How open are people to telling their friends about their fetish?

[thewickedspoon]

I love my friends to death but I've never been able to tell anyone how into tickling I am. Even though it's relatively tame compared to other niche fetishes out there, there is an element of control and bdsm to it and Ive been reluctant to share that part of me thats really into that stuff. Keeping all this in has been kind of hard sometimes.

I guess what Im asking is how did you first tell someone that this was what you were into? Were you nervous? How did they react?

 

[The Depths]

I haven't really told anyone yet, besides a few women I've dated and even then -- it never got illuminated to it's full extent. I'm currently working on being more open about it as I attempt to find a partner as the last of my young years pass -- I want to fully enjoy my sexuality and not have the regret of being too awkward to tell my partner (when/if I ever find one) what my needs are. As for telling "friends" -- some things are best not shared with people that have no business in it. Case and point, another thing I really enjoy besides tickling is doing all sorts of erotic things to nipples -- I wouldn't tell a friend or coworker "hey, by the way, I really love teasing women's nipples" -- you know? But hey, if you want to tell them or you think something positive will come of it, you could very playfully say "oh man, have you guys ever heard of a tickling fetish/tickle porn?" And they'll say "what???" And then you can pull it up on your phone (probably a more tame video) and while everyone is laughing or whatever, you can just announce "I think I really like this stuff! It turns me on!" And that can be a lighthearted way to break the ice. Just my .02

 

[The Depths]

I wanted to elaborate further from my original post: Everyone will react differently; some people may think it's bizarre and sick, some people may think it's cute, some people may think it's really sexy and some people may be unphased. A tip I discovered is "IT'S ONLY AS AWKWARD AS YOU MAKE IT."

The first time I ever told someone, I was very nervous and building it up like this huge dark secret and it came out like "I... I am really... turned on by feet.... and tickling them..." and I came off like a total freak.

In later encounters, when hitting on women I would just confidently say shit like "you are literally perfect from head to toe -- even your feet are sexy." And they'd be like "...my feet...?" And I'd confidently say "yeah, I think your feet are sexy and I don't care if that's weird." And I come off so cool that THEY feel stupid for making a big deal about it. When it comes to the tickling thing, when the relationship has evolved into sexual territory I usually say "hey, what are you into? And don't be shy or think I'm going to think you're weird, I like weird stuff myself." And that usually leads them to ask what I like and I preface it with bondage and enjoying seeing my partner squirm and then I just confidently and non awkwardly assert that I really like tickling. Most of the time, as long as YOU aren't coming off weird or nervous when you have these discussions, people seem fine. They just chalk it up to one of the many kinks that exist.

 

[gnomes101982]

I wouldn't tell friends. You don't know how they would react and once it's out there it can't be unsaid. I don't want to hear the "well if they are friends they won't think anything of it," or "friends should be supportive of your interests." That's a bunch of fluff nonsense. They are human beings and will form an opinion and it may not be the one you hope it is. Either way, once it's out there, you can't take it back.

 

[BlasterMaster]

NONE of my friends or my girlfriend's friends know of our love of bondage and tickling.

As far as we're concerned it's none of their business what we do in the bedroom.

 

[Mitchell]

I have three "vanilla friends" who do not have this fetish.

Two of them have been consistently in my life for many years. Those two guys know I belong to this site, and they also have hot sisters, and I've discussed their sisters feet with them a couple of times.

Another guy came back into my life a few years ago when we found each other on Facebook after many years. He has no idea.

The reason he does not, is that sometimes he has a bit of a "Wise " personality so to speak, and might post it in places I would not want it to be posted , or tell people I would never want to know, such as my relatives.

The two guys who do know have fetishes themselves, although not feet or tickling.

My motto, you know who you can trust with what.

 

[gnomes101982]

I love my friends to death but I've never been able to tell anyone how into tickling I am. Even though it's relatively tame compared to other niche fetishes out there, there is an element of control and bdsm to it and Ive been reluctant to share that part of me thats really into that stuff. Keeping all this in has been kind of hard sometimes.

I guess what Im asking is how did you first tell someone that this was what you were into? Were you nervous? How did they react?

If this is a question about a girl you're into, don't tell her yet, just go for it with her feet. Women don't admit it but most love having stuff done to their feet. Start off feeling her whole body up then gently rub her feet. If she gives a smile or pleasurable moan, you're in. Keep softly rubbing then throw in some very sensual tickling. If she likes that, suck her toes and she will melt in your palms.

 

[chicago]

It's always awkward bringing it up, but it's better to be straightforward than playing games or trying to drop hints. In my opinion, that's usually a more complicated and drawn out process. Why waste more time and invest more emotional energy than you have to on someone that might be completely repulsed?

Bring it up before things get too serious. Feign confidence, be a little nonchalant, smile, avoid the word "fetish", and if there is a negative response, hopefully no one's caught feelings yet and you can keep it moving on to the next one. Gets easier the more you do it.

First vanilla person I told was a high school crush when I was 17. I told every potential significant other after that and another vanilla friend or two over the years. It's really no big deal. The nerves and anticipation are worse than the actual convo.

Just try not to act nervous or ashamed. I feel like it tempers the following conversation to be kind of negative.

 

[Wolf]

I've only told people I've been in or expect to be in an intimate relationship with; a few friends have asked, and I've not denied it, and a few have figured it out on their own.
No one except a very unpleasant ex ever gave me any grief about it, or shared it with anyone else, unless it was for my benefit.

 

[Yote]

I don't bring up my fetishes to friends and haven't told any of them yet. If a friend brought up the tickling fetish to me first or in a less likely scenario, admitted they had it themselves, it's still a maybe, and that wouldn't guarantee I'd admit it myself. I'd chose to tell people I was in a relationship with or hooked up with. Though I never told my ex boyfriend while we were together, which I kind of wish I had.

 

[Gothika]

Not very much..very few I have told..they are cool with it...I won't just tell anyone tho

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

A carefully selected handful of people know of my fetish for girls feet and for tickling and yes some of those people are women. I don't go into detail of my experiences as to what happened/happens, that might make for an awkward conversation. I just mention that to me its a release for myself and the person I'm with at the time. After all laughter is the best medicine albeit briefly.

Some people have their vice whatever it maybe. I choose tickling for two reasons laughter and because it feels amazing even when it stops because you're nerves are dancing all over the places