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People on tickling sites being extremely pessimistic?

RevyBL

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Don't know it it's a standard mindset but from what I've read on here and other tickling sites it seems like a lot of guys with tickle fetishes have a defeatist mentality when it comes to a woman being ticklish. I can understand being skeptical when it comes to tickle models since we know a lot of them ham it up for the clips. But it seems a lot of these guys actually believe most, if not the vast majority of women, aren't ticklish or are barely ticklish at all. Even being doubtful if a woman openly admits to being ticklish claiming she's ether faking or over exaggerating. I've always wondered where that disposition came from? Are these guys really having that bad of luck when it comes to finding ticklish women? Are their experiences very limited and act as if 1 or 2 women represent the majority of the population? Do they have unrealistic standards and expectations? Like being disappointing that a woman can get a full body massage or a pedicure without cracking a smile because in their mind that must mean she's not ticklish at all or scarcely ticklish? This attitude pops up frequently on tickling sites so this must be more common than not.
 
In every sense, people vary, both men and women, in tastes and reactions. Keep looking, be a decent sort within reason, and you have a great possibility over the years in finding what you want. Nothing's guaranteed, but persist and don't give up.

Admittedly that course of action sounds boring and dreary but it's the truth.

And it may happen sooner than later so keep pitching.
 
I think this is prevalent in any interest where there is a rabid fanbase. Examples include:

Star Wars Fans
Star Trek Fans
KISS Fans
Michael Jackson Fans
Horror Movie Genre fans
Comedian fans (No! George Carlin is the best ever! NO! Richard Pryor is! etc)
Music overall

Aging, as in Generation gap. Baby Boomers "VS" Millenials
Football, Soccer, Wrestling, Basketball etc
Northerners "VS" Southerners
East "VS" West
Democrats "VS" Republicans
Women "VS" Men


The list goes on and on. When some people become set in their ways of thinking... that's that. And that includes sexual fantasies. And the relationships people have had with the opposite or same sex. And porn.

I might write more in a bit- I'm just waking up lol.
 
My sense is that maybe a lot of people don't understand that tickling is 90% psychology. Being a good tickler who gets genuine reactions takes practice. Plus you need to have a certain dynamic in the room. If that's missing, you won't get a very good reaction. So if you're going in with the expectation that all you have to do as a ler is wiggle your fingers around a little bit, you're probably going to be disappointed.
 
Trouble is you can’t base reality purely on the amount of tickling clips you watch. This is going to be potentially an unpopular opinion but hey let’s roll with it, honestly you should really moderate the amount of content your taking in. Much like loads of porn in general it really messes with your brain and boxes things off into a one track mind so much so it can effect the way you have any sort of intamacy. . The reality is not everyone has the ticklish reactions you see in the clips you watch, we’re all different in how we express our ticklish sensations if any.

Also stop basing everything on purely tickling, working on improving oneself and being of a decent breed works wonders whilst making a connection. Can only speak on my experience but when you connect properly and someone’s into you the subject of some little old tickling is no biggie and reciprocated whether the person is into it or not. Work on your purpose and keep looking and sooner or later it’ll fall into place.
 
Great minds...

Also stop basing everything on purely tickling, working on improving oneself and being of a decent breed works wonders whilst making a connection. Can only speak on my experience but when you connect properly and someone’s into you the subject of some little old tickling is no biggie and reciprocated whether the person is into it or not. Work on your purpose and keep looking and sooner or later it’ll fall into place.

Same advice I always give.

:thumbsup:

:yourock:

:milestone:
 
Tickling is a fetish based on idealism. If your ideals are too serious, you won't enjoy the surprises.
 
It isn't a standard at all, but it can seem that way in the culture of the internet and forums where oft times opinions are presented as incontrovertible fact, even when they are not based in reality or experience. It's kinda like the squeaky wheel getting the oil. If an outsider just looked at the majority of posts, they would think there's no difference between loving tickling and loving feet. Or there are no women who crave tickling. Or any number of myths and pseudo truths we find floating around.
 
I think the reasoning behind this may be frustration. Most of us men are not very strong or wealthy and aren't studs who have access to many females. If the average man or below average man has a woman he feels comfortable tickling without fear he'll be arrested, that took him likely a lot of time and effort only to be greatly disappointed. This intense feeling of disappointment can easily cause someone to be disenfranchised and depressed, which can lead to a bleak paranoia that this is what will happen most of the time rather then it being one or two experiences of bad luck. Having a fetish can cause people a lot of problems.
 
I must have bad luck, because in my lifetime ive found very few women that have above average ticklishness. anything less and im not interested.
 
I’ve been lucky enough to find several women that were extremely ticklish throughout my life. Interesting theory though.
 
From my perspective, there's a super even distribution, or linear you might say. In other words, unlike what's called a "bell curve" distribution, where there are a lot more people clustered near the middle, like if you were graphing human male height for example, many more people clustered near the mean and much smaller percentages 8 inches below mean and 8 inches above mean....

With ticklishness, I've known about the same number of girls who are not ticklish at all, as I've known ones who are a little ticklish, a lot ticklish and highly ticklish. Without a scientific study or survey, feels like a kind of even distribution to me.

That said, I do think age is a factor. There does seem to be a correlation between getting older and getting less ticklish.

Interesting question, though.
 
I think the reasoning behind this may be frustration. Most of us men are not very strong or wealthy and aren't studs who have access to many females. If the average man or below average man has a woman he feels comfortable tickling without fear he'll be arrested, that took him likely a lot of time and effort only to be greatly disappointed. This intense feeling of disappointment can easily cause someone to be disenfranchised and depressed, which can lead to a bleak paranoia that this is what will happen most of the time rather then it being one or two experiences of bad luck. Having a fetish can cause people a lot of problems.

Who says you have to be strong or wealthy? If you do believe these are factors then there not actually fixed things in place - you can make yourself stronger by working out and wealthier by working harder and becoming more goal orientated...but here’s the thing unless you have intrinsic motivation and value and actually do these things for yourself a lot of these things are going to feel very empty. .

Second I don’t want to misinterpret what your saying here but you are you saying that you risk jail time the more you indulge in tickling someone? If you do it to someone you have no relationship with or just met then he’ll yeah you risk getting in trouble. If it’s someone you make the time and effort to get to know and bond with them then that’s a different story.

A fetish is not the cause of problems for people, it is their lack of self discipline and control of themselves which is the problem.
 
From my perspective, there's a super even distribution, or linear you might say. In other words, unlike what's called a "bell curve" distribution, where there are a lot more people clustered near the middle, like if you were graphing human male height for example, many more people clustered near the mean and much smaller percentages 8 inches below mean and 8 inches above mean....

With ticklishness, I've known about the same number of girls who are not ticklish at all, as I've known ones who are a little ticklish, a lot ticklish and highly ticklish. Without a scientific study or survey, feels like a kind of even distribution to me.

That said, I do think age is a factor. There does seem to be a correlation between getting older and getting less ticklish.

Interesting question, though.

Im not getting this age thing with you and ticklishness, I mean experience is one thing and maybe you’ve just been unlucky, however you have no proof what so ever in this factual manor your trying to present it in.
 
Surely a few people feel that way. It's really hard to get a picture of hidden traits over a population, and that's one thing online places like this are helpful for. It's similarly easy to think a lot of people have a certain opinion or perception when only a few have actually expressed it. In both cases, it's good advice to keep stock of the evidence on which you're basing your conclusions about how the world at large is.
 
Because it's such a psychological thing in addition to being physiological, there are dynamics to ticklishness that are more complex than most people give credit for.

Imagine, if you will, a woman who has gotten pedicures from women her entire life without so much as cracking a smile, but when her boyfriend says, "oh is this a good spot?" and runs a finger along her arch, she flails as if she's been stabbed. She's not faking it for his sake, she's reacting because the conditions are totally different. In "Laughter: A Scientific Investigation," Dr. Robert R. Provine talked about heterosexual people being several times more likely to react to being tickled by someone of the opposite sex and even more so positively. That's not conscious fakery, but reacting naturally to conditions that play out. And that's men and women, by the way, so if women are"faking it" then so are men across the board.

If you're a guy, have you ever engaged in foreplay and run your lips over her ribs before turning to her breasts? Odds are, she's not laughing. Outside of the bedroom, while you have her arm pinned do the same thing. You think she's faking it? Context matters when it comes to complex physiological reactions. If you doubt that, imagine someone with their hands on your genitals. How are you reacting? Is it a positive or a negative thing? Your answer would be, "it depends." And yeah, it really does.
 
A fetish is not the cause of problems for people, it is their lack of self discipline and control of themselves which is the problem.

And shame, lack of confidence and sheer self-hatred. No reason for any of these if you try to find someone decently, and let things ripen in an honest manner. And do NOT think this has anything to do with being a deadly dull, earnest boy scout type.

Work on being comfortable with what you want, work on presenting it well, and there you are.

Not always, but sometimes.
 
Who says you have to be strong or wealthy? If you do believe these are factors then there not actually fixed things in place - you can make yourself stronger by working out and wealthier by working harder and becoming more goal orientated...but here’s the thing unless you have intrinsic motivation and value and actually do these things for yourself a lot of these things are going to feel very empty. .

Second I don’t want to misinterpret what your saying here but you are you saying that you risk jail time the more you indulge in tickling someone? If you do it to someone you have no relationship with or just met then he’ll yeah you risk getting in trouble. If it’s someone you make the time and effort to get to know and bond with them then that’s a different story.

A fetish is not the cause of problems for people, it is their lack of self discipline and control of themselves which is the problem.


Strength and access to resources are prime examples of features that are sexually appealing, they are not necessarily the only successful mating strategies males use but they certainly are the two that come to mind and so I used them as examples. Your statements about those things being malleable isn't incorrect but is still overly simplistic and fails to take certain things into account such as genetic and environmental factors. Some people do not have time to spend in a gym all day, some people are physically or mentally disabled, others are not well educated and, some people may not place sexual interaction on such a high pedestal that they will devote such time and effort to receive it. I'm not sure what "intrinsic motivation and value" is but perhaps it is not present in everyone. It also fails to take direct competition from other males into account.


My statement about being arrested is me stating that you can't simply tickle people without first getting to know them and gaining their trust, this takes time and effort which will cause further disappointment to discover that person is not ticklish.
 
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