Don't make a big thing out of it. If you have the time and premises to hand, give her a glass of wine, take a candlelit bath with her (you get the taps end) and suck her toes very slowly, one by one while caressing her foot with your other hand. Use your teeth gently and keep her just this side of giggling. If you can manage to negotiate that precarious tightrope you're on the way.
She may not acquiesce immediately but gently convince her over time that though she'll always been more important to you than tickling, it's special and you want her to enjoy it with you. Above all, learn to keep a straight face while asserting this. It will be valuable practise for further encounters over the years.
That sounds like straight up grooming, man.
With a little gaslighting thrown in for ambience.
This post is absolutely disgusting.
Trying to get a girl wherever you want with such materialistic stuff even though you KNOW she HATES it..
how disrespectful can you be....???
Do not concur. When someone tells you about a horrible experience in the past, that they've only just now been able to tell someone about, you don't counter with how much it turns you on. That just adds another layer of bad feelings to something they've already got a problem with.
I've had girlfriends who hated being tickled, but when they learned it was a kink for me they were willing to try it, and they ended up enjoying it.
So I think you need to have a conversation with her where you're honest about your interests. And give her a chance to deal with it directly.
Because right now, this conversation only exists in your head and she hasn't had a chance to make a decision or offer an opinion. When she says she hates being tickled, that could cover a very wide range of feelings, from "I've only had negative experiences, but my mind is open" to "I literally cannot and will not be tickled for any reason."
So I would say just talk it out as soon as possible.
I'm in complete agreement with Jeff here. We've met and chatted IRL at several NESTs, and I can vouch for his sanity, or at least the fact that he's among the saner members on this site.
I'm ancient compared to most here and first began practical exploration of this hobby in the 70s. I've met some girls (girls in those days but of legal age...) who loved it anyway, some who found themselves interested, some who indulged me and some who absolutely hated it. Above all don't forget that every woman is a human being and approach her accordingly.
That being said, Dr. Seuss's book 'Green Eggs and Ham' is a pretty valuable allegory when explaining how new things might be fun.
My present wife of almost 14 years confided that when an ex snuck up behind her and gently poked her in the ribs when she was preparing dinner she tried to knife him, declaring very loudly that she hated being tickled. Now though gentle modification of that once- dreaded sensation she can now be brought to orgasm by moderate to vigorous foot tickling and nothing else. It's actually quite fun for both of us, but as we met relatively late in life (mine; she's almost three decades younger and I have every intention of dying first) I'd discovered that it did work with a fair few of her predecessors. I experimented.
Nothing works with everyone because everyone is different, but sometimes people can change. It's best not to judge or be censorious, as has happened in previous posts in this thread.
In conclusion I'll offer the same advice as was offered me when he noticed me floundering badly by a far older (late 30s) and more sophisticated English guy in '75, when I was 19. 'Unfortunately you can't be too nice to women', he said. 'If you are, you'll always have plenty of female friends, but everyone else will be fucking them'. I was in my early 30s before I realised that unfortunately he was right.
I didn't like the long series of rotten experiences I went through to learn it, but he was right.
Don't be a pig, but don't be a pushover either. And that's a real balancing act.
Never force; learn when and how to negotiate.
Good luck. And remember that humanity in general doesn't change but individual people might.
