Question for those 35+

I am currently 34 and will be turning 35 next year. I am just a generation older when all the foot/tickle content hit social media and did not have sessions until the last couple of years. I have yet to have a non paid session. My question for those of you 35 and up: Are you able to have sessions with people you meet or include it in your dating life if you are single? I am wondering if I missed my chance in my 20's. I know people will respond, it is hard anyway, at any age. I am just seeing if anybody has had sessions 35 and up or is it just time to pack it in before the train really left the station.

I'm 33, no issues so far.

Short answer: It's not too late.


I've been lurking since the 90's and will be fifty this month. My first session was two years ago. I'll be doing another one after my birthday.


I'm also married to an awesome woman - who is not and never will be into this fetish. So we talked - a *lot* - and we came to an agreement about how and when I would play.


Most of my sessions havre been with people I've met on either TMF or Instagram and have not been paid sessions.


I don't believe this urge to do what we do goes away with age, so keep putting yourself out there, and you'll be pleasantly surprised.


The time to stop is when it either becomes a burden or boring.

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LOLOL that's too funny xD

No, not at all. Just the opposite I’d say, it’s a great time to be open about what you like.
I’m 44 and from the U.K., I remember a time when even being attracted to someone of the same sex was something people were scared to tell their parents and our prime minister at the time John major talked about homosexuality as a kind of deviance and an affront to family values.

We’ve come a long way very quickly and are becoming more progressive all the time, if you laughed at someone who decided they want to identify as a tiger you’d be looked at as quite intolerant, so I wouldn’t worry to much about telling people you like tickling when you start dating.

On a personal level, I was massively embarrassed and repressed about it for the longest time, refusing to tell anyone I was in a relationship with, in fear of the humiliation of their reaction. After a failed marriage I started dating again at age 36 and thought, fuck it, I can’t carry on like this. After a few dates, when things looked to be heading that way I just told them I was into tickling feet and waited in terror for the reaction.
Honestly not one person has ever laughed, been horrified or even confused. Even had people tell me that it was nothing to worry about, as they could obviously tell I was stressed about telling them, and that compared to what ex’s or other people had mentioned on dates with them, my kink was pretty vanilla.

All that fear and imagining of a humiliating or hostile reaction I’d built up in my head for years stopped me from having a normal life and the actual reality of it couldn’t have been further from the truth. Get out there and enjoy life and good luck.

I’m 45. It’s never too late.

Cheers, everybody,
SmashTV

Happy birthday in advance!

I’ll be 55 next week and can almost always find someone to tickle, at least every month or two (except during these Covid times). Although I know you're straight, I'm a gay guy and while all of my lees and lers have been men, I don’t think age has much to do with it, I think it’s more the connection and similar tickling interests. I’m not sure I can offer any specific advice other than to cast a wide web, so to speak, and get your profile and interests out on as much social media and dating sites as you can.

Also, here's a short video of a straight gay being interviewed -- he mentions he likes to tickle girls while having sex with them. He seems pretty confident about it! That part of the conversation starts around 1 minute 11 seconds:

https://www.gayforit.eu/video/838939/Fuckalicious-Dude

Maybe it's a Nike thing and you "Just Do It."

Thanks for the responses everyone. I thought was done once I hit 35

I had my hay days in my late 20's early 30's. But later in my life was a combination of depression and medical issues that caused me to fall out of my regular tickling fun. Doesn't mean I don't still try!

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I had my hay days in my late 20's early 30's. But later in my life was a combination of depression and medical issues that caused me to fall out of my regular tickling fun. Doesn't mean I don't still try!

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I am hoping I had my depression battles in my twenties and early thirties and got it out of my system. Then my hay days can be the rest of my life.

Whoa, guys, depression? Please get whatever help you might need. You’re important, you’re amazing, you’re unique because you’re you.

Everyone deals with their own version of depression, even the happiest of people, but the way thru it is to first love you and then to love others. Be loving and the universe will make a path for you.

Heck, I love you and we’ve never met. ��

thundergatti said:

All that fear and imagining of a humiliating or hostile reaction I’d built up in my head for years stopped me from having a normal life and the actual reality of it couldn’t have been further from the truth. Get out there and enjoy life and good luck.

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65 in a few months. I grew up in the pre-internet wilderness, so until the late 1990s apart from a few letters in various publications such as Penthouse, Penthouse Forum, Human Digest and the like, which I thought were fictional, I felt I was the only deviant on earth saddled with such a ridiculous fetish. I had a few experiments with willing girls from the 70s to the late 90s between bouts of more 'acceptable' frolics, and I like to think they enjoyed it, but to keep things to what I thought would be an acceptable level I kept both the bondage and the tickling fairly light.

And then in the early 2000s the Net, in an embryonic fashion, arrived

So think about it, Oh Youth Of Today. Imagine no TMF, no Fetlife, Tinder, Dan Savage or any meaningful way of finding anyone except by starting conversations, unless by placing or answering a personals advert in the newspaper, all correspondence via snailmail. No Shibari workshops, no Fetish Clubs or Conventions, no bondage tutorials on a then-nonexistent Youtube. No Pornhub. No holidays at Hedonism II in Jamaica.

And no videochat to discuss things with a new friend safely and from a distance.

This is not merely a dribbling senile old fool talking- you really DO have it easier.

I can only reiterate the excellent advice offered by the excellent Mr. Thundergatti-

Get out there and enjoy life and good luck.

Thank you for the kind words Libertine.
That actually means a lot coming from yourself, I always take the time to read any of your posts regardless of the topic as I’ve always found you to be very wise and always willing to take the time to help with generous advice.
Take care my friend, much respect to you and hope life treats you well.

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I am currently 34 and will be turning 35 next year. I am just a generation older when all the foot/tickle content hit social media and did not have sessions until the last couple of years. I have yet to have a non paid session. My question for those of you 35 and up: Are you able to have sessions with people you meet or include it in your dating life if you are single? I am wondering if I missed my chance in my 20's. I know people will respond, it is hard anyway, at any age. I am just seeing if anybody has had sessions 35 and up or is it just time to pack it in before the train really left the station.

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I am almost exactly the same age as you: I'll turn 35 in a couple of months

I am not sure I understand your question. I don't think there is some kind of intangible deadline existing out there; or to be more precise, I don't see why there would be. So, short answer: no, it's not too late

Libertine said:

65 in a few months. I grew up in the pre-internet wilderness, so until the late 1990s apart from a few letters in various publications such as Penthouse, Penthouse Forum, Human Digest and the like, which I thought were fictional, I felt I was the only deviant on earth saddled with such a ridiculous fetish. I had a few experiments with willing girls from the 70s to the late 90s between bouts of more 'acceptable' frolics, and I like to think they enjoyed it, but to keep things to what I thought would be an acceptable level I kept both the bondage and the tickling fairly light.

And then in the early 2000s the Net, in an embryonic fashion, arrived

So think about it, Oh Youth Of Today. Imagine no TMF, no Fetlife, Tinder, Dan Savage or any meaningful way of finding anyone except by starting conversations, unless by placing or answering a personals advert in the newspaper, all correspondence via snailmail. No Shibari workshops, no Fetish Clubs or Conventions, no bondage tutorials on a then-nonexistent Youtube. No Pornhub. No holidays at Hedonism II in Jamaica.

And no videochat to discuss things with a new friend safely and from a distance.

This is not merely a dribbling senile old fool talking- you really DO have it easier.

I can only reiterate the excellent advice offered by the excellent Mr. Thundergatti-

Get out there and enjoy life and good luck.

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I can relate. Damn near 60,and lucky enough to be married to someone who tolerates me. Yes, it has gotten easier, but accepting that this fetish is a part of who you are is what makes getting older, better.

In my (admittedly limited) experience, tickling continues to be a viable part of romantic relationships regardless of age. What I've found is that tickling outside of romantic relationships -- from platonic friends, playful coworkers, even flirty acquaintances -- recedes substantially as one gets older.

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I'm 41 and I'm thinking I left it too late. I'v only just started exploring my interest in this and so far have had no luck at all finding ladies to get to know in the UK. I've talked to a couple but then got ghosted. So I'm on the verge of giving up. It's nice to hear that older guys are managing to find people but that isn't my experience so far.

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In 2006 at the age of 51 I married my 24 year old lee (a beautiful dancer with the English National Ballet) and we're still together and still happy, touch wood. When I met her I'd been divorced for five years and had nowhere to live. Yes, it sounds incredible and I still wonder how it happened, as we simply chanced to be sitting at adjacent computers in a Denmark St internet cafe and got chatting.

Your problem with getting ghosted, Curious George, is that you're hunting online. You may not even have been talking to real women.

If I hadn't gathered my almost nonexistent courage and struck up a conversation with the girl next to me nothing would have happened at all. I'd sure as hell had uncountable romantic failures before then, (including two failed marriages) interspersed with a few temporary successes.

You still have time but don't let it run out.

Start talking to women IRL, anywhere you meet one to whom you feel attracted.

Unfortunately it's a numbers game just like sales.

Just keep reminding yourself that every rejection moves you one step closer to success, and then lick your wounds (and they will be legion) and try again.

It won't be easy, often you'll feel like an idiot, and I guarantee you'll get shot down in flames a lot but eventually you'll strike gold.

'Sometimes'

Sometimes things don’t go, after all,
from bad to worse. Some years, muscadel
faces down frost; green thrives; the crops don’t fail.
Sometimes a man aims high, and all goes well.

A people sometimes will step back from war,
elect an honest man, decide they care
enough, that they can’t leave some stranger poor.
Some men become what they were born for.

Sometimes our best intentions do not go
amiss; sometimes we do as we meant to.
The sun will sometimes melt a field of sorrow
that seemed hard frozen; may it happen for you.
-Sheenagh Pugh

http://www.sccenglish.ie/2009/01/som...nagh-pugh.html

I'd have to agree with others that as years go by, it may actually become easier for you. People who have felt compelled to "hide" in their youth will sometimes get more of a "what's the worst that could happen" attitude and be more open, more daring, and less judgemental about something as relatively tame by comparison as tickling. I've been thinking about a variant of this exact topic a lot lately (many miles cycling and many hours on a tractor gives a man time to think). In youth, we have the invincibility of thinking we will live forever. In later years, we have the invincibility of knowing that we won't live much longer. I, personally, found a lot of tickling to be done in high school (innocent childsplay) and college (experimenting out on our own for the first time). In the 20's and 30's was where potential partners were otherwise getting married and having kids and such, where having "silly fun" was replaced by adult responsibility.

Now, deep into my 40's, I'm much less inhibited about, well, everything. However, I'm also much more cynical about humans and detest human contact, physical and otherwise. However, I'd be far less reserved about bringing up the topic of tickling with a woman of interest now than I would have been even five years ago. I'll be dead sooner than later, so why should expressing my interesting in tickling beautiful female feet be something I find pause with? Especially considering some of the other things I have to suffer through hearing about while I go about my daily business and people assume that because I choose not to speak to them that I must be a stupid, deaf-mute that they can simply speak freely near and their rather, let's generously term them, unconventional sexual proclivities. Having to listen to a barely-twenty-something guy with a twat-knot (man-bun?) go on and on about how much he loves having sex with girls during their periods, while in a professional working environment that in non-pandemic times has numerous visitors touring the facility, was far more than I needed to know about any co-worker.

In my admittedly limited experience, age will not be a defining factor for your exploration of tickling, as long as you are sufficiently open-minded to the vast possibilities open, honest communication can afford you.

I'll be 50 in a few months. My first tickle session was with my 37 yr old girlfriend when I was 22. I had a handful of sessions with women I met in the mid 90s, when I was in my mid 20s.
I tickled over 30 different models in the 5 years(2009-14) I produced tickling content in my early 40s, but that doesn't count.
I married a woman in 2005 who wanted me to tickle her when we dated, but then turned around and said tickling was a "mental illness" that I needed therapy to "cure" in the weeks after we were married.
Since my divorce in 2011, I've had a handful of tickle play sessions, all with women I met thru TMF or FetLife. I recently began dating a woman who is somewhat ticklish (6/10?) and she is enthusiastic about me tickling her.
I have been more willing to be very frank about my tickling interests with women I date and I have seen them become more accepting of it as time has passed. So, for me, the opportunities to play and include tickling in my relationships have increased as I have aged.

Slightly older than you, still in my 30's, and just launched a tickling studio on C4S in July. I say dive in and experience everything ya can without hurting yourself