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Normalizing our fetish

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Iluv2tickle123

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I wasn't sure if this should be in this thread or the general discussion one so please advise if I need to delete it and move to a different location.

Fetishes are becoming increasingly commonly talked about but ours still has a taboo feel to it. I personally think it would benefit all of us if this was as openly talked about as the foot fetish. The shy ones amongst us would be more likely to ask their partner about tickling, the bold would have an easier time finding a partner to play with, and more models and producers would come out of the woodwork to make videos. I 100% understand being uncomfortable bringing this up when talking to people in real life, I have only told my ex, my current girlfriend, and a handful of strangers that work at a local "body rub" establishment, strip club with a private room, or some similar situation. I think that we could normalize this fetish if the people of this community used the power of anonymity to talk about it outside the safety of this forum. Using alternate accounts to post things like "I wonder if she's ticklish" on pornhub, asking for youtube vloggers to do a tickle challenge when prompted, posting something about it on reddit, etc. could all help to normalize our fetish. What are your alls thoughts on this?
 
Just tell women you like making them laugh their asses off and be done. So long as you don't want to tie them up I haven't heard of a single one that gives a shit and if they do then they were afraid of laughing too hard or being tickled or whatnot or they just weren't into it at all.

The nature of our fetish, namely tying people up and tickling them on film and in person, is fucking weird. It won't change. Ever. Not unless you have someone who from the getup wants kinky shit. So normalize my ass cuz I played this channel, homeboy.
 
duderino84 said:
Just tell women you like making them laugh their asses off and be done. So long as you don't want to tie them up I haven't heard of a single one that gives a shit and if they do then they were afraid of laughing too hard or being tickled or whatnot or they just weren't into it at all.

The nature of our fetish, namely tying people up and tickling them on film and in person, is fucking weird. It won't change. Ever. Not unless you have someone who from the getup wants kinky shit. So normalize my ass cuz I played this channel, homeboy.
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Dude, you always sound so pessimistic :p Whenever I read you, I imagine a Vietnam war veteran type speaking with a raspy voice :D

To the OP: In my opinion, we don't need to "do" anything about it. Duderino above has kind of a dark outlook on it, but he is right in the sense that it does not belong to us to change other people's perception of what is "normal", "acceptable" or "weird". Just let it be, accept yourself and the people who love you will accept you too, no sweat.

Plus, what is "normal" ? In my view, it's the vanillas who are missing out big time ;) Oh and remember what Jodie Foster said? "Normal is not something to aspire to, it's something to get away from."

Here's to your life :gbtoast:
 
As a comparison I sometimes wonder was it more exciting to be a gay man, when it was against the law.

I think part of the thrill for me is that there is an illicit nature about tickling (I don't want to be asked by a doctor: "so how's your tickling life"). However I know the way society is going now is that every physical human interaction requires a number of consent forms to be filled out first.

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Tenebrae said:
Dude, you always sound so pessimistic :p Whenever I read you, I imagine a Vietnam war veteran type speaking with a raspy voice :D
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Lol I think I have a reasonably sunny disposition, just a pretty dry well to drink from. But I remember on this very forum talking about ways to "normalize" and just hearing "you just want to change the world! You don't want to adjust any part of your outlook!" (Insert screeching voices when reading, lolz). People are cool (within reason) with tickling so long as you don't want to introduce them to encasement or some shit. Otherwise I can find a tickling and handjob session sometime when I need it.

Focus on more hardcore shit that can scare them into wanting tickling. Lol
 
Iluv2tickle123 said:
I wasn't sure if this should be in this thread or the general discussion one so please advise if I need to delete it and move to a different location.

Fetishes are becoming increasingly commonly talked about but ours still has a taboo feel to it. I personally think it would benefit all of us if this was as openly talked about as the foot fetish. The shy ones amongst us would be more likely to ask their partner about tickling, the bold would have an easier time finding a partner to play with, and more models and producers would come out of the woodwork to make videos. I 100% understand being uncomfortable bringing this up when talking to people in real life, I have only told my ex, my current girlfriend, and a handful of strangers that work at a local "body rub" establishment, strip club with a private room, or some similar situation. I think that we could normalize this fetish if the people of this community used the power of anonymity to talk about it outside the safety of this forum. Using alternate accounts to post things like "I wonder if she's ticklish" on pornhub, asking for youtube vloggers to do a tickle challenge when prompted, posting something about it on reddit, etc. could all help to normalize our fetish. What are your alls thoughts on this?
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The "taboo feel" is in your own head. No one gives a shit about what you're into until you make it their business. On the scale of weirdness, tickling barely registers.

And how is pestering people anonymously to get your rocks off "normalizing" anything?
 
TMeWhiteauthor said:
As a comparison I sometimes wonder was it more exciting to be a gay man, when it was against the law.
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the reality was that these people feared for their lives constantly and wanted a society that would see them as valid as any other person and not a subhuman being to be loathed/beaten/murdered on site, not that they used the stigma to get off on it. gay/trans people are ~still~ fighting this fight to some extent, and for most of us NOTHING about it is sexy. even comparing the actual stigmitization of homosexuals to a fetish is... extremely gross.

I think part of the thrill for me is that there is an illicit nature about tickling (I don't want to be asked by a doctor: "so how's your tickling life"). However I know the way society is going now is that every physical human interaction requires a number of consent forms to be filled out first.

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"It's so sexy the way you minimize the importance of consent!" said no one, ever.

at this point I don't even know why you bothered commenting in this thread, you barely addressed the question at all and instead injected your shitty opinions about society no-one asked for. no one is impressed, and you don't even have the gumption to be outraged over shit that actually matters, it's just "waaaahhhhh I have to ask permission before i touch people!" get out of here with that shit.

Anyway...

I would love if this kink at least felt more accessible to others. I feel that for whatever reason, people do seem a bit standoffish. I go to play parties pretty regularly and my partner is more into impact. when she does scenes, she gets a lot of attention, she gets people telling her they enjoyed watching, Etc. when I do tickling scenese, people kind of wonder in and wonder away and I hear very little about it even being interesting or intriguing afterwards. Granted i'm new-ish to being this active, so maybe more will come to light as I move forward. It does feel pretty bad never really feeling like you can connect with others, like what you like is "out there" and that people kind of slink away when you bring it up or just say something like "aw, that's cute!" and just assume it's like a side-kink not worth exploring further. that all sucks and feels isolating. just last night my partner described my kink as "offbeat," and it's like, that sounds kind of endearing I guess but I really wish it were more commonplace. I really wish more people saw the value in it without having to be convinced, I wish it were something that has immediate appeal to most other people but as it stands it just isn't that way really, but even so I'm learning how to navigate it day by day. at least this way, eventually finding people to talk tickles and play is that much more rewarding even though the search sucks, hard. I'd still prefer greater accessibility tbh
 
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When I was enjoying the dating scene back in the day I didn’t view our fetish as a curse that would ostracize me from finding love and happiness. I knew it was necessary for me to find fulfillment and gratification to indulge in tickling. So I did so unapologetically.

I never unveiled my interest in tickling with a serious talk accompanied with dramatic music. If I was lucky enough that a date with a lovely lady ended in the bedroom, then I would incorporate the tickling in a natural way. Many of the women I was with honestly seemed to enjoy it and didn’t mention anything out of the ordinary. The ones that did specifically mention the tickling usually did so because they really loved it.

At the end of the day I think it’s less about our tickling fetish looking normal to the mainstream, and more so about how we are viewed by those close to us. Even though foot fetish is mainstream and everyone knows about it, I personally don’t know anyone who has it, because openly talking about fetishes isn’t something we usually do with friends.

So carry on and continue to indulge unabashedly in our wonderful fetish. I’ve only recently figured out that most people worry only how they are perceived, and rarely give too much thought about the weirdness of others.
 
I'm glad I have this fetish. Deviating from the norm or not, a norm is arbitrary in the first place. Most people never tell their deepest secrets. Our fetish is pretty 'normal' in the end.
 
Persephone Darner said:
I would love if this kink at least felt more accessible to others. I feel that for whatever reason, people do seem a bit standoffish. I go to play parties pretty regularly and my partner is more into impact. when she does scenes, she gets a lot of attention, she gets people telling her they enjoyed watching, Etc. when I do tickling scenese, people kind of wonder in and wonder away and I hear very little about it even being interesting or intriguing afterwards. Granted i'm new-ish to being this active, so maybe more will come to light as I move forward. It does feel pretty bad never really feeling like you can connect with others, like what you like is "out there" and that people kind of slink away when you bring it up or just say something like "aw, that's cute!" and just assume it's like a side-kink not worth exploring further. that all sucks and feels isolating. just last night my partner described my kink as "offbeat," and it's like, that sounds kind of endearing I guess but I really wish it were more commonplace. I really wish more people saw the value in it without having to be convinced, I wish it were something that has immediate appeal to most other people but as it stands it just isn't that way really, but even so I'm learning how to navigate it day by day. at least this way, eventually finding people to talk tickles and play is that much more rewarding even though the search sucks, hard. I'd still prefer greater accessibility tbh
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That's pretty wild, but I suppose it's true. So if I went to play parties it might all go away? Lol. Idk, I live in a world where it's considered racy to even touch someone, hence when I meet someone for the next layer beyond surface level it feels like I already "scored". Here's to hoping I move to a new place that actually endorses more than the standard issue facebook thumbs up when someone succeeds socially. People do this in Texas?
 
Persephone Darner said:
at this point I don't even know why you bothered commenting in this thread, you barely addressed the question at all and instead injected your shitty opinions about society no-one asked for. no one is impressed, and you don't even have the gumption to be outraged over shit that actually matters, it's just "waaaahhhhh I have to ask permission before i touch people!" get out of here with that shit.

I feel that for whatever reason, people do seem a bit standoffish.
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Perhaps if you weren't so rude and didn't try to shut down anyone else views that don't match up with your own, it might help.
 
TMeWhiteauthor said:
Perhaps if you weren't so rude and didn't try to shut down anyone else views that don't match up with your own, it might help.
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TMeWhiteauthor said:
As a comparison I sometimes wonder was it more exciting to be a gay man, when it was against the law.
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I don't trust someone who would honestly say something this ignorant and insensitive about a hugely marginalized group of people - who for so long have suffered through being called sexual deviants and cast out of communities at best and raped beaten and murdered at worst - to have any understanding at all of what truly constitutes "rude," so your assessment means very little to me.

your views are abhorrent and not to mention extremely harmful toward a community of people I identify with very strongly, and you're wantonly framing their persecution as sexually "exciting" to you is fucking gross, dude. and on top of that you complain about consent which doesn't look good on anyone.

I owe you no semblance of niceness regardless, but even so you certainly have done nothing to earn it

cry more.
 
Not sure you can normalize it i think most people know its a turn on
 
Persephone Darner said:
I don't trust someone who would honestly say something this ignorant and insensitive about a hugely marginalized group of people - who for so long have suffered through being called sexual deviants and cast out of communities at best and raped beaten and murdered at worst - to have any understanding at all of what truly constitutes "rude," so your assessment means very little to me.

your views are abhorrent and not to mention extremely harmful toward a community of people I identify with very strongly, and you're wantonly framing their persecution as sexually "exciting" to you is fucking gross, dude. and on top of that you complain about consent which doesn't look good on anyone.

I owe you no semblance of niceness regardless, but even so you certainly have done nothing to earn it

cry more.
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Sorry I could explain to you, how you have completely misinterpreted what I have said, based on your million miles wide of the mark, assumptions about my sexuality. However if there is one thing I have learned in this life, it is not to debate with, or explain oneself to morons.
 
Considering some of the other fetishes that exist , ours is very normal and tame compared to them .
 
tbh if you want to "normalize the fetish" it would probably help if the people who had it could behave like normal people. I don't think it's a particularly hot take to say a lot of ticklefuckers are fucking weirdos who seemingly can't behave themselves and that's your biggest roadblock.
 
Comfort Eagle said:
tbh if you want to "normalize the fetish" it would probably help if the people who had it could behave like normal people. I don't think it's a particularly hot take to say a lot of ticklefuckers are fucking weirdos who seemingly can't behave themselves and that's your biggest roadblock.
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So you're saying no means yes and that's a hurdle?
 
For those interested in M/M tickling and wondering if it can ever be "normalized" or accepted (it's already normal, acceptance is the next part), you can give a listen to this podcast about my personal experience. InterestingSexPodcast.png
 
I don't particularly care for the normalization of the fetish, I don't think it's necessary or beneficial.
 
Nobody has ever really explained what the fuck "normalization" even entails...
 
I don't know how you would normalize the tickle fetish, but I do feel that it'd be an easier process coming from a more playful aspect of the fetish rather than the more extreme end. Tickling is already something people do with their loved ones and it would probably be easier to ease people into the fetish from that aspect rather than the ones showcased in tickling videos or talking about tickle sessions.

I wouldn't really compare tickling to homosexuality. It's really not that homosexuality is more accepted nowadays, it just that in today's climate in the west you're not allowed to have the "wrong opinions" and you will have a people set on destroying your life for simply disagreeing with their view points.
 
The difference

When I think about this question -- comparing our fetish to others -- I think about a couple of key differences that separate us. The first is a large asymmetry between the number of 'lees and 'lers.

Many fetishes, like "top" and "bottom" roles for gays, dressing up in furry costumes or dominant/submissives don't seem to present a huge imbalances for finding partners, it seems to me. And other fetishes, like foot fetishes, while there are lot more people turned on by other people's feet than there are people turned on by worshippers of their own feet -- those on that receiving end don't exactly mind foot massages from people they otherwise like. So that kind of role imbalance isn't so bad, since going along for the ride is an easy ask.

Ours, however, is one where a whole lot of people will tell you right away that they "hate" being tickled. They hate it. Apart from being whipped or beaten, being tickled (especially for more than a few seconds) really is a highly unpopular sexual practice for the average person, statistically.

Separately, there are a lot of people who just aren't ticklish. Dating them for us would be akin to a foot fetishist dating someone without legs.

And so these things make it harder for us. We don't just have the pervy stigma to overcome, just like all the other fetishes... we also have significant statistical challenges that make it harder to find partners, especially if you're also picky about who you date in other ways as well.
 
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