We men need to take a step up! (inspired by a convo in chat)

[Adam55]

Hello,

I don't post often, but have been here for quite awhile. I had a conversation last night with mainly three people (NJJen, Rosebud, and Warren) and it was about Rosebud's recent post about how to scare away girls on the chat room. While we were talking I was getting more and more frusterated about how some men treat women in these chatrooms like just pcing them asking to tickle them with no permission whatsoever, asking about looks, etc. I know not all of us do this as Warren and I surely do not, but the bad thing is for the people that don't, we get steriotyped into this thus being called the immature ones. I am really not trying to start anything here as I don't believe this is a place for fighting, but I believe that someone from the male sex had to say something to straighten some out. All I am asking is just use decent behavior and be polite. You will get a lot further in life and maybe, just maybe us men could get the good reputation we deserve. Thank you for listening to my rant.

[Roseblossom]

It's too bad a few bad eggs ruin it for the rest of the good guys, isn't it?

[grippedchimp]

Perhaps I should change my name to "I.M.A.Male", so they won't bug me about my sex...

[dtrell]

how could anyone possibly think that a gripped chimp is a female??? hahahahah...i like gripping my chimp....hahahahah

[JPie1]

or as a female have a nondescript name , JPie....most people are unaware of my gender until I tell them.

[lightninbug]

It ALL comes down to common courtesy
nuff siad
-LB

[TickledToDeath]

However, this has been attempted many times before. On different levels...from asking nicely, subtle hints to outright blasting guys for swarming over every single female that enters a room like bees to hive! OR as I used to put it, like hungry wild dogs on a big steak!
Not good.
It's no wonder the ladies stay in the shadows or don't bother coming in at all!
No matter how much you emphisize this, it will happen again and again by the desperate few who cannot control their loins and or their pent up passions, knowing or not knowing, that desperation does NOT sell.
That and it is just plain RUDE! .
You cannot even use the arguement: What if it was the other way around and every time you(a male) went into a chat room and were bombarded with PC's from females...., cause they would probably love it!
It is great for us to stick up and step up for the ladies of the community but short of having them shut of their Private Message option, there will be little that can be done to stop this from happening. Unfortunatly. Also it would be tough for the Administrators to be selective as to who is alloed to PM and who is not.I do not think that there is an option for that in the TMF chatroom to make the Private Chat a controled feature.

TTD

[Knox The Hatter]

"Rosebud" indeed! ROF!
Here's a plan of action: the minute someone ambush pcs you upon entering the chat room, you ex out the box, and then press the ignore button on the sender. Sender instantly disappears faster than a Philadelphia Flyers fan after yet another embarrassing post season loss. No muss, no fuss! I would do that, if I didn't love dissin' them so horribly and calling them names and all that other rotten stuff. Sometimes, you get into good shouting matches...
You could figure out quickly who the ayholes are. And, you can avoid them, and you can make them the object of ridicule...you don't have to slink away from them or be afraid of them.

[ticklebutton]

It is so heartening to hear from men who understand that courtesy is the way to go with everyone, regardless of gender.
I've been a witness several times to those of you who speak up when someone gets hostile or makes degrading comments - you guys know who you are, and believe me you have our regard & affection!

And I laughed fondly like you, Knox, at the pet name Rosebud. (I hear Orson Wells' voice murmuring it at the end of Citizen Kane.)
Button

[P50]

A Thread titled: How To Stop Chasing Away The Normal Girls

is located here...

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthr...threadid=24448


I figure that I could get the job done in 1-to-2 years if I were dedicated to the task (which I'm definitely not) or, if three or four folks got together and organized themselves well, perhaps 6-to-12 months.

From the looks of things, the currently extant TMF software team (I think his name is "Marauder" :-) won't be able to do this in real life,,, not now,,, not ever. What I've suggested in that other thread is just too much, conceived as afterthoughts, and not something that the original design will facilitate in any reasonable form; i.e., I'm suggesting thin-air-to-market development.

And so,,, I believe that we'll continue to have this problem as long as [A] the membership requirements are (1) the ability to type and (2) an internet connection, and [B] We continue to use the existing software. i.e., forever under the current operations

And so I wonder,,,, could four of us make money writing Yet Another Chatroom ?

There must be a dozen chat-rooms on the market. I wonder.

YACKITY-YACK -- Your All Capacity Kickstart Internal Talk FacilitY - Yet Another Chatroom Kiosk

[grippedchimp]

how could anyone possibly think that a gripped chimp is a female??? hahahahah...i like gripping my chimp....hahahahah

Ladies and gentlemen, this is gonna the funniest thing dtrell will ever say in this forum... which isn't saying much...

[HisDivineShadow]

That's sad. I still can't believe anyone would think you are a female.

[Limeoutsider]

The first time I went into chat I was bombed with PC's, it got so bad that I left without saying anything to anyone who had PC'ed me, and when I went back to the chatroom a week or so later, everyone thought I was a guy

[BigJim]

Back when the old room was still around, I tried going in under obviously female names once. Every time I was bombarded with unrequested PM's demanding my age, sex, location etc. The people often didn't even bother inflecting it into a question. They'd just bark it out, like the were talking to a puter or summat.

To all the charismaless pee-wees out there, quite this shite will ya? It's bad for the reputation of male chatters as a whole and will get you NOWHERE in your search for a chat, meeting or anything else. The only effect will be every female member and most male members too thinking you are a colossal asshole with less social grace than a pubic louse. Yanno?

[Roseblossom]

the problem here isn't our gender!

That's Adam's point; that it's time for us all to insist on respectful treatment of everyone.

Rose