The reason why I'm still a virgin at 48 is a few reasons. One is I was raised with strict parents, with religion and sex outside of marriage was not even thought of.
I don't quite get the correlation between being a 48 year-old virgin and the religious upbringing. I had a very religious upbringing myself, and it was quite the opposite. If you're not married with children by the age you get your PhD or something, they start to put A LOT of pressure on you, introduce you to increasingly random girls (once you turned down all the friends and removed cousins
) and practically would PAY someone to let you put the ring on them. I myself married relatively late, 31, and thank goodness it was to a woman of my own choosing, and HOORAY she is an atheist like I am
. But since I live in a faraway country I did not feel too much of that pressure. Back home though, I got two cousins (female); one who got married at around 36 and another who had a cute daughter out of wedlock, and it was hell for them, during a few years.
I received a lot of encouragement and incentives to get girlfriends during my teens, cause my religious parents wanted to make sure that: 1) I wasn't a homosexual and 2) that I could get married and BREED like a good soldier of God. So it's strange for me to imagine religion as a barrier towards getting girlfriends; quite the opposite, in my own (arguably personal) experience
This one point aside, I hear you loud and clear on the rest of your post. You do make good points. And please do not worry: you won't get ridiculed by me, nor by anyone worth talking to here. We all have different personalities and experiences, and there's quite a few people here who also struggle with social anxiety.
ask the LBGT community as to how they got their sexuality accepted by the masses.
They have not been accepted by the masses at all. They have just become more visible, and have organized as a lobby, with huge funding to back them up.