It was really hard for me to be assertive and direct with folk when I was younger. I wanted people to like me and I felt like if I didn't go along with things or if I said 'no' or anything negative, that I wouldn't be liked / welcome / part of the group / etc.
This would sometimes lead to a lack of honesty or lying about my true feelings and then to a situation that could have been a lot less hurtful if I was just forthcoming, as difficult as it may have been, from the beginning.
It can still be hard at times to be what I feel is my authentic self these days due to sensitivities running high. It makes me reconsider participating in activities or discussions because it can feel that there are only certain ways one can express themselves or think and still be accepted by the group. This can vary based on environment but seems to be polarizing one way or another.
I know I kind of went on a tangent there. I guess I'm just trying to say that, for me, it feels best when one can be honest without fear, but at the end of the day you have to look at yourself in the mirror.