextricably to adult female feet and the tickling of those same adult female feet.
I'm hoping with this post to start a conversation with others who share these two fetishes, and have been able to understand and appreciate these fetishes in their daily lives as a husband, father, worker, fellow citizen of planet Earth.
In the past, my strategy of understanding and appreciating these foot and ticking fetishes just involved looking at pictures and videos on the internet of women being tickled on their feet, and masturbating to orgasm.
The urge to keep looking at women's feet and the tickling of those feet would instantly go away upon achieving this orgasm, at least for a while. But then it would resurface. Maybe days, weeks, months out. But it would most assuredly come back, and, when it did, I would repeat the cycle above.
This went on for about 20 years, this pattern of indulging myself in this kind of media for hours at a time. It was quite addicting. I could consume countless videos and pictures of women being tickled on their feet, showing off their feet, look at the clock, and not be able to fully comprehend the amount of time I'd spent watching this content.
I realized only fully in the last year of my life that I had to make some changes.
I went through some difficult and dark days to wean myself off of this video and picture media.
I began to reclaim my life.
For the most part I've been successful with not consuming foot fetish and foot ticking pictures and videos on the internet.
I am now into my 200+ day of not watching a foot tickling video and masturbating to that video.
If you knew me and my patterns over the last 20 years, you'd know that this is a huge success for me.
Which brings me to my S.O.S.
I'm basically, like I said earlier, just wanting to reach out to other husbands and fathers and start a conversation with them about the struggle to keep this whole 'thing' together; a marriage, a family, a job, myself, together with these two fetishes at the same time begging for your attention, if you will.
So, for a brief example of what a typical struggle is for me, I see parents during various events at our children's school. Alot of the mothers are very attractive, and wear very revealing shoes like flip flops, sandals, and the like.
I don't particularly like these social events at my children's school, as I already have a fair dollop of social anxiety. And then if you add in my foot and tickle fetishism aspects of my character, I begin to be even more anxious.
I still function at these functions, don't get me wrong. I talk to people, I socialize, but it's a struggle.
I so desperately want to be able to not get so nervous at these events, and be able to talk effortlessly with men and women alike, but I am just not there yet.
I think in alot of respects I am just too preoccupied with myself to be able to enjoy others' company.
I need to work on that part of myself first, this relating to others portion, and then the foot fetishist and tickle fetishist part of me can come out naturally?
Not sure.
The other struggle I am dealing with is my spouse. We are experiencing some strife in our marriage of many years, and struggle in the intimacy department. I realize in writing this post that this intimacy struggle is probably 90% of all my problems. Possibly 100%.
My spouse knows about my fetishes and has in the past encouraged me to explore these fetishes of mine.
I don't think she fully understands just how sexually charged they are for me though. And that is my current struggle. How to relate this information to my spouse.
How do I tell my spouse that I many times want to have other potentially sexually charged foot fetish and foot tickling encounters with other women?
I feel SO incredibly guilty having these feelings, even with the knowledge that we are human beings, and our sexual attractions as human beings are often something that we have little control over.
Interested in what others may think and be dealing with in their own lives.
Thanks for taking the time to read through to the end of this super long post.
Apologies for how long winded I am.
Hoping there are others out there like me who struggle with these fetishes and can potentially offer some suggestions in my S.O.S. call for help.
Sincerely,
John Smith
The Laughter Mechanic
Hard to know where to start.
I'm a 40-something year old male, married with children, gainfully employed, living in CA, struggling mightily with the high cost of living out here, and I'm just now starting to fully understand and appreciate this part of myself that is drawn so enigmatically and inextricably to adult female feet and the tickling of those same adult female feet.
I'm hoping with this post to start a conversation with others who share these two fetishes, and have been able to understand and appreciate these fetishes in their daily lives as a husband, father, worker, fellow citizen of planet Earth.
In the past, my strategy of understanding and appreciating these foot and ticking fetishes just involved looking at pictures and videos on the internet of women being tickled on their feet, and masturbating to orgasm.
The urge to keep looking at women's feet and the tickling of those feet would instantly go away upon achieving this orgasm, at least for a while. But then it would resurface. Maybe days, weeks, months out. But it would most assuredly come back, and, when it did, I would repeat the cycle above.
This went on for about 20 years, this pattern of indulging myself in this kind of media for hours at a time. It was quite addicting. I could consume countless videos and pictures of women being tickled on their feet, showing off their feet, look at the clock, and not be able to fully comprehend the amount of time I'd spent watching this content.
I realized only fully in the last year of my life that I had to make some changes.
I went through some difficult and dark days to wean myself off of this video and picture media.
I began to reclaim my life.
For the most part I've been successful with not consuming foot fetish and foot ticking pictures and videos on the internet.
I am now into my 200+ day of not watching a foot tickling video and masturbating to that video.
If you knew me and my patterns over the last 20 years, you'd know that this is a huge success for me.
Which brings me to my S.O.S.
I'm basically, like I said earlier, just wanting to reach out to other husbands and fathers and start a conversation with them about the struggle to keep this whole 'thing' together; a marriage, a family, a job, myself, together with these two fetishes at the same time begging for your attention, if you will.
So, for a brief example of what a typical struggle is for me, I see parents during various events at our children's school. Alot of the mothers are very attractive, and wear very revealing shoes like flip flops, sandals, and the like.
I don't particularly like these social events at my children's school, as I already have a fair dollop of social anxiety. And then if you add in my foot and tickle fetishism aspects of my character, I begin to be even more anxious.
I still function at these functions, don't get me wrong. I talk to people, I socialize, but it's a struggle.
I so desperately want to be able to not get so nervous at these events, and be able to talk effortlessly with men and women alike, but I am just not there yet.
I think in alot of respects I am just too preoccupied with myself to be able to enjoy others' company.
I need to work on that part of myself first, this relating to others portion, and then the foot fetishist and tickle fetishist part of me can come out naturally?
Not sure.
The other struggle I am dealing with is my spouse. We are experiencing some strife in our marriage of many years, and struggle in the intimacy department. I realize in writing this post that this intimacy struggle is probably 90% of all my problems. Possibly 100%.
My spouse knows about my fetishes and has in the past encouraged me to explore these fetishes of mine.
I don't think she fully understands just how sexually charged they are for me though. And that is my current struggle. How to relate this information to my spouse.
How do I tell my spouse that I many times want to have other potentially sexually charged foot fetish and foot tickling encounters with other women?
I feel SO incredibly guilty having these feelings, even with the knowledge that we are human beings, and our sexual attractions as human beings are often something that we have little control over.
Interested in what others may think and be dealing with in their own lives.
Thanks for taking the time to read through to the end of this super long post.
Apologies for how long winded I am.
Hoping there are others out there like me who struggle with these fetishes and can potentially offer some suggestions in my S.O.S. call for help.
Sincerely,
John Smith
The Laughter Mechanic