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MILF? Wtf?

MaxSpeer

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Am i getting old or does anyone else find the term MILF really insulting?
 
Am i getting old or does anyone else find the term MILF really insulting?

As a foreign speaker I am not sure if it is my place to say, but we are not talking about something that will end up on anyone's driver's license. It is a word that is used to describe a porn category where the word "fuck" is used quite liberally. It is not an objective evaluation of anyone's merits or anything. Just like a word like "slave" is used in BDSM without its historical connotations, or in our community "tickle torture" is not ACTUAL torture.

I think in MILF, there is also the guilty pleasure of desecrating the somewhat holy figure of the "mother" as well as the irony of saying a rude word without actually pronouncing it, thanks to the acronym. Like "WTF" in your title.

By the way, you're not getting old: you're just becoming a classic :D
 
When I was in my last year of secondary school I witnessed another guy use the term milf as an insult because he didnt know what it meant.
 
All I know is if I were a female of a certain age I would find it objectifying and insulting. I don’t like the term.
 
A good friend of mine in England is a very young (middle class) grandfather as his somewhat anarchic daughter had a child at 17.

She and her son's father are still very happy together and the kid's now a terrific nine year old.

Said friend's wife is a very beautiful, educated woman who joked that she'd feel better about the whole premature promotion to grandma if she knew she'd always be considered a 'GILF'.

But that's the British for you.
 
I think if it's insulting to anyone....it's the child! The mom might be flattered, but the kid would be mortified! lol

I'd be curious to hear from producers whether or not they find that term sells more clips because I can tell you it's always a turn-off for me, automatically. I see that in the title, in the Video Clips section, I skip the thread, not interested at all. If I'm going through a clips4sale page, I cycle right past anything that says MILF. And just to clarify: there are lots of "insulting" words that they can have in the title that don't bother me....it could say "Slut Tickled" and it wouldn't drive me away. There's just something about MILF that is a turn-off.

Now, on Pornhub, EVERYTHING is labeled as "MILF" I've noticed. Dacy Lynn is labeled MILF. Audrey Dupree is labeled MILF. I think it's kinda wishful thinking. I don't know why imagining fucking (or tickling) someone's Mom is a turn-on, or why that makes a clip somehow more appealing. Somebody's WIFE, I can see that! lol. Somebody's GIRLFRIEND, even better. But somebody's mom.....nope.....automatic buzz-kill.... at least for me.

This is a wild guess....but I think most of that kind of thing is for people where the only women around are either moms across the street, or the local teenage students. And family members. Hence, all these fantasy clips about moms, and tickling sisters and aunts and Dad/Daughter shit. Poor bastards.
 
I find it humorous that all the "MILFs" referred to are younger than me! :p
 
Since the term has been around since American Pie came out in 1999 and you are are now offended I'd say it's probably due to this new fake outrage cancel culture pandemic raging across the globe. When the right people get offended by porn because it's offensive to women and want to cancel it you will change your tune.
 
The term's a bit crude, although it's less insulting than "cougar", but as has been pointed out, WTF is used fairly often, and most people don't get all bent out of shape about it.
I don't use the term myself, because there are so many other words out there that are more precise.

But i'ts baffling and more than a little comical to me that guys can turn squeamish and pearl-clutchy at that very idea that a woman who's had a child is still sexually attractive, and maybe even (horrors!) sexually active.
 
A good friend of mine in England is a very young (middle class) grandfather as his somewhat anarchic daughter had a child at 17.

She and her son's father are still very happy together and the kid's now a terrific nine year old.

Said friend's wife is a very beautiful, educated woman who joked that she'd feel better about the whole premature promotion to grandma if she knew she'd always be considered a 'GILF'.

But that's the British for you.

GILF is a term that I never heard before and never contemplated either. :eek:
 
The term's a bit crude, although it's less insulting than "cougar", but as has been pointed out, WTF is used fairly often, and most people don't get all bent out of shape about it.
I don't use the term myself, because there are so many other words out there that are more precise.

But i'ts baffling and more than a little comical to me that guys can turn squeamish and pearl-clutchy at that very idea that a woman who's had a child is still sexually attractive, and maybe even (horrors!) sexually active.

For me, I have no problem with sexy women who are moms. I think - in terms of porn, or tickle videos (since we're in TD, and not GD) - when I see the term MILF it just conjures up an image of an older fetish model, with fake boobs and a caesarean scar! Don't ask me why! But that's always what I assume. OR....a 20-something, or 30-something model who doesn't conjure up "mom" either. It's like.....the term never "matches".

It can be insulting to the model because it sort of implies (to me) that they're "over-the-hill" or something.

I've never once heard the term used in real life. I've never heard a guy say "Look at that MILF". I've heard guys say (and said, myself) a million other things: "babe", "hottie"....."hot mommy"......never heard "MILF". Seems more like an internet thing.

It just seems like a lazy way of saying "sexy woman".
 
MILF (which I have heard in real life) sounds a lot better than some of the other descriptions you may see, but I'll let the men here ("well if I was a woman...." - but you're not...) hash it out for us
 
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Prior to American Pie, my buddies and me referred to a hot mom as a “yummy mummy”. Then the film came out, and that term was lost forever.
 
This discussion sounds a lot like the one about whether referring to a female as a girl is a problem.
 
Since the term has been around since American Pie came out in 1999 and you are are now offended I'd say it's probably due to this new fake outrage cancel culture pandemic raging across the globe. When the right people get offended by porn because it's offensive to women and want to cancel it you will change your tune.

I’m pretty sure it’s due to the fact that I’ve matured enough to have compassion to women who are objectified so often. The whole “mother” thing is very creepy.
I’ve changed. Don’t blame the culture. I now can’t watch videos where the single camera angle is right up a woman’s crotch. I find that insulting as well.
The thing I’ve always loved about tickling is the interaction of people. I want to see their face and their laughter not their crotch.
So the whole MILF thing creeps me out. Also it’s like saying “she’s not a 20 something but she can still be hot”. This f*cking society pisses me off.
 
Many find it a compliment - a woman who has their home life, work life, finances together and still has time to take care of herself.



At the beginning of the video, a sign says "mom i'd like to follow" but I feel like they put that because the real words might have to get blurred in some cases. It's not a song that's going to get her into the National Recording Registry of the Library of Congress or anything, but it showcases a different implication than that which is being discussed here. Plus, I think it's cool that most, if not all, of the women in the video are mothers. :)

Just some food for thought that maybe there could be a more positive spin on the connotation. And again, everyone has their own viewpoint on it, so it's a trivial thing at the end of the day perhaps :shrug:
 
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Maybe I’m just a prude these days. I’ve done enough crazy-ass sexual shit in my life up to this point to start a new chapter. &#55357;&#56842;
 
Maybe I’m just a prude these days. I’ve done enough crazy-ass sexual shit in my life up to this point to start a new chapter. ��

Nah, you're good. I'm like that with some words too. Maybe it's a writer thing. There are definitely better ways to describe a woman than with crude acronyms haha.

At the very least, it was interesting to read everyone's feelings about it.
 
For fome reason I'm now wondering if anyone has used it in the wrong context becduse they thought it meant something innocent.
Like when someone put "Lol" on a letter after someone died because they meant to say "Lots of love."
 
What's problematic about it, I think, is its built-in implication that it describes an exception to the category -- that most mothers are, by definition, not people that I'd like to fuck, but this mom has remarkably somehow managed to elude her otherwise essential unsexiness. It's a distinction that's not as pervasive among dudes, which is why you don't hear as often about DILFs.
 
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