I've gotta be honest about my thoughts. I haven't posted in this community for a while. I'll break it down one point at a time and I hope you all can be understanding.
I'm not super active in here because if I'm being honest I don't feel like I fit in with the general vibes. There are a couple reasons I feel that way:
1. I don't like non-consensual tickling under any circumstances. The idea of forcing tickling on someone or it being forced on me makes me very uncomfortable. I LOVE tickling, but only when it's between me and someone where we both know that we want to be tickled.
2. Tickle torture is not my thing. I can't even watch the videos/read the stories where the goal of the Ler is to tickle the Lee hardcore and have them begging to stop and tears rolling down their face from laughing so hard.
3. I'm not big on sex. As a man it's odd, but I've never really had the desire to have sex. I'm very much attracted to women, and I'm all for having a relationship. I'm interested in having sensual experiences like kissing, cuddling, and of course tickling. It's just that I'm not interested in the explicitly sexual stuff. Like for example, a lot of the stories in the tickling community lead to sex or at least sexual stuff like mentioning things like a guy getting hard during the tickling and making him wait to get jerked off being part of the thrill or making a woman "wet" during tickling. That kind of stuff is uncomfortable for me and no matter how much I'm enjoying a story, if it goes down that path, I'll just have to stop reading because it takes the enjoyment out of it for me.
4. I'm not big on the idea of tickling with a stranger, like meeting up with someone for a session. Tickling to me is a very sensual and personal and I prefer to do it with someone I'm close with, particularly a GF. Now this is the one thing I might be willing to budge on in the future, especially if I can't find a woman who enjoys tickling. I'd have to see though. I don't know what's out there exactly.
A lot of you are probably reading this and asking why I'm even in this community if I feel this way. While I may not be in the majority on these things listed above, I do LOVE tickling. It does get me aroused very easily when I think about a tickling scenario. You may say that contradicts with me saying I'm not into the sexual aspect of it, but just because I'm aroused doesn't mean I act on it. Moving on, to give examples of the kind of tickling I enjoy, I'll use my ex GF experiences.
It all started when I was giving her a back massage one day. She was laying face down and I had my hands under her shirt so I could use oil for the massage. I was doing up near her neck and shoulders and started working my way down and got near her sides and when I did that, she squirmed and giggled a bit. I was amused but didn't say anything. I slid a little more down her sides towards her belly and she laughed and acknowledged she was ticklish. She reached out and grabbed my sides and I nearly fell on the floor and she got a kick out of it. This was the day we discovered that we both enjoyed tickling. Tickling ended up being a huge part of the remainder of our relationship. We did tickle wrestling, when we cuddled we'd sneak tickles in just to make each other laugh, and also tickling was a major way we advanced our physical relationship. Since tickling was most effective on bare skin, there was advancements in discovering each other's bodies. We also played tickling games like seeing who could last the longest without completely squirming and moving too much or trying to find the most ticklish spots on each other's bodies. We'd tease each other in a fun-loving way. I loved when we called back to the massage tickle. Every now and then we'd say "Let's do some legit massages with no tickling." But it always came with a wink because we knew it would lead to tickling, but pretending it would be just a massage made it more fun and entertaining. We'd actually kind of role play. We'd pretend one of us was a client at a massage parlor and the other was a professional masuese and the massage would start normal but eventually the fingers would drift and squeeze around the sides and we'd laugh and the masuese would say they have to test how ticklish they are by giving a "belly massage." OMG that was the best. The squeezing massage motion on the belly and sides was so ticklish for both of us. We'd laugh so much together. Unfortunately our relationship didn't last because she was very immature and ended up cheating on me, and then dated/cheated on 3 different guys in the years after we broke up. Although the relationship ended on a bitter note, those memories will always be good.
I've tried to figure out why I enjoy it so much. I think part of it is the fact that I'm a guy who loves to laugh and especially laugh with others, and this is a great way to do that. Genuine happy laughter is something that makes me feel so good.
I know most of you are way more hardcore than me when it comes to tickling, and I totally respect that. I'm just not the same way. I just wish I could find a few people in a similar boat as me.
I'm not super active in here because if I'm being honest I don't feel like I fit in with the general vibes. There are a couple reasons I feel that way:
1. I don't like non-consensual tickling under any circumstances. The idea of forcing tickling on someone or it being forced on me makes me very uncomfortable. I LOVE tickling, but only when it's between me and someone where we both know that we want to be tickled.
2. Tickle torture is not my thing. I can't even watch the videos/read the stories where the goal of the Ler is to tickle the Lee hardcore and have them begging to stop and tears rolling down their face from laughing so hard.
3. I'm not big on sex. As a man it's odd, but I've never really had the desire to have sex. I'm very much attracted to women, and I'm all for having a relationship. I'm interested in having sensual experiences like kissing, cuddling, and of course tickling. It's just that I'm not interested in the explicitly sexual stuff. Like for example, a lot of the stories in the tickling community lead to sex or at least sexual stuff like mentioning things like a guy getting hard during the tickling and making him wait to get jerked off being part of the thrill or making a woman "wet" during tickling. That kind of stuff is uncomfortable for me and no matter how much I'm enjoying a story, if it goes down that path, I'll just have to stop reading because it takes the enjoyment out of it for me.
4. I'm not big on the idea of tickling with a stranger, like meeting up with someone for a session. Tickling to me is a very sensual and personal and I prefer to do it with someone I'm close with, particularly a GF. Now this is the one thing I might be willing to budge on in the future, especially if I can't find a woman who enjoys tickling. I'd have to see though. I don't know what's out there exactly.
A lot of you are probably reading this and asking why I'm even in this community if I feel this way. While I may not be in the majority on these things listed above, I do LOVE tickling. It does get me aroused very easily when I think about a tickling scenario. You may say that contradicts with me saying I'm not into the sexual aspect of it, but just because I'm aroused doesn't mean I act on it. Moving on, to give examples of the kind of tickling I enjoy, I'll use my ex GF experiences.
It all started when I was giving her a back massage one day. She was laying face down and I had my hands under her shirt so I could use oil for the massage. I was doing up near her neck and shoulders and started working my way down and got near her sides and when I did that, she squirmed and giggled a bit. I was amused but didn't say anything. I slid a little more down her sides towards her belly and she laughed and acknowledged she was ticklish. She reached out and grabbed my sides and I nearly fell on the floor and she got a kick out of it. This was the day we discovered that we both enjoyed tickling. Tickling ended up being a huge part of the remainder of our relationship. We did tickle wrestling, when we cuddled we'd sneak tickles in just to make each other laugh, and also tickling was a major way we advanced our physical relationship. Since tickling was most effective on bare skin, there was advancements in discovering each other's bodies. We also played tickling games like seeing who could last the longest without completely squirming and moving too much or trying to find the most ticklish spots on each other's bodies. We'd tease each other in a fun-loving way. I loved when we called back to the massage tickle. Every now and then we'd say "Let's do some legit massages with no tickling." But it always came with a wink because we knew it would lead to tickling, but pretending it would be just a massage made it more fun and entertaining. We'd actually kind of role play. We'd pretend one of us was a client at a massage parlor and the other was a professional masuese and the massage would start normal but eventually the fingers would drift and squeeze around the sides and we'd laugh and the masuese would say they have to test how ticklish they are by giving a "belly massage." OMG that was the best. The squeezing massage motion on the belly and sides was so ticklish for both of us. We'd laugh so much together. Unfortunately our relationship didn't last because she was very immature and ended up cheating on me, and then dated/cheated on 3 different guys in the years after we broke up. Although the relationship ended on a bitter note, those memories will always be good.
I've tried to figure out why I enjoy it so much. I think part of it is the fact that I'm a guy who loves to laugh and especially laugh with others, and this is a great way to do that. Genuine happy laughter is something that makes me feel so good.
I know most of you are way more hardcore than me when it comes to tickling, and I totally respect that. I'm just not the same way. I just wish I could find a few people in a similar boat as me.