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What are/were your initial concerns about having a session?

bigdamnheroes

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For those of you who have never had a session, what are your main apprehensions about doing one besides safety? And for those of you who have had one, or several, were any of your initial concerns warranted? What was it that convinced you to take the leap?
 
I'm still awaiting to take part in my first session, which I actually have scheduled for next week. I'd say that my biggest apprehension is that I won't enjoy the act as much as I enjoy the fantasy or that maybe I won't like it at all. Sometimes, expectation and reality don't match, and that's my biggest concern. My second, smaller, apprehension that I've thought about in the past is that I might end up scheduling a session with someone who isn't a good tickler or that maybe I won't be very ticklish. I'll let you know if these concerns were warranted once I get through my first session.

As for what convinced me to take the leap? I'd say the desire to satisfy my curiosity is my best answer. After all, if my concerns end up taking a turn for the worst, the most I'll really be out of is some money.
 
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My only apprehension would be setting one up with a "stranger", or an online friend.
This is something I have never done, and probably never will.
(Though, I have been tickle tortured dozens of times! :)
However, it was only by the guy I was dating at the time - or, is done by a couple of my very close real-life friends.
Tickling is a very intimate experience for me, and it's not something I could schedule in advance, and meet up with someone for it that one time.

That to me, that is almost like a one-night stand type of thing.
If I am going to be tied up and tickled like crazy, it has to be with someone I feel very close with.

The first time I was ever tickle tortured by someone else, it was my Highschool bf.
And I was only nervous about what he might think of me for actually wanting him to do this to me.
But he agreed, and even liked the idea. So, I was really excited beforehand. And it was sooo fun <3

This is just something I could never, ever do "casually". Whether it be meeting up with an online friend, or going to a professional place. If i have never met these people before, I wouldn't want their hands all over me, tickling me into insanity. (As fun as that idea sounds ;) )
~~~ I feel like doing it that way, just lacks a certain type of required connection.
(( Maybe that's just me being weird about this, but that's honestly how I feel about it :) ))

For all you people who are willing to set up a session with someone else you've never previously met,
And be totally fine with it, more power to you! Have fun :)
 
I think just worried that people are not genuine when talking with me prior to a session. I tend to ease up on that when they talk with me after we have done a session and it's clear that they are interested in me as a person, too, and not just how ticklish I am.
 
I want to tickle someone who is as ticklish as I hope they are, and want to be tickled as much as I want to tickle them. It's a mutual interest.
 
I finally convinced myself to take the leap into a session as I had got old and wanted to be able to experience my fetish before I lost my fitness and ability. I'd spent my 20's trying to kindle friendships and experiences through various sites like the TMF and Fetlife but as the new generation of players came in, people moved on and I aged out.

Initially my concerns were definitely warranted. I had a few bad experiences, men showing up, 2 hour sessions lasting 15 mins, no tickling etc. Its taken me about two years to find somewhere safe and friendly where I can have a session and be happy.

Looking back over my time, really the advice for men and women is going to be different. Women will be looking for sessions through sites like the TMF and at parties where as men will be visiting escorts and mistresses.

For women when you find someone you connect with its very easy to dive in with the excitement. Several skype and face calls are helpful to confirm he is who he says he is. Good things to remember are safe, sane and consensual. Ask around to find out if he knows what he's doing, a good 'ler should be able to put you in touch with previous meets for example. Go at your pace and meet initially in a public setting of your choosing with a safety call (text a friend). He should listen to you and encourage scene negotiation, be comfortable with your wants and know his way around a scene from initial contact to after-care. What kit does he have and does he know how to use it? What experiences does he have with bondage? Safety? A good question to ask him is to talk about a time a session went wrong and how did he handle it, improve on it. Most importantly don't settle for second best, you hold all the aces in this game, find your dream experience. A fantasy is much better than a ruined reality.

With us guys we don't have the luxury of public soft meets and after-care. Its a nitty gritty 2 hours in and out and a 400 hole in our wallet. From experience, be selective, be prepared to travel and do not do this on a budget. Paying for sex can fall a long way down the social ladder and you do not want to go too low. A good escort or mistress should be open to your fetish, take the lead in helping you help her understand what you're after and ideally have previous experience. You can tell the good ones generally as they have really swanky apartments and session spaces in the best parts of town. Remember you are paying for sex, all things considered, its dangerous. Only take the money agreed and one form of ID, leave your wallet, car keys and everything else somewhere like a hotel. Be as laid back as possible so when something negative happens, like she rips you off, you just say thank you, and leave. Generally the room you don't get to see has a large local bouncer earning side money sat in it playing xbox, so be chilled AF. Always take a quick shower when you arrive (find out if she has a shower before hand) and pop a breath mint, even if you've just walked from the hotel. Be confident, know roughly what you want over the time you spend together and ask for it. When its time to leave, thank her and be prompt with your exit. Also top tip, always use the lift, a line of middle aged men every few hours up the stairs is a dead give away.

Have fun everyone! *drops mic*
 
My initial concerns were that I'd wet myself, or get my period, or something. Gross, I know. :eek:

But looong before I actually met my current tickle buddy, I had always been worried that I was too ugly and that I'd be rejected by every single ticklephile on the planet. Basically, I was worried that I would never get to session at all.
 
Getting raped by a hot babe.

Not cool. Rape isn't a joke. Some of us have had terrible experiences involving police telling us we deserved it, and emotionally taxing court cases.

Between this, and your assumptions on other threads, you're just a winner aren't you?
 
I worry some about not matching up on other interests. If I go to the trouble of meeting someone and letting them tie me up and tickle me, but they have other fetishes, will they be ok with that? And other way too, I have other fetishes, but if they don't, will I be satisfied with JUST tickling?
 
1. The ler not respecting my boundaries, and ESPECIALLLY the safe word.

2. I might not end up being as ticklish as I thought

3. I will end up actually hating how it feels and the fantasy won't match up
 
I guess my main concern is letting someone tie me down and they turn out to be crazy. I have an overactive imagination though. One minor and more realistic concern is that I'll go through the trouble of meeting up with a women for a session and she'll try to get me to give her money before we start. I know I could just leave but it's a real downer to know they aren't interested in you whatsoever and just want your money.
 
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Years ago, I went through a period of booking sessions and my concerns were that they wouldn't really be ticklish and just fake it (ala most tickle models in videos! lol). It was a mixed bag, though I did meet one that got so into it that she's here on the Forum to this day! And another ended up living with me for a week! So fairy tales can come true, it can happen to you.....!
 
I had many of the fears listed above. But I also wondered about where to meet - would the noise be too much for those nearby (if there was any); would there be an issue with bondage; would I have an asthma attack (always keep an inhaler nearby); would the ler enjoy it? would I enjoy it? So many fears were really unwarranted. Precautions should be taken, plan accordingly, and and let things happen is my motto.
 
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