Sexuality

I'd venture to say that for most of us, there's a sexual component with tickling. For me, it's everything. I'm a guy in my late 20s, and for most of my young life I wasn't a "sexual being" at all. Porn has never done anything for me. I had never sexually fantasized about women. It's not that I wasn't interested in women though. I had women I found attractive and had desires for them, but not sexually. I'd desire a romantic relationship. The things I'd fantasize about would be stuff like bonding and falling in love. My lack of interest in sex did grow a bit uncomfortable within me, like I'd question why I'm like this?

I explored it and found myself looking into asexual information. I found a description for a heteroromantic asexual. Basically what it means is that you're all in for the relationship and everything that comes with it, really into falling in love, but you just don't have interest in sex. For a bit I thought this was the perfect description of me. That's before I factored the world of tickling into things.

I've always had a soft spot for tickling, but for most of my life I shoved it away because it felt like taboo to admit to myself. Well, a few years ago I explored those feelings. I found this site eventually. I dove deep and realized that tickling has awakened me sexually. I think about finding a woman and falling in love and then I think about tickling with her and it just makes me soar.

I talked about this on an asexuality forum and they jokingly said "You're asexual...except for when tickling is involved, then you're a sexual beast." It's quite literally the only thing I can fantasize about that gets me aroused in a split second. Not sure how I got to be like this, but I'm trying not to fight it!

Yes, honestly I'm like this too and really understand that. My life trajectory is a little bit different, because I basically never tried to hide for myself my love and desire for tickling, because it's just too obvious and too strong. But over the years I hit upon this asexual label, I read about this more and now I identify as asexual heteroromantic. I Identify with this label, but I'm not too much attached to it, so when someone would try to question my belonging to asexual spectrum, then fine, whatever. But I still find this label useful and still find a lot of commonality with some people who feel like they're belonging to asexual spectrum too.

Just wanted to agree that I think most of us here on the forum, myself included, find tickling to be highly sexually arousing. Has always been this way for me; both tickling and seeing women’s feet. I have no explanation for why these two things affect me in such a sexual way, but they do and I’m still learning to embrace this part of myself and not suppress it. I think your desire to find a partner who appreciates this side of you is something to pay attention to and listen to. Just like someone with homosexual tendencies can’t choose who they are attracted to, I think the tickle fetishist/foot fetishist can’t choose who they’re attracted to in this particular realm. Thanks again for sharing here and I hope you know that you’re definitely not alone with these feelings you have. There are many of us in the same ‘boat’. Have a great weekend TLM

I think basically that for some people tickling is foreplay and for others (such as myself) it is the main event.

WheresThe Clip? said:

I think basically that for some people tickling is foreplay and for others (such as myself) it is the main event.

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That's a really good way of putting it. I may use that sometime. Thanks!

Everyone is different I identify as non-binary, but I'm attracted to cis-men. Generally, I don't take on a gender role. But when it comes to tickling, I'm a hardcore lee. It isn't necessary for me to be sexual, but it sure helps the situation. It does have to be a part of the relationship, somehow, but it doesn't have to be anything specific. I just like playful people in general

Same here- never been interested in sex, although I partake in it mainly for my partner's benefit. I don't think I identify as asexual because I still get turned on by anything to do with tickling a girl- and that enables masturbation and sex. It's just that, like many of us, at some point some wires got crossed, and now tickling turns me on instead of the usual sex and naked girls' bodies.

WheresThe Clip? said:

I think basically that for some people tickling is foreplay and for others (such as myself) it is the main event.

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Yes, that's a very clarifying way of looking at it.

And I come to the conclusion that for me it's foreplay.

I think the common thread here is we like tickling but don't focus on traditional sex. I have other fetishes but I'm far from being asexual, I just feel out of my zone regarding it. If anyone wants to try "fixing" that I stay open but I'm used to regular tune-ups and a dating theme. I consider myself an idiot because this and probably other factors have never allowed me to have significantly long term.

Tickling is part of the sexual act for me. I cant be aroused without it in some way. Never could. Sex doesnt seem as intimate or fun without it. Just how my mind ticks...

I guess I would be classified as a 'hetero-romantic Asexual'. I have no sex drive so I have never cared about sex (I am not sex repulsed though), but I am turned on by tickling. I have sexual desire in regards to tickling itself, but I don't have sexual attraction. If I were to have to have sex to get to some tickling, I'd consider sex to be the foreplay. Sex is the equivalent of playing a video game or reading a book for me, just an activity to do if my partner wants to. But tickling is much more than that.