Po Lazarus
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- May 24, 2011
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Hello All.
So here's the thing. I already have an account on the TMF, and have had almost since it first went live (Ticklingforum.NET, anyone?). The forum is like an old friend to me, even though since being in a long-term relationship I use it far less than I did when I was a single, insecure youth. I'm blessed in that I have a wonderful partner who accepts me for who I am and what I am, and that extends to her even having her own account on this site, which we have used for a variety of purposes down the years.
And therein lies the challenge within the blessing: I can no longer use my age-old account to be totally honest about how I feel about tickling, both within our real life, and within the arena of fantasy-based writing. I have created this new account so that I can freely discuss both for a limited time, and I will be doing so, with time, in the appropriate areas of the forum. I know that this sounds duplicitous, and honesty is the best policy in a relationship etc etc etc. However, there are legitimate reasons for my doing this.
Firstly, my partner and I are struggling with sexual issues at present. I have always placed a high value on the community in this forum when it comes to discussing people's problems where tickling is involved, and I have been wanting to do so for a long time now, as I know from previous experience how helpful the members of this site can be. My partner and I need to discuss our sexual issues in an open and honest manner, and we will do so, but I really want to know what others have done in similar situations to ourselves, as that is the great thing for me about this tiny little slice of the internet: people here 'Get it'. I am an introvert when it comes to sexuality, and don't feel comfortable either disclosing or discussing my kink with any of my friends or anyone else close to me. I know I can do it here without judgement, and maybe get my head a bit more straight when it comes to this part of my life. Once I have done that, I will feel more equipped to have the conversation with my partner that I have been meaning to have for some time.
The other, more minor reason for a new account is my fantasy writing. In the past I have posted pieces of writing - pre-relationship - which I have been fortunate enough to receive compliments for here on the TMF. These were often based on people I knew or situations I had experienced in real life. However, since being in a relationship I long stopped feeling comfortable with the idea of writing about real-life people, for obvious reasons. Due to the current pandemic, my partner and I are living apart for a prolonged period, as I have had to move in with and care for a family member who is terminally ill, and needs to shield entirely from the virus. My partner couldn't come with me because she couldn't leave her job. This has meant that since I have been here I have been using the TMF more than I previously did, and my partner is pragmatic about the fact that I am a man with natural needs as far as desire goes. So one thing I have been 'using' is the stories and true stories forum. But it has made me miss writing myself. I am gearing up to write a book about a real-life experience that I have gone through (It's a long story, quite literally) whilst I am here, which is likely to be some time, and I have found that writing erotic fiction has helped to sharpen my craft a bit, like a dress rehearsal in preparation for the live performance. I only really have one pretty epic, ridiculous fantasy story that I have had in my head for years, so I figured it was a shame just to write it, and not see what people with the same interests as me think of it. As I've said, long-term this won't be something I'll do, but I'd like to do it whilst I am here and have this time to use the forum in this way. Almost as a throwback to my late teenage years when I first discovered the forum.
Anyway if anybody has bothered to read all this, Thank You, and I may see you elsewhere on the forum
So here's the thing. I already have an account on the TMF, and have had almost since it first went live (Ticklingforum.NET, anyone?). The forum is like an old friend to me, even though since being in a long-term relationship I use it far less than I did when I was a single, insecure youth. I'm blessed in that I have a wonderful partner who accepts me for who I am and what I am, and that extends to her even having her own account on this site, which we have used for a variety of purposes down the years.
And therein lies the challenge within the blessing: I can no longer use my age-old account to be totally honest about how I feel about tickling, both within our real life, and within the arena of fantasy-based writing. I have created this new account so that I can freely discuss both for a limited time, and I will be doing so, with time, in the appropriate areas of the forum. I know that this sounds duplicitous, and honesty is the best policy in a relationship etc etc etc. However, there are legitimate reasons for my doing this.
Firstly, my partner and I are struggling with sexual issues at present. I have always placed a high value on the community in this forum when it comes to discussing people's problems where tickling is involved, and I have been wanting to do so for a long time now, as I know from previous experience how helpful the members of this site can be. My partner and I need to discuss our sexual issues in an open and honest manner, and we will do so, but I really want to know what others have done in similar situations to ourselves, as that is the great thing for me about this tiny little slice of the internet: people here 'Get it'. I am an introvert when it comes to sexuality, and don't feel comfortable either disclosing or discussing my kink with any of my friends or anyone else close to me. I know I can do it here without judgement, and maybe get my head a bit more straight when it comes to this part of my life. Once I have done that, I will feel more equipped to have the conversation with my partner that I have been meaning to have for some time.
The other, more minor reason for a new account is my fantasy writing. In the past I have posted pieces of writing - pre-relationship - which I have been fortunate enough to receive compliments for here on the TMF. These were often based on people I knew or situations I had experienced in real life. However, since being in a relationship I long stopped feeling comfortable with the idea of writing about real-life people, for obvious reasons. Due to the current pandemic, my partner and I are living apart for a prolonged period, as I have had to move in with and care for a family member who is terminally ill, and needs to shield entirely from the virus. My partner couldn't come with me because she couldn't leave her job. This has meant that since I have been here I have been using the TMF more than I previously did, and my partner is pragmatic about the fact that I am a man with natural needs as far as desire goes. So one thing I have been 'using' is the stories and true stories forum. But it has made me miss writing myself. I am gearing up to write a book about a real-life experience that I have gone through (It's a long story, quite literally) whilst I am here, which is likely to be some time, and I have found that writing erotic fiction has helped to sharpen my craft a bit, like a dress rehearsal in preparation for the live performance. I only really have one pretty epic, ridiculous fantasy story that I have had in my head for years, so I figured it was a shame just to write it, and not see what people with the same interests as me think of it. As I've said, long-term this won't be something I'll do, but I'd like to do it whilst I am here and have this time to use the forum in this way. Almost as a throwback to my late teenage years when I first discovered the forum.
Anyway if anybody has bothered to read all this, Thank You, and I may see you elsewhere on the forum