It was a 21 and up BDSM play party where I first met him. I had brought a bottle of Seagrams Gin and we noticed we were the only ones drinking on it. I had a group scene that night where I was played with and eaten out by multiple people. He really wanted to join, but felt uncomfortable since we didn't really know each other. I watched my now husband sound himself later that night and got intrigued when he said it could be done to women too. Next party we had chatted via FetLife and he sounded me plus ate me out at the same time during the party. Later we had a smaller scene where he put me in a hogtie via leather cuffs and tickled me. We started dating, lived together for a few years, and then we got married, but nor because we believed in the institution of marriage. We married more out of necessity because I no longer had any health insurance plus there were a lot of benefits we couldn't get just living together.