I'm 41 and I'm thinking I left it too late. I'v only just started exploring my interest in this and so far have had no luck at all finding ladies to get to know in the UK. I've talked to a couple but then got ghosted. So I'm on the verge of giving up. It's nice to hear that older guys are managing to find people but that isn't my experience so far.
In 2006 at the age of 51 I married my 24 year old lee (a beautiful dancer with the English National Ballet) and we're still together and still happy, touch wood. When I met her I'd been divorced for five years and had nowhere to live. Yes, it sounds incredible and I still wonder how it happened, as we simply chanced to be sitting at adjacent computers in a Denmark St internet cafe and got chatting.
Your problem with getting ghosted, Curious George, is that you're hunting online. You may not even have been talking to real women.
If I hadn't gathered my almost nonexistent courage and struck up a conversation with the girl next to me nothing would have happened at all. I'd sure as hell had uncountable romantic failures before then, (including two failed marriages) interspersed with a few temporary successes.
You still have time but don't let it run out.
Start talking to women IRL, anywhere you meet one to whom you feel attracted.
Unfortunately it's a numbers game just like sales.
Just keep reminding yourself that every rejection moves you one step closer to success, and then lick your wounds (and they will be legion) and try again.
It won't be easy, often you'll feel like an idiot, and I guarantee you'll get shot down in flames a lot but eventually you'll strike gold.
'Sometimes'
Sometimes things don’t go, after all,
from bad to worse. Some years, muscadel
faces down frost; green thrives; the crops don’t fail.
Sometimes a man aims high, and all goes well.
A people sometimes will step back from war,
elect an honest man, decide they care
enough, that they can’t leave some stranger poor.
Some men become what they were born for.
Sometimes our best intentions do not go
amiss; sometimes we do as we meant to.
The sun will sometimes melt a field of sorrow
that seemed hard frozen; may it happen for you.
-Sheenagh Pugh
http://www.sccenglish.ie/2009/01/som...nagh-pugh.html