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What to Expect at a TickleSIG

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This was written by the lovely Albertina who is on FetLife, but not on here.

We get MANY questions from the uninitiated, new, and curious about what goes on at a Black Rose Tethers and Feathers, Tickle SIG (Tickle Special Interest Group).

This question has many answers; those answers are dependent on the time of year it is, who is in attendance, and the interest the individual attending the event has.

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What is the Black Rose TickleSIG?

The Black Rose Tickle Special Interest Group (SIG) is also known as Tethers and Feathers and can be found at the following website:

Black Rose: Tethers and Feathers

You do not have to be a Black Rose Member to attend but it is always recommended you have Membership with Black Rose.

As part of the Black Rose, there is no alcohol consumed at BR TickleSIGs.

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Who attends the TickleSIG?

We have newbies and seasoned kinksters. The group is very welcoming and non-judgmental; we want you to feel at home. Due to the fact that there is no pressure to play and that people are just fun to hang out with, you may find yourself putting the TickleSIG on your calendar every month, either because we make a lot of BACON and cookies or because our attendees are a hell of a good time. We want to welcome you to a fun, lighthearted atmosphere that is full of humor and variety, with people that are open-minded and looking for new ways to play.

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Time of Year: There is Summer and the Rest of the Year.

SUMMER: So why do I say it that way? Well during the summer, we potluck and start off at our Hosts’ house. This means you will find yourself hoping that you are knocking on the right front door. Don't be afraid; we don't bite unless you ask. The house has a pool so bring your suit and towel, because we generally all swim or at least get in the pool sooner or later. Our Hosts’ provide the drinks; soda and water. Bring a dish to share; protein is always a favorite and we ALWAYS have too many desserts. Hmmm, might be a trend that several of our local foodies don't have a problem with (although washing frosting off is a PITA.)

REST OF THE YEAR: The rest of the year, our group meets at a local restaurant that is put on the FET invite/event page; we will eat and get to know each other for about an hour before heading out to our Hosts’ house to play. The pool is closed, sadly, but that doesn't mean we don't have a damn good time. The break between the house and the restaurant gives you time to make a run for it if you find us to be total freaks!!

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OUR VENUE: Ms. PamelaPleases and TicklesYou here on FET are our hostess and host. For the most part, the house is open to us.

Upstairs there is a full bathroom and one bedroom that can be utilized in a more private setting; both have lockable doors, our hosts prefers that you do not utilize those locks for safety reasons. Close the door if you want privacy, when exiting please leave the door ajar so others know the space is available. Always knock, wait for an answer before entering a space. The bedroom is normally set up with a massage table and a Cross. The Master Suite and second bedroom are OFF LIMITS.

The Main Floor is where the cot (see COT below) is normally set up in the living room, please respect the furniture, cover all squishy parts before sitting on the upholstery; this is a public-play area and remember, no damp or wet swimsuits or naked bits. The Dining Room holds all of the food where we have lunch and/or nibble from throughout the party. The kitchen is a place to chat, have unrestrained play, or sometimes you will find some of us foodies in there cooking BACON!!!

The Split Level floor has a family room. Generally this area is used for quiet chat, foot worship and/or aftercare. Additionally it’s sometimes used to set up an additional cot if there’s a large group and an extra spot for public play is desired. As a reminder, please respect the furniture, cover all squishy parts before sitting on the upholstery, no bodily fluids in this area, and remember, no damp or wet swimsuits.

The Split Level also has a half bathroom and Dungeon Space; the Dungeon space is lockable but the same rules apply as above with the bedrooms but we have put some very large groups in the dungeon as well. The garage has recently been added as a play space during the Spring/Summer/Fall depending on the temperature. A cross and a cot can both be found in this area. When the door leading to the garage is locked, please remember that you are locked OUT of the house.

Backyard, where the pool and the lawn chairs and table are. Generally you will find us all out here during the summer. This is the only smoking area available. Please clean up your butts! and your butts.

In the past our Hosts have owned ferrets; please let someone know if you have allergies. We also have smokers that attend the TickleSIG; please bring an inhaler if you have breathing emergencies and make sure you inform those you are playing with of this condition.

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Getting to the Venue:

Most of our attendees arrive via car. However, some people who live in the city, this is not an option. The great thing is the Metro's Silver Line is now open and the Reston/Wiehle station is only 3 to 4 miles from the house. If you do not have personal transportation, please let the Host/Hostess know and there is usually someone who can pick up and drop off at the station.

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To Play or Not to Play

Not to Play: Please, by all means, get comfortable, hang out, meet people, converse, learn who we are and what we are all about. You will find friends and will have someone to talk to. Many people are not comfortable playing in public or playing for the first time in an open forum. We understand; many of us have been there. We are your people, so join us for something to eat and some good conversation. We will play around you. You’re welcome to watch or just get to know people away from the play area.

To Play: We always encourage you to play; if you are not comfortable in the open forum/public space, please ask one of our long-time members for a small-group or one-on-one play scene. They are at liberty to say yes or no, but you may be pleasantly surprised. We are all about negotiating what is comfortable for our newbies. We invite you to watch or even take part in public scenes that are going on; this is based on what the TickLEE (Lee) has outlined to the group as their limits. In a private scene, as a reminder, if the door is shut, knock first. If the door is locked or you get a busy signal, please don't invade on the occupants as they have chosen to play in a private setting.

The TickleLEEs, like any bottom are encouraged to set limits on who can tickle him/her, where he/she can be tickled on the body and with what s/he can be tickled with. Please see the Public Play, but those limits also apply to private play.

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Does more than just Tickling happen at the TickleSIG?

This is a resounding YES!!! We are the gateway drug for many new kinksters. Some people have called us tame, we are okay with that. Please underestimate us. :) It is so much more fun when you do.

Some other types of play have been known to happen at the TickleSIG: food play, electrical play, bondage, impact play, foot massages/play/worship, wax play, themed parties, knife play, temperature play, sensual play/massage/touch, rough play, pool play (with swimsuits on when it is light outside), and some Tickle Twister.

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House/Global Safe Words:

All in all, we are pretty good communicators and will generally check in with the LEEs we are tormenting, I mean tickling. However, during our events we utilize the universal lifestyle safe words:

Yellow - slow down; I need a break.
Red - STOP NOW!
Personal Safe Words - These should be communicated to the room if in public play, and to the individual or all players in small group dynamic.

Many of our attendees are seasoned players and ALL safe words are respected and acted on immediately.

However, some words are not considered safe words: GO AWAY, barking, and NO NO NO.

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The Cot

THE Cot: Many adore it; some abhor it. The first cot that was purchased for the SIG by one of Ms. PamelaPlease’ adoring fans. We used and abused that huge camp cot until recently, when a new cot was purchased. The cot is a two-person, capable of holding up to 600lbs, high-density camp cot that allows TickleSIG members to be secured in order to ensure that the Lers don't get hit by a flailing Lee. It is easily stored under a bed and has been a staple for the SIG for a while now. It even takes a trip to NEST on a yearly basis.

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Public Play

We have talked about the Cot. We have talked about safe words. You know the lay of the house. However, there is still the Public Play Dynamic that may surprise you. First, you must understand, the LEE has the ultimate say so, period. What they say goes; if they don't want purple unicorns with rainbow tails tickling them, then purple unicorns with rainbow tails won't be tickling them. If they say to keep it out of their private areas, then we respect that.

Many of our Lees strip completely or down to just panties/bra or just shorts. They will indicate what areas are "off limits." All attendees will respect those limits. No questions asked. It is up to the Lee how much clothing comes off or stays on. Either way, it will still be a blast taking part.

The Trust Standard for the TickleSIG is very important to us. If a male doesn't want other males tickling them, we respect that. If a woman only wants females tickling her, then that is her right. If you are asked to keep your hands to yourself, or a Lee excludes you, it is not personal. It is their preference and their right to have those bounds respected. If you walk into the room in the middle of a scene, please either ask permission from the Lee or their Dom/me, or wait until the next Lee is preparing to get on the cot and ask permission. It is not rude to ask the etiquette of the group from the Hosts if you don’t know. We are more than happy to share what is permissible and what is not.

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Aftercare:

Aftercare should be part of the scene negotiation, both public and private. Ensure that if you have any particular needs after a scene that those are made known to those around you.

With public scenes, the Lee will be offered water, wrapped in the sheet that they laid upon on the cot to keep them warm. It is recommended that if you need further snuggles or aftercare that you line that up with someone that is present prior to the scene beginning so they can assist you.

In private scenes as with public ones, aftercare details should be discussed in advance.

If you tend to come down from the endorphin rush at a later time, you need to ensure you speak with someone to get a ride if you need to depart or carpool with someone that can get you safely home. This person should be someone you know and trust.

Generally there is always food available if you tend to crash without the appropriate nutrients.

If you are new to the BDSM Lifestyle and don't understand about Aftercare, Drop, or Subspace, click here to learn more.

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Who Are You?

As I stated above, the TickleSIG tends to be a newbie’s gateway into the lifestyle. Many people come with doubts about who or what they are. At the SIG, you will find this is not a problem. TickleLEE, TickleLER or just plain voyeurs; everyone is welcome. We aren't going to try to define you; that is your job. This process is about exploring. We are loving our journey, and we want you to do the same.

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Who and what we aren’t: YOUR PERSONAL MATCHMAKER!

Don’t ask the group moderators or host/hostess if the TickleSIG has young, attractive, athletic people who attend. Especially if you are no prize, it just makes you an asshat. If you can’t pick these types of people up at other events or in day-to-day life, you probably won’t be able to do it at the TickleSIG either. We are not your matchmakers, and our group is well balanced in age, ethnicity, education levels, gender, body type, and physical attributes. This is real life, not the porn you find on the Internet. Please leave that frame of mind at home and come with a set of realistic expectations. If you are a pleasant person who gets along well with others, more than likely you will do the same here. We are a social, educational, and tickling Special Interest Group; if you are looking to hook up, try OKCupid.

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I would like to thank all of those that had input to this post. We are a cohesive group, but sometimes we need a single voice. This article is written in my voice but had many individuals’ thoughts, opinions, and discussion topics behind it. We hope our ideas are invaluable to those that are attending or considering attending.

If you have further questions, please feel free to message any of our Moderators here on FET. We would be more than happy to do our best to answer those.

Beware of frosting and bacon in a tickling scene. Just kidding--we use those things in bulk.

Hope to see you at an event soon.

I highly recommend if you're interested in this create a FetLife account. The group you will want to join is called Tickle DC. The host and hostess of the parties aren't really on here anymore plus it has changed hands. It is not run by the guy whom you see created most of the threads in here. I'm one of the few people who regularly attends the parties and is somewhat active on this site. Feel free to ask me questions if you'd like, but your questions would be better answered by joining Fet and asking one of the moderators of the Tickle DC group.
 
I love it! I'm fairly sure that if I bow to the pressure I'm getting from these folks on FetLife I'll be in attendance at the next one.
 
Sounds amazing! So going by the name are you guys in DC? Will have to intro myself on FetLife and start chatting and if all stars align and I'm in the area during a gathering, I can join :)

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