So some of you may notice that I post in the personals every once in a while or maybe I’ll hop in the chat room for a short time. But there is this weird and off putting trend I keep getting the bad part of and I’m not sure why. It doesn’t matter whether I instigate a conversation with a woman or whether they message me this is how it goes:
Me: Hey how’s your day going?
Them: Hi
Me:... (after thinking of another conversation starter) So, I read this in your profile I think that’s really cool.
Them: thanks!
Me: (thinks again) ... tries to say something funny
Them: haha yeah.
Me: stops trying.
Keep in mind that this isn’t always me starting the conversation... about half the time it starts with a “hey” from them and then I’ll ask them how it’s going and it’s all one word and two word responses from there from them. I hate to generalize and I know I’m going to get some push back for this, but there is some kind of issue going on with communication on this site. I have a feeling it stems from creepy people preying on others and it’s making them not want to interact as much or be as open as they want to be. All I can say is that it’s a real shame because this is a great community and there are great people here. I was lucky enough to meet someone here a while back and had a good relationship, but it feels like things have went a little bit downhill. Maybe I’m completely off base here and it’s just my hideous looks : p , but I’d really like input from women especially, just to see what they think about this and if this is a real thing and if it’s a result of bad treatment. Honestly, I never really had much trouble starting conversations and friendships here until a few months ago and I’m not sure if it’s just me or what. : / I hope not. This isn’t meant to be insensitive, I’m just a confused male.
Me: Hey how’s your day going?
Them: Hi
Me:... (after thinking of another conversation starter) So, I read this in your profile I think that’s really cool.
Them: thanks!
Me: (thinks again) ... tries to say something funny
Them: haha yeah.
Me: stops trying.
Keep in mind that this isn’t always me starting the conversation... about half the time it starts with a “hey” from them and then I’ll ask them how it’s going and it’s all one word and two word responses from there from them. I hate to generalize and I know I’m going to get some push back for this, but there is some kind of issue going on with communication on this site. I have a feeling it stems from creepy people preying on others and it’s making them not want to interact as much or be as open as they want to be. All I can say is that it’s a real shame because this is a great community and there are great people here. I was lucky enough to meet someone here a while back and had a good relationship, but it feels like things have went a little bit downhill. Maybe I’m completely off base here and it’s just my hideous looks : p , but I’d really like input from women especially, just to see what they think about this and if this is a real thing and if it’s a result of bad treatment. Honestly, I never really had much trouble starting conversations and friendships here until a few months ago and I’m not sure if it’s just me or what. : / I hope not. This isn’t meant to be insensitive, I’m just a confused male.