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So I've been wanting to post here my experience in early adulthood for a while now..
This is something I wish I had read here when I was younger and hope it finds a way to be helpful!
Like most guys I discovered our fetish early on and, being a teenager with internet, I got pretty used to tickling porn throughout high school.
At 18 when I "tried" to have sex for the first time I was really disappointed with myself. I couldn't do it, not properly at least. As you can imagine I freaked out a lot since all my life I thought sex was as easy as breathing and...what do you know, I didn't seem to be able to.
I knew that there was nothing physically wrong with me but only then I realised how "twisted" my sex drive had become. To prevent any premature answers, I am not bashing on tickling, but I do think that if you can't have vanilla sex at 18 there is something wrong with you.
That same year I found myself deeply in love and really anxious to be "normal" with my girlfriend at the time...It was horrible. I went through this forum with a fine tooth comb for some help, to no end I can recall. I quit cold turkey on all things tickling related but still, all that stress on performing, combined with zero confidence and experience kept me from doing it properly (I could start but I failed mid-act). In hindsight, it is not that surprising when you think of a guy obsessing about not going soft instead of enjoying the moment. Long story short, this ordeal lasted about three months, then I was just inexperienced but at least "functional". Overall it took me more that a year to become really good and confident about it, still being as far as possible from anything tickling related.
Around four years and let's say a few girls later, I was feeiling great! On top of the world!! By this point I had developed great game (or so I think) and felt really comfortable with my dominant side as a lover. But in all my self-love I felt bad about not being able to enjoy tickling as just a fun fetish and not treat it as burried radioactive waste from a previous life. So when I was tying up my girlfriends I started to indulge myself sometimes, never too frequently, in an "amateur tickle session", my highschool dream, with the most willing.
Since we are hardwired to jerk off when not having sex, I felt tempted to watch a tickling video every now and then, not only because I like them but to break the curse, if you will. I did and then when I had sex I was still awesome! It went like this for a while when at 26 and in a serious relationship, my girlfriend went away for a month and a half. By then I was never overdoing it with masturbation but I went on a tickling-only spree. She came home and after a week or so I had a failed launch
My pont is this: sex is the most awesome thing in the world, it's like food but better. And there is a very wide spectrum of experiences one can have, especially when you add a d/s angle like I suppose almost everyone here already does. So if you think about sex as a plate, think of tickling kinda like cayenne pepper. We happen to love it, but most people don't. Many like it when they try it and many are not even willing to try. It is definately not the only spice in the world and you should try others. Even if you want to have it everyday, respect those beside you that don't. Like in so many others things in life, have balance and you will conquer.
This is something I wish I had read here when I was younger and hope it finds a way to be helpful!
Like most guys I discovered our fetish early on and, being a teenager with internet, I got pretty used to tickling porn throughout high school.
At 18 when I "tried" to have sex for the first time I was really disappointed with myself. I couldn't do it, not properly at least. As you can imagine I freaked out a lot since all my life I thought sex was as easy as breathing and...what do you know, I didn't seem to be able to.
I knew that there was nothing physically wrong with me but only then I realised how "twisted" my sex drive had become. To prevent any premature answers, I am not bashing on tickling, but I do think that if you can't have vanilla sex at 18 there is something wrong with you.
That same year I found myself deeply in love and really anxious to be "normal" with my girlfriend at the time...It was horrible. I went through this forum with a fine tooth comb for some help, to no end I can recall. I quit cold turkey on all things tickling related but still, all that stress on performing, combined with zero confidence and experience kept me from doing it properly (I could start but I failed mid-act). In hindsight, it is not that surprising when you think of a guy obsessing about not going soft instead of enjoying the moment. Long story short, this ordeal lasted about three months, then I was just inexperienced but at least "functional". Overall it took me more that a year to become really good and confident about it, still being as far as possible from anything tickling related.
Around four years and let's say a few girls later, I was feeiling great! On top of the world!! By this point I had developed great game (or so I think) and felt really comfortable with my dominant side as a lover. But in all my self-love I felt bad about not being able to enjoy tickling as just a fun fetish and not treat it as burried radioactive waste from a previous life. So when I was tying up my girlfriends I started to indulge myself sometimes, never too frequently, in an "amateur tickle session", my highschool dream, with the most willing.
Since we are hardwired to jerk off when not having sex, I felt tempted to watch a tickling video every now and then, not only because I like them but to break the curse, if you will. I did and then when I had sex I was still awesome! It went like this for a while when at 26 and in a serious relationship, my girlfriend went away for a month and a half. By then I was never overdoing it with masturbation but I went on a tickling-only spree. She came home and after a week or so I had a failed launch
My pont is this: sex is the most awesome thing in the world, it's like food but better. And there is a very wide spectrum of experiences one can have, especially when you add a d/s angle like I suppose almost everyone here already does. So if you think about sex as a plate, think of tickling kinda like cayenne pepper. We happen to love it, but most people don't. Many like it when they try it and many are not even willing to try. It is definately not the only spice in the world and you should try others. Even if you want to have it everyday, respect those beside you that don't. Like in so many others things in life, have balance and you will conquer.
That's absurd. Imagine a world where there would be no TMF, no tickling pictures, no tickling stories, no clips, no movies, NO ONE talking about it EVER. How would you feel? You probably wouldn't KNOW there is such a thing as a tickle fetish to begin with. There would be no place for you to get acceptance, to get a better knowledge of yourself, your tastes, and what makes you tick. You'd essentially be alone and confused. 
There is a very prominent man in France who said "if you don't own a Rolex before you hit 50, your life is a failure" ; IMO it's the same judgmental bullcrap that everyone is better off without.
