Those of you with no tickling play partners, how do you cope?

Lord, the last experience I had was...well, I'm not sure. Maybe back in college? I'm in my forties now. Hmm. I've never thought of it as "coping" as much as "that just the way things are." Would I change it? I'm not sure. Tickling has always played an active role in my imagination and fantasy life, but it's never crossed into the "real world" in any meaningful way.

bitterbrew1973 said:

I'm in my forties now. .... Tickling has always played an active role in my imagination and fantasy life, but it's never crossed into the "real world" in any meaningful way.

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I'm nothing special. I married the just-turned 24 year old pro ballet dancer KT in 2006 when I was almost 51. We're (touch wood) still together. Yes, it was an unimaginable stroke of luck meeting her especially considering I was homeless and sofa-surfing at the time. But if I hadn't gathered my almost nonexistent courage and struck up a conversation nothing would have happened at all. I'd sure as hell had uncountable romantic failures before then, (including two failed marriages) interspersed with a few temporary successes.

You still have time but don't let it run out.

Start talking to women IRL. It won't be easy and sometimes you'll feel like an idiot, but eventually you'll strike gold.

'Sometimes'

Sometimes things don’t go, after all,
from bad to worse. Some years, muscadel
faces down frost; green thrives; the crops don’t fail.
Sometimes a man aims high, and all goes well.

A people sometimes will step back from war,
elect an honest man, decide they care
enough, that they can’t leave some stranger poor.
Some men become what they were born for.

Sometimes our best intentions do not go
amiss; sometimes we do as we meant to.
The sun will sometimes melt a field of sorrow
that seemed hard frozen; may it happen for you.
-Sheenagh Pugh

http://www.sccenglish.ie/2009/01/sometimes-by-sheenagh-pugh.html

Have really appreciated this thread started by OkImTicklish. Really is amazing how many kind and caring and well-lived people are out there willing to share their experiences to help others. Gives me so much hope. Thank you all. I was especially touched by Gitana’s and Libertine’s Posts. Gitana’s for her sage advice on meditation, exercise, and eating healthily, and Libertine’s for putting yourself outside your comfort zone and having the best summer of your life now. I think getting our mind and body in better shape is the key to overcoming many of life’s ‘problems’. I also think that the ability to challenge ourselves and our assumption of who we are is also key to living a meaningful life. We are all capable of so many amazingly wonderful things. We just have to open ourselves to those possibilities, tune out the negative noise, and listen to that small voice inside all of us that knows we are all valuable and worthy of love and giving love back. Thanks again for this great conversation unfolding. Means alot to me. Thank you.

I take comfort in the testimonials of others in the same boat as myself, and some even worse off when it comes to feeling tickle deprived! Some of your accounts are genuinely moving and quite helpful!

Well knowing I loved tickling since as long as I can remember. I usually take breaks from watching videos and visiting the forum if it gets too much to handle. I know it may sound odd but I get a certain satisfaction and fulfillment from tickling so if I have no female to tickle it can get depressing. So I have to put it in the back of my mind and carry on vanilla. I know its easier said then done but it's reality.

Libertine said:

Yes, we perceive things differently, but only because you're reading the wrong sort of verse.

My only association with Hamlet was playing Second Gravedigger in an Edinburgh production a while back. You really want grim amusement, play an Assistant Clown part like that one and watch your career thrive!

But I'll give you hope and inspiration whether you want it or not.

Here's a poem by Thomas Jordan (c. 1612–1685) a poet, playwright and actor. A 'Theorbo' is a bass lute, BTW.


LET us drink and be merry, dance, joke, and rejoice,
With claret and sherry, theorbo and voice!
The changeable world to our joy is unjust,
All treasure's uncertain,
Then down with your dust!
In frolics dispose your pounds, shillings, and pence,
For we shall be nothing a hundred years hence.

We'll sport and be free with Moll, Betty, and Dolly,
Have oysters and lobsters to cure melancholy:
Fish-dinners will make a lass spring like a flea,
Dame Venus, love's lady,
Was born of the sea;
With her and with Bacchus we'll tickle the sense,
For we shall be past it a hundred years hence.

Your most beautiful bride who with garlands is crown'd
And kills with each glance as she treads on the ground,
Whose lightness and brightness doth shine in such splendour
That none but the stars
Are thought fit to attend her,
Though now she be pleasant and sweet to the sense,
Will be damnable mouldy a hundred years hence.

Then why should we turmoil in cares and in fears,
Turn all our tranquill'ty to sighs and to tears?
Let's eat, drink, and play till the worms do corrupt us,
'Tis certain, Post mortem,
Nulla voluptas.
For health, wealth and beauty, wit, learning and sense,
Must all come to nothing a hundred years hence.

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Now get out there and start living.

Make this summer a memorable one because when it's over it's over for good.

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Holy hell that was one of the finest pep talks/texts I've seen in many a moon.

I'm right there with AlBundyIsMyHero. In fact I might be worse. See for me it was being tickle abused by my grandfather that somehow lead to me having a foot tickle fetish. And because I hated it being done to me I emotionally cannot understand how I would ever find a girl who's like you want to tickle the shit out of me? That's hot. I'm like that can't exist right? Now 40 I realize logically I've been wrong my whole life about that. That maybe 50% of people would at least indulge from time to time, but not sure how many would be like 1-2 times a week is what I'm after because I am too.

Okay so there's that. Then there's my grandpa was sexually abusive towards my mother. Had she not met my father who she wasn't really meant for I wouldn't be here. When their marriage fell apart 6 years later she moved back to the town gramps lived in. Asked her as an adult what that was all about. Single young female with a kid. What are you going to do? Good point. But consequently for better and for worse (Yes life is like that. Very rarely is anything/anyone completely evil or good) my brother, who came along from a different father, and myself were exposed to our grandfather. He was a great father figure, but also a pig. He was my role model for what a man is supposed to be like, but I know that being a horn dog is probably not okay most of the time. He definitely saw himself as an alpha male.

I've also taken after my father and was the wimpy nerdy kid who never really fit in. So definitely not the alpha male (high school quarterback or whatever the hell that is) Thought when I turned 18 and became a scientist that my life would magically get better. Shocker when I couldn't do calculus and so was never able to pursue my ambition of scientist. Luckily I met a few guys who have become my absolute best friends. Without them I probably would have been way more likely to commit suicide as I probably would have figured by now I have absolutely no place in this world.

Now add in that at 28 a health problem I had had as far back as I can remember got way worse within the span of 2 years. I went from always being slightly twitchy from my neck down to being super twitchy almost all the time in my face. Did not, and still don't, deal well with it. Consequently took towards hitting myself out of frustration. I was about to be done with being alive in 2015 when I would be 33 if not for finally being told about botox Nov 2014. It made it manageable, even if the botox only really works 100% for the first 4 out of 10 weeks. I've also in the past 2 years begun to see my arms, wrists, hands, becoming as bad as my face. No idea what causes this. No idea if there will ever be something better than botox. Probably not. It makes being physical in any way a problem as physical movements tend to aggravate it.

Also add in that my career went towards accounting when science wasn't an option and realize that I'm sort of a loser when it comes to accounting because I've hardly been an all star employee and often I find that coworkers are more a hindrance and source of frustration for me rather than a source of neutrality or even friendship. I also worked in retail / restaurant type jobs in my early 20's and when you work with the public it is true that it makes you more pessimistic towards other people more than people who never go through that.

I've also tried dating sites like match and eharmony and even dabbled in I believe it was called fetlife, but always seem to either A) find no women based on their profile that sound intriguing to me as all too often it seems their profile say the same things, and I'm not a fan of dogs, cats, smoking, boozing, kids, etc. B) I get scam emails, or C) when I do find a rare woman who does intrigue me she doesn't respond. I'm also a home body which doesn't help, but that is partly my personality, partly my health problem.

Throw in needing to go back to college after the first degree and having to work Wal-Mart 30 hours a week on top of that 2006-2008, then throw in a World of Warcraft habit from 2007-2017, and then having to work a part time job or be homeless 2015-2018, and a desire to eventually use the first degree and get a writing career going if I ever have spare time, which I don't, because I spend too much time looking at porn, and you finally understand why outside of my buddy's wedding in Vegas in 2015 and my paying Shaunna Ryanne for a session while I was out there and you see why I have had ZERO interactions with a play partner.

My libido just suddenly dropped off 2-3 years ago too. Really frustrating to find out that my best friends say that at 38-40 they are still going as strong as we were in our early 20's. I remember thinking at 15 if it ever starts to suck then what would be the point of living as at 15 kids stuff had finally gotten old hat for me and that in its place was being an adult and being able to orgasm. Way the hell better than Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. But I find out from talking to my friends that even in my teenage years I may have been a little subpar as they claim to have had no issues twice a day and I was only interested in it every other day. Now at 40 it's once a week if that.

Also, and I know I sound shallow, but if I were to be in a relationship with someone I would want it to be what you see with celebs. Beautiful, rich, the kind of furniture that Tickle Abuse had. I'm not good with my hands so hence no way to build that kind of furniture. I would need to have some money to be able to buy it from someone who can. I have thought well if I ever won the lottery....then I could become a clips4sale producer who would literally just about give away my clips because I know how expensive having a porn collection can be, and if I had won the lottery would I really need the money? I just can't see myself getting married to someone even if they're gorgeous now because age catches up with all of us. So I would prefer a playboy lifestyle of tickle fun. Also because I'm not too keen on sex. My best friend thinks it's just because I'm a virgin and if I had a taste I'd change my mind. I just don't really see myself naked with someone and have zero interest in ever having children, partly because of my health problem probably being genetic. Of course I could go for a girl who is really cool and a great partner and if she's a 7 or 8 out of 10 I only ever was a small town kid anyway and don't fancy driving nice cars even if I did win the lottery or living in a great big house.

Because of my health problem and general lack of feeling any sense of happiness in my life, I believe that especially if I never get going on writing my novel that once my nephew hits 18 or thereabouts I may just put an end to it. See him grow up and then leave him with whatever money I manage to have saved away in the next 12 years or so. Who the hell wants to live past 70-75 anyway? Granted 70 is 30 years from now for me.

Hello ladies in Michigan I’m a man that loves to tickle women. I’ve been dreaming of finding women that want to be tickled, please message me back if your interested.

I never did get any. Yes I have dated, but of course most people are not into it. So there were a few girls that tickled me once they knew I liked it, but I don't think that's the same as someone who is really into it doing it. And most people I found don't like being tickled either, unless it's in a light, playful way.

How do I cope? Good question, because it's very frustrating. I think I cope by finally coming to the TMF, not that I didn't come here before, but back then all I did was look at things. Now I'm finally reaching out to others.

I don't know if I'll ever meet someone here I can meet in real life, but at least this is a good place to be for the likeliness of that to happen. I can't think of a better place!

natscott6282 said:

MEMORIES

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What do MEMORIES have to do with it? What do you remember??? Oh I see, this is a three year old post. Then how the hell did it come up again???? Well I think it's still very relevant.

Session Girls helped me tremendously. Here is a list of the models who offer tickling sessions...

https://sessiongirls.com/?sfid=7612&_sfm_about=Tickle Wrestling

You can click on someone you like and see if their coming to your area. It's expensive but been a lot of fun as nothing beats the real thing.

NHTickler41M said:

Session Girls helped me tremendously. Here is a list of the models who offer tickling sessions...

https://sessiongirls.com/?sfid=7612&_sfm_about=Tickle Wrestling

You can click on someone you like and see if their coming to your area. It's expensive but been a lot of fun as nothing beats the real thing.

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Echo this sentiment. Expensive? Yes! But gorgeous women who are willing and no judgment.

Watching tickling videos, looking at tickling art/comics, chatting about it with others in the community. Anything tickle related helps me cope.

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Whilst I love play, for me it's not everything!

When I go to events and munches, it's a chance to see old friends, have a pint, chill out, unwind, relax, go on vacation.

Play and fun are special, but it's the real life connection that I crave the most, the banter, the camaraderie, feeling that you're part of something, if play happens, then fantastic, but I never make it the be all and end all!

I'd much rather converse, over a cheeky pint and a bowl of fries than anything else!

natscott6282 said:

MEMORIES

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Oh I get it now, you think about past experiences? Yes I can see how that can help you cope! I often think about mine too. Not much tickling, but there was still a lot of good stuff! I remember a lot of feet, for instance...

Roleplay 100% of the time, mostly because I have never had a session or authentic tickle session