I definitely know what you're talking about. I love revenge tickling. I'm more of a tickler than a ticklee, so sessions where I do all of tickling is fine with me. Although I'll say there can be the out of balance feeling afterward. But I find I can strike that balance in other ways...
Mine was in high school in the 80s. It was a classmate who I tickled frequently and she tickled me back. I eventually floated the idea that we should try tying and tickling each other. She was game. We were in high school so obviously lived with family so we had to wait till one of us got...
Semi-public... I had a girlfriend who laughed quite loud when tickled. I liked to tickle her in hotel rooms and tease her that everyone near us would know how ticklish she was.
I definitely prefer 3 or 4. If she hates it, it's not fun for either of us. I personally love a bit of defiance. When I was discussing safewords with one tickle partner, she looked at me quizzically and goes "I don't need that shit". I'd threaten another girlfriend with tickling when she got...
One of my favorite moves in coming up behind her and putting her in a bear hug, my right hand is on her left rib cage and armpit, my left hand is on her right rib cage and armpit, and just dig in. She's trapped since I've got her wrapped up like an anaconda and she can't really fight back...