I think both are great in their own, very different ways. The problem for me with playful is that... it never lasts long enough. In my experiences now with my Bf... playful tickling really only lasts 1-3 minutes. It HAS gone on longer, a few times, but overall... it's just over before it begins. Now, I enjoy them, don't get me wrong. It's a fun little hors d'oeuvre. The longer ones (5-10 minutes?) gave me a much better high/ rush. I was head in the clouds, floating across the room with these times that last longer. (Not ones in a full on session. 1/2 hour or more. THESE are what I truly want. ) I almost feel the REALLY quick 30 second tickles are... why bother? Of course I have not a had a long session in... I can't remember sadly. But...for me at this point, it's disheartening to have 30 sec, 1-2 mins.At least with 5-10 mins I feel more tortured or "taken". And yet, this is what I consider playful to me. Almost like... a half cup of both, mixed together. Shortened and condensed. Which is great and fun.
Even a bit of wrestling around to me with tickling is playful. But usually never lasts long either. Which I'm fine with. Wrestling at this point takes away my sensitivity because I'm fighting back pretty hard to get the upperhand. Too exhausting. I just don't have it within me to be passive when wrestling. (Even though I never win with my Bf... or am allowed to tickle him.)
I also enjoy those slow tickles. Light, slow... sexy. Even fast and deeper enter in of course for me, if we're solely talking about playful. Which we are here. But here again... there's MORE that I want. Usually I come back to duration here, as one of the biggest differences. Because if all a person would want from me say is playful tickling... unless they would specifically say their safeword. Or we discuss it beforehand that they would only want maybe a 10-15 min session of playful tickling... that's fine. Or if it's impromptu. But eventually it WILL get torturous. No matter the duration. Or just under the unbremlla of playful. The lee would safeword. Or say stop, I've had enough. Playful has a limit... one stops right at the edge before it becomes torture. So I guess a question here that I would ask is.. what is your limit with playful? I'm assuming it's when your lee says to stop.
Playful I guess is in the eye of the Playful Tickler.... But for me... those quick little tickles, are just playful reminders, a taste if you will, of what's to come at some point. Torture sessions.For myself and my future lees.
I can also add that I would be missing the headspace I want to be in. Although I do enjoy those fun playful tickles... I still want sadistic overtones. USUALLY. Not always. Because yes playful is cute.
So, I guess a lot of you that say you enjoy playful... now I'm assuming, for some of you, duration IS a factor. If you stop to think about it. Right? I KNOW there are others factors- another including maybe being sweet and silly etc. But from where I'm sitting a more of what seperates playful from torture is duration. Or at least it's playful... and stops before it can GET torturous. And rare are the restraints used... am I correct in what I'm thinking in what playful is to some of you?
Oh and I should add: playful... when I'm tickling someone.. it can be also just for a moment of fun. Being funny or cutesy. Aka there is no sexual attraction. Or, I have no intention of sessioning with said person. A quick squeeze or a few minutes of playful. More for a goof. Or to cheer someone up for a moment.. But I rarely ever do these kind of tickles anymore. As tickling IS my fetish... I never want the other person to think I'm doing it for my own personnal pleasure. That's if they know or could find out. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable with me. At this point in my life, I don't think there's anyone I know (or use to know) that I would ever do that to. At least to do it again. Unless they start tickling me first then... Idk. It could be pure fun but it also could be extremely awkward for me. I have this information about myself that they woulden't be aware of. So... Idk. When and if it happens I'll probably write about it lol.
