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Hi guys,

My first post here!! I am excited to be here and so I decided to post something.
I encounter a guy that had such an addiction to his fetish that it was ruining his life, productivity and even relationship. Like couldn't stop trying to get women into his fetish.
His wife found out and started to seriously question her relationship with him. I adviced him and I could make some massive change for the better. But it got me wonder...Is there a lot of us experiencing that?
So please guys let's share what you think, if you know someone or experience it yourself.


How did you deal with it?
What are your worries, your fear about your fetish?
What are your dreams and are you realizing them?
Do you think it is cheating to do it with someone else while in relationship?
Did your fetish took over your life?

Thanks guys!! :)
 
told this before, but it applies, but I'll try to make it brief. Lifelong feet/tickling fetishes, closeted, yada, so I meet my future wife, and everything clicks----except she's not responsive to tickling, just grunts and pulls away like a hot stove. Total cold shower. However, love finds a way beyond mere lustful desires. I, young and naïve at 29, decide I can suppress it. We marry and have been happily wed going on 20 years next year. After year one, the "suppression" failed. Long story short, I started doing tickling hookups through AOL (yeah, that long ago). After the fourth or fifth time, I decided my marriage could not survive because eventually, I'd need more than occasional hookups. It was like an addiction. The timing was good, though. Around this time, TMF appeared and video clips were all over the web, so I still get my fixes, just not in the flesh. Not as big a deal because my urges have shifted to a more voyeuristic place (that and I now prefer F-F videos and have no desire to change genders).
 
He needs to find the right girl.... tell him to try Fet Life
 
magic fingers said:
Fet Life sucks. 90% dudes, basically a sausage fest.
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Yes that's right, most dating sites are...
I did some "test" on dating site, and most western woman freak out when you mention the word foot or fetish. Not because of them...But because of perverts that has a fetish.
Few women told me they experience 8/10 guys that are just into sex.
 
OmahaTickler said:
told this before, but it applies, but I'll try to make it brief. Lifelong feet/tickling fetishes, closeted, yada, so I meet my future wife, and everything clicks----except she's not responsive to tickling, just grunts and pulls away like a hot stove. Total cold shower. However, love finds a way beyond mere lustful desires. I, young and naïve at 29, decide I can suppress it. We marry and have been happily wed going on 20 years next year. After year one, the "suppression" failed. Long story short, I started doing tickling hookups through AOL (yeah, that long ago). After the fourth or fifth time, I decided my marriage could not survive because eventually, I'd need more than occasional hookups. It was like an addiction. The timing was good, though. Around this time, TMF appeared and video clips were all over the web, so I still get my fixes, just not in the flesh. Not as big a deal because my urges have shifted to a more voyeuristic place (that and I now prefer F-F videos and have no desire to change genders).
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Cool story.
So now are you satisfied by only videos? What would your wife say if you organise tickling session with other women?
 
takatala said:
Few women told me they experience 8/10 guys that are just into sex.
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Do you mean that most men pretend to have a fetish to get sex, or that sex (in a more traditional sense) is their prime focus?

Not even going on such sites, seeing the word when even I use to describe myself freaks me out a bit. Strictly because of those rotten tomatoes that ruin it for the rest. And what’s seen as too risky for one may be seen as vanilla to another (making a mountain out of a molehill dilemma). I see this fetish as very childish, but it may be way too far for another to accept. And then the child pornographers also have a fetish, so it’s looped in with all the rest (balooners, furries, and so on).
 
sadi said:
Do you mean that most men pretend to have a fetish to get sex, or that sex (in a more traditional sense) is their prime focus?

Not even going on such sites, seeing the word when even I use to describe myself freaks me out a bit. Strictly because of those rotten tomatoes that ruin it for the rest. And what’s seen as too risky for one may be seen as vanilla to another (making a mountain out of a molehill dilemma). I see this fetish as very childish, but it may be way too far for another to accept. And then the child pornographers also have a fetish, so it’s looped in with all the rest (balooners, furries, and so on).
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Yes, some use the tickle fetish to access to sex, some got carried away by talking about it and jump right on sex talks and get blocked. Men just don't know how to controll themselves and wonder why women are so cautious.
Tickle fetish is a childish thing for adults really...But it doesn't hurt, just making you laugh so why not. I don't mind the fetishes just as long as you don't hurt anybody. Normal is a word I don't recognize anymore. lol

That's why most woman freak out I think because they have the "normal" in their mind. To me everything is acceptable as long as nobody get hurt.
Western women I notice are on red alert 24/7 about anything that might appear "weird". But not so much in Asia. I am not sure why.
 
takatala said:
Yes, some use the tickle fetish to access to sex, some got carried away by talking about it and jump right on sex talks and get blocked. Men just don't know how to controll themselves and wonder why women are so cautious.
Tickle fetish is a childish thing for adults really...But it doesn't hurt, just making you laugh so why not. I don't mind the fetishes just as long as you don't hurt anybody. Normal is a word I don't recognize anymore. lol

That's why most woman freak out I think because they have the "normal" in their mind. To me everything is acceptable as long as nobody get hurt.
Western women I notice are on red alert 24/7 about anything that might appear "weird". But not so much in Asia. I am not sure why.
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I would wonder if it's because families are often more close-knit in the long term in many Asian countries. A young Asian woman, even after college would probably have a much harder time dating or seeing a man without her parents knowing about it fairly quickly and wanting to get to know the man and discover his intentions. Western women often believe the only guy their parents should even know about is one she's serious about having a committed relationship with. The "meeting the parents" is kind of built up as this dreaded high-pressure thing for a couple to do, but particularly for the guy to meet her parents. Whereas in many Asian cultures it would just be expected to happen pretty quickly. There's also probably some negative associations too for a man to have less-than-honorable intentions with a woman he's interested in.... I'm sure casual sex happens regularly, but I don't know if Asian men would feel encouraged in their culture to boast about "scoring" or "being a player", or if they sleep with a lot of women if they would feel more inclined to hide it from others bc it might reflect poorly on their character.

Also, American culture in particular is just flat-out more violent than in many places in the world. No, violence is not unique to the USA, and violence against women is everywhere in the world... But it might genuinely be less dangerous for women to meet/date men in * some * other countries than it is here, on average.
 
takatala said:
Cool story.
So now are you satisfied by only videos? What would your wife say if you organise tickling session with other women?
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I'm satisfied enough, but I'm keeping it real and not guaranteeing I'll never seek another encounter again. It's been 16 years since the last one, but there's an old adage from AA about not telling yourself that you'll never drink again, but merely telling yourself that you won't drink today, then tell yourself that each day. Sure, one-day-at-a-time is trite, but it sure sounds better than "never again."
 
I don't have an addiction when it comes to my fetishes nor do I have huge demands that I need to fulfill in order to be satisfied.

I only had fears about my fetish when I was really young. When I got older and gained more experience dealing with women I learned that they aren't prudish like they and society likes to make it seem. Women will pretty much be into whatever you're into since by design they're submissive. Of course, she has to actually have some attraction for you in order to want to experiment sexually. Obviously if she's not into you, lack basic socials skills, or are some stranger on the internet, telling her you think she has nice feet isn't going to end the way you'd like.

Well my dream is to tickle some of my favorite celebrities so I know I'll never do that, but knowing some of them are ticklish is good enough. But when it comes to female friends and partners I've had a great experience. I especially love to tickle feet so the fact the majority of women I've tickled had really to extremely ticklish feet was satisfying

I never considered it cheating but I can see why some people would. But if someone had to choose between someone cheating on you via sex and finding out they just like to tickle people or play with feet on the side doesn't seem as bad.

Nope, my fetish has never had any control over my life. I pretty much like feet and tickling similarly to liking sex and enjoying other parts of a woman's body.
 
I got to a point where I was addicted to watching tickling videos to the extent that it impacted negatively on my relationships.
It took me a while to realise that it was an addiction but spending an hour plus a night watching videos, losing relationships, always wanting the next released video, spending lots of money, being unhappy because of it all...I got to the point of thinking I need to break out of this habit.
So I decided to do something similar to what's called 'nofap'. I stopped watching the videos and I'm trying to concentrate on living my real life. To begin with it was really difficult to stop watching the videos but the longer the abstinence went on for, the easier it got.

I wouldn't see this as suppressing my urges but I view myself as equivalent to an alcoholic trying to give up the booze...Anyway that's my viewpoint on it. People can agree or disagree as they feel fit but I'm just trying to take control of my life again and have more meaningful real life relationships, rather than one with my laptop :)
 
Well, this may sound funny but in my case, the more sex I have the less I think about tickling. I mean if I have daily sex with my gf I dont even think about it but once it starts to miss, my tickling desire grows inside me, to the point that if there's been a while without sex (for example two weeks) I get really obsessed with that...

I guess my fetish is linked to my sexual desires.
 
Everyone must know the reality and fantacy of fetishes. If you are married you shouldn't be trying to make anyone do or accept what you are into #1. #2 Its like cheating on your wife as well because these are sexual desires that you didn't even consider with your wife and if she is not into it, then maybe you married the wrong person. I feel bad for the wife because she's in such a bad spot because he can't hold his sexual desires. These desires need to be controlled or risk being alone and still looking for someone to accept you for what you are. All that takes time and should take time to develop. More advice to him, get it under control or loose everything.
 
Keep this in mind: How lucky we are though at the end of the day. People all over the world have physical disabilties. And they don't have ANY choice in this matter to participate in actual tickling sessions, or whatever they enjoy. That's one of the things that helps me to do without sometimes.

But I will be starting hang outs here in the South. (And eventually Dungeon Gatherings to session in.) In the coming year or 2.

In the last 4 years I have found multiple ways to get my kicks. The audios, stories, rp's, my interractions with people online. Just setting up restraint ideas for fun and letting myself pretend to be tied up and tickled... (Or REALLY trying to tickle myself LOL. Once in awhile... I don't do these things every day or even every week. But I think about Tickling all throughout my day. There's no getting away from it for me. I sometimes shoo the thoughts away but... it's always there.

I've become an imagination station for tickling ideas and boredom outright. =D And a lot of it IS fun to create and see. To relax. To remember there's nothing wrong with what your/ my fetish is.. Even if your partner disagrees. Too bad. "This is me... and I'm GOING to have a sex life. Even if it's all by myself."

Everyone needs to realize you can do things at home solo that at least can help you to remain confident about your sexuality. Feathering yourself. Etc etc... And break the monotonany of a near sexless marriage/ relationship. Creative masturbation can be frustrating too but... it's something, that sometimes works.

People also break down emotionally from going without. I have. Multiple times over the years. But... as long as I keep creating... I have outlets. Or sharing my ideas. For now. In between the LONG periods I still have to go without. Him too. He feels sexless these days because of all the combined stress- of owning a busniess- bills- and on and on. Financial hardship is a mood killer. I can't blame him with everything we've been through.

I dream of the future. And what can be. What WILL be. I only have to look at the Transgender Community to remember that... there is no way to contain who you are in your heart. But videos are not the only answer for entertainment. And your partner HAS to be part of it somehow, at least occassionally, if nothing else but to find an interesting way to still be a part of it. That's love. And giving. But the same has to be in reverse as well.

.... I have hope for everyone going through this. It's highly unfair to have to count each day as a good thing from going without. I can't.

We have this one life... indulge it somehow. Sometimes. Versify things. But not by cheating.
 
CapturedDoll said:
Keep this in mind: How lucky we are though at the end of the day. People all over the world have physical disabilties. And they don't have ANY choice in this matter to participate in actual tickling sessions, or whatever they enjoy. That's one of the things that helps me to do without sometimes.

But I will be starting hang outs here in the South. (And eventually Dungeon Gatherings to session in.) In the coming year or 2.

In the last 4 years I have found multiple ways to get my kicks. The audios, stories, rp's, my interractions with people online. Just setting up restraint ideas for fun and letting myself pretend to be tied up and tickled... (Or REALLY trying to tickle myself LOL. Once in awhile... I don't do these things every day or even every week. But I think about Tickling all throughout my day. There's no getting away from it for me. I sometimes shoo the thoughts away but... it's always there.

I've become an imagination station for tickling ideas and boredom outright. =D And a lot of it IS fun to create and see. To relax. To remember there's nothing wrong with what your/ my fetish is.. Even if your partner disagrees. Too bad. "This is me... and I'm GOING to have a sex life. Even if it's all by myself."

Everyone needs to realize you can do things at home solo that at least can help you to remain confident about your sexuality. Feathering yourself. Etc etc... And break the monotonany of a near sexless marriage/ relationship. Creative masturbation can be frustrating too but... it's something, that sometimes works.

People also break down emotionally from going without. I have. Multiple times over the years. But... as long as I keep creating... I have outlets. Or sharing my ideas. For now. In between the LONG periods I still have to go without. Him too. He feels sexless these days because of all the combined stress- of owning a busniess- bills- and on and on. Financial hardship is a mood killer. I can't blame him with everything we've been through.

I dream of the future. And what can be. What WILL be. I only have to look at the Transgender Community to remember that... there is no way to contain who you are in your heart. But videos are not the only answer for entertainment. And your partner HAS to be part of it somehow, at least occassionally, if nothing else but to find an interesting way to still be a part of it. That's love. And giving. But the same has to be in reverse as well.

.... I have hope for everyone going through this. It's highly unfair to have to count each day as a good thing from going without. I can't.

We have this one life... indulge it somehow. Sometimes. Versify things. But not by cheating.
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Very well said. Those who never lived in a world without the web also should feel lucky. I've said this before, but I left for college in the late '80s, and my foot and tickling fetishes blossomed big time. There was no network. No forums. No clips. No kindred spirits. I spent my spare time in the college library looking through women's magazines to find pictures of women's feet, or possibly an article on fetishes (back then, they were "kinks.") Then I'd take a bus or two across the city to some sex shop to purchase outrageously expensive tickling and foot fetish videos, when I found out about them. You can find people like you today, now more than ever--or at least some great clips or forums like this one---if you remain vigilant.
 
Wow, what a great thread and discussion! Thanks for starting this with your question about addiction, takatala!

I've had a few posts on this wonderful website forum about my addiction to women's feet and their tickling.

If you'd like to read more, here are a few links to check out:

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?297168-Sending-out-an-S-O-S

https://helpwithaddictiontoday.word...ly-have-a-porn-addiction-after-watching-this/

My experience sounds alot like hcdreader's having to break my habit of watching tickling videos for hours on end.

I'm now at 276 days of not watching a tickling video and masturbating to orgasm while doing it. It hasn't been easy I can tell you that.

I'm still struggling in my relationship with my spouse, but I can say that I've made huge progress in our relationship over the last year with me not using the time I'd normally use to masturbate to foot tickling videos, and instead use it to getting healthier in my body and mind (physical exercise and meditation).

I give alot of the credit of my ability to resist the temptation to consume endless hours of ticking media to Noah Church who has a YouTube channel dedicated to helping people addicted to pornography.

If you haven't seen or listened to his work, it's worth a few minutes of your time if you are like me.

It's obvious that there are many on this thread who are not like me and don't struggle with these fetishes of women's feet and tickling said women's feet.

I am in awe of you all. Truly I am.

These two fetishes are my character flaw and also something I'm learning to appreciate about myself that I am so addicted to these two things in my life.

As Tara Brach talks about, I've had to have 'tea with Mara' when it comes to my two fetishes.

https://www.tarabrach.com/inviting-mara-to-tea/

And so far, tea time hasn't been so bad.

Again, I just really appreciate all that's been said on this thread.

I so appreciate this community of people who share in some way a piece of how I view the world.

It's not always easy talking about these things, but at least it helps to know we're not alone.

Happy Sunday to you all and wishing you all kindness and compassion today and always with yourself and others. But first and foremost with yourself.

I'm trying to get better at both the self and others part. A very easy thing to say, a monumentally hard, yet still achievable, and ultimately, something I think will be incredibly valuable to the rest of the planet.
 
In terms of your question about cheating, I would have to say for me, if I were to tickle another woman and not let my spouse know that I was doing it, it would be cheating. Tickling is such a sexually charged and erotic activity for me that I would need to let my spouse know that this was happening. For others of you out there, ticllkling doesn't carry the same neuronal charge if you will that it does for me, and in your case it may not warrant the cheating label. I think full transparency in your relationship with your spouse is a great goal and a great thing to work on each and every day. I'm still working on it with my spouse. It's not easy, but it is rewarding when you put in the hard work. Thank you again for raising the issues you've raised. Helluva a first post on the forum! :) Welcome!
 
laughtermech said:
Wow, what a great thread and discussion! Thanks for starting this with your question about addiction, takatala!

I've had a few posts on this wonderful website forum about my addiction to women's feet and their tickling.

If you'd like to read more, here are a few links to check out:

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?297168-Sending-out-an-S-O-S

https://helpwithaddictiontoday.word...ly-have-a-porn-addiction-after-watching-this/

My experience sounds alot like hcdreader's having to break my habit of watching tickling videos for hours on end.

I'm now at 276 days of not watching a tickling video and masturbating to orgasm while doing it. It hasn't been easy I can tell you that.

I'm still struggling in my relationship with my spouse, but I can say that I've made huge progress in our relationship over the last year with me not using the time I'd normally use to masturbate to foot tickling videos, and instead use it to getting healthier in my body and mind (physical exercise and meditation).

I give alot of the credit of my ability to resist the temptation to consume endless hours of ticking media to Noah Church who has a YouTube channel dedicated to helping people addicted to pornography.

If you haven't seen or listened to his work, it's worth a few minutes of your time if you are like me.

It's obvious that there are many on this thread who are not like me and don't struggle with these fetishes of women's feet and tickling said women's feet.

I am in awe of you all. Truly I am.

These two fetishes are my character flaw and also something I'm learning to appreciate about myself that I am so addicted to these two things in my life.

As Tara Brach talks about, I've had to have 'tea with Mara' when it comes to my two fetishes.

https://www.tarabrach.com/inviting-mara-to-tea/

And so far, tea time hasn't been so bad.

Again, I just really appreciate all that's been said on this thread.

I so appreciate this community of people who share in some way a piece of how I view the world.

It's not always easy talking about these things, but at least it helps to know we're not alone.

Happy Sunday to you all and wishing you all kindness and compassion today and always with yourself and others. But first and foremost with yourself.

I'm trying to get better at both the self and others part. A very easy thing to say, a monumentally hard, yet still achievable, and ultimately, something I think will be incredibly valuable to the rest of the planet.
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Hey!

Wow great story! That's why I started this thread because I know that a lot of us are left in the shadow.
I found out that many people into any fetish have a feeling of shame or being abnormal.

So if I understand, you try to get rude of your fetish? To stop it completely? If you don't mind me asking. What your wife think about your fetish?

Happy Tuesday
 
Hi guys.

Sorry I wasn't around much, my internet connection at home is down.

Now let me tell you about my view on fetish and how I deal with it.

First of all, it's really strong. I love women feet and to make them laugh is for me music!
For many years, and I mean....many years, I was ashamed of it. Nobody knew about it and most comment I could read about it was "eeewww gross!!! How can you like feet? Are you normal?" And so on. Not really encouraging...

Until I went to Asia!!! I volunteered in Thailand and went in Philippines and other countries there. I had an amazing time!! I love the people there and the culture! ❤❤

Then, in Thailand I few thai girls (as friend not sex tourist). Like really friends. And because I would most likely never see them again I asked them about their thoughts on foot fetish. Well...they didn't know much about it! (Only there feet are the lowest part of the body and therefore rude and dirty).

But, they allowed me to tickle them and they loved it! Tild me its very unique and fun. I was pumped!

I met my wife after that (girlfriend at the time)
And she didn't think much about it...like...nothing special.
But before I carry on the story I am thinking to make it a new thread. So I will post that story soon and how I handle my fetish . &#55357;&#56833;&#55357;&#56833;&#55357;&#56832;&#55357;&#56832;&#55357;&#56832;
 
takatala said:
Cool story.
So now are you satisfied by only videos? What would your wife say if you organise tickling session with other women?
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She'd never buy it-----and I can't blame her. Before we met, she had been single and depressed for three years after a bitter breakup that involved mental abuse, and he cheated on her. No way she would view any such request as anything but: "You're not good enough. I need to get my tickle needs elsewhere. Give me permission to cheat.." Yes, many women on this forum are married and they bring outside people in for tickling stuff, but that's not for every situation.
 
FWIW, fetishes are objectification. One can fetishized objects. Shoes, snow, gas pedals, even body parts. While some here are ALSO fetishists for armpits, feet, etc., the focused interests in tickling is a paraphilia, albeit a usually fairly tame compared to collisions, falling, and the like.

Your ancient mod with trivia to spare,

DVNC
 
Well. How serendipitous that this post is here, I just posted about my issues with cybering addiction.

My kink on its own isn't addictive nearly as much as the fantasy aspect of everything was. But they can be related depending on the person. Control is often a reason people resort to kink, it gives them control that they may not have had growing up, for example.

The more I play in person with real people, the more grounded I become in my kink, because it becomes something bigger than just what's in my head.
 
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