You are absolutely right. I'm using the HER app and it let's you have a "Kinky" pin on your profile, but I'm taking out the part inviting people to ask me about my kinks, as I now think that's too forward.
I pretty much just have it on my profile that I'm kinky and if they want to learn more to just ask. I'm not walking around with a neon sign saying I'm into tickling, I'm not on that level of confidence at all yet.
I am now being upfront about being into tickling with women I talk to on dating apps. Its not the only kink I have, so I can ease myself into doing this by mentioning tickling among the other stuff I'm into. The cool thing about dating apps is that if they're not into the idea, they can just...